Little background on me and my psychology. Three years ago or so I was in a relationship that had gone badly wrong. I was a mess, and my self esteem was at rock bottom. Then I ended it. Making that decision was the beginning of an assertion to sort myself out.

Among many things, part of that was working on my attutude to myself. NLP was helpful here. Another part of that was coming here to sort out my PreE. I gave PE a go too and much to my surprise gained half an inch or so.

Another part of my journey was being determined to get significantly better at meeting women. There's a long story here, but I never really had the nerve to pull off these PUA routines by rote. I had gotten my self esteem sorted though, and thanks to NLP I was able to redefine my attitude to rejection and failure and turn it into a positive learning experience.

Then last year, another relationship went wrong and left me heartbroken. I was ruined. But my self esteem was still up in outer space. So I decided, in pieces, to go out there and have as much sex as possible with as many women as possible.

It's gone well.

And here's the point of this entry. I've read a whole load of PUA material now, though I never felt comforable with the idea of performing these routines and mating rituals and so on, and despite what the sales pitches consistently say that you can't wing it... well, you can.

But you need a good bit of confidence to succeed.

So as I've said before, most of it's rubbish. The pitches are aimed at insecure guys. And the products will work a bit. But why? Is it because these "lines" are gold? Is it because you "negged" at the right time or shifted your eye-contact perfectly from eye to eye, then her lips? No. It's because the "system" gave you a prop, so you acted wih apparent confidence.

And that's all you need.

The old axiom goes that you just need to be yourself. Well, that's kind of true. But you need to be pretty damned proud of yourself first, because if you're not, being yourself is probably a BAD idea. But if you ARE, then you won't be concerned about yourself. You'll be interestd in her. You'll be honest about what you want, you'll have no fear or shame, no "approach anxiety" and you'll be choosing the action you want.

Why did I write this?

Because I'm sick to death of receiving emails about this stuff. Because I watched some sales video (a typical example) from a link in an email promising to "skyrocket my success" saying "Be honest, when was the last time you had sex? Last week? Las Month? Last YEAR? ... " ... as I'm saying to myself "umm... last night good enough?" ...

... and because I know damn well that this aggressive "you suck" approach to selling PUA material has a TON of vulnerable lads sitting there lapping it up, and frankly, I'd like to set the record straight.

... and because I know there's a bunch of you on here with low self esteem who are sitting targets for this sort of marketing, some guys here with messed up atitudes to women, a lot of guys confused about how much your dick size matters, and plenty of guys asking how to get some chick to go out with you etc etc.

I'm not saying that self-esteem and confidence is necessarily a button you can switch on or off, but I AM saying that these PUA guys are generally full of crap, trying to prise hundreds and hundreds of dollars out of you.

And it won't help.

Just had to get that off my chest. Hope it's interesting - and please feel free to shoot me down in flames