anxiety and girls

[Orgasmic19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Orgasmic19]

Hey, guys I tend to get anxiety or nervousness around girls that are very attractive. I never been one much for dating or let alone ask a girl out for a date. I usually get very nervous and turn red in the face to the point I can't talk or even approach a girl I find attractive. It usually takes time for me to get to know someone before I become a chatter box. I tend to have male co-workers and female co-workers I get along with and talk to but when it comes to a very attractive or cute girl I become tongue tied and lost for words.

I know it sounds dumb but I get to a point I become depressed because I don't know what to do. Any advice?

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

There just people like any other person. You should remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

For someone you think is very attractive, somelse will think meh.

Of course these points don't help you. I have to do presentations at work and even after ten years I still get stressed and nervous beforehand. So I'll tell you want I do.

I fake it. I put a front on and five minutes into the presentation, I feel great.

So put a smile on your face, head up, plenty of eye contact, stand straight and shoulders down and of course speak slower than you would normally. When your feeling any form of anxiety it's natural to speed up the pattern of speech and people pick up on this.

Also chew gum, not only will it keep your mouth fresh but chewing signals the brain that your eating. The primitive part of brain thinks if we are eating, there's no need for the fight or flight response the anxiety is causing. It tricks it, honestly it works.

[slunk Senior Member Member of the Month July 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close slunk]

Also chew gum, not only will it keep your mouth fresh but chewing signals the brain that your eating. The primitive part of brain thinks if we are eating, there's no need for the fight or flight response the anxiety is causing. It tricks it, honestly it works.

Wow, I've never heard of that before, do you remember where you heard that? I've gotta try it out, every now and then I'll wake up with some anxiety.

[Orgasmic19 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Orgasmic19]

There just people like any other person. You should remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

For someone you think is very attractive, somelse will think meh.

Of course these points don't help you. I have to do presentations at work and even after ten years I still get stressed and nervous beforehand. So I'll tell you want I do.

I fake it. I put a front on and five minutes into the presentation, I feel great.

So put a smile on your face, head up, plenty of eye contact, stand straight and shoulders down and of course speak slower than you would normally. When your feeling any form of anxiety it's natural to speed up the pattern of speech and people pick up on this.

Also chew gum, not only will it keep your mouth fresh but chewing signals the brain that your eating. The primitive part of brain thinks if we are eating, there's no need for the fight or flight response the anxiety is causing. It tricks it, honestly it works.

I have to try this especially the chewing gum part but you said I should fake it. What mindset should I have when faking it?

[closed251 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close closed251]

The chewing gum thing I heard years ago and I can't remember where. I just googled it and this came up first in the search engine.

» Chew Away Stress?

I skimmed read but I think it says positive effects of chewing gum. I can say it honestly works for me.

Regarding 'faking it' it's just thinking to yourself for the next five mins I'm going pretend to the outside world that I'm not shy, nervous etc and before you know it your talking and your focus is shifted from the stress and anxiety you felt at the beginning.

The mindset should be that your confident, valued person with something good to say.

[On The Rise Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close On The Rise]

Hey, guys I tend to get anxiety or nervousness around girls that are very attractive. I never been one much for dating or let alone ask a girl out for a date. I usually get very nervous and turn red in the face to the point I can't talk or even approach a girl I find attractive. It usually takes time for me to get to know someone before I become a chatter box. I tend to have male co-workers and female co-workers I get along with and talk to but when it comes to a very attractive or cute girl I become tongue tied and lost for words.

I know it sounds dumb but I get to a point I become depressed because I don't know what to do. Any advice?

I love this. You can radically change your outcome and view of women as being superior to you or that you are inferior to them. I'll touch on it in just a bit. But, first this natural for everyone, so there is no need to freak out or not know what to do. You just have to accept that this is normal and realize that all guys feel this way and so do women.

Are you into amusement park rides? If so, think of a roller coaster. One that you have never been on it. It is bigger and faster than any of the ones that you have rode previously rode before in your life (this is the girl that you are very attracted to and want to approach). This is the first time that you want to ride it. You go up to the line and notice that you are getting a little nervous, but you still want to go ride on it to find out how fun it will be (You have decided in your head that you want to go talk to her). As you approach closer and closer to get on the roller coaster you get a little more nervous each step you take (As you begin to walk towards her this is the feeling you get). Once you get onto it and strapped on, you begin to sweat a little and become even more nervous (Now you are right next to her). Off you go up the incline to the top (Now you turn towards her, your eyes begin to slowly make contact with hers). You heart starts to speed up and your start to get a little short of breath (Her eyes light up). Then you reach the top, the roller coaster begins to turn over to run its course to the bottom of the descent and back up another hill (Now words start to come out of your mouth as you begin to speak the first words to her) . As you are turning over you feel your stomach go up your throat, you try to scream, but you can't (You have finished your sentence and now it is time for her to respond to what you said, as you awaits to see if she will react in a positive and accepting way). Once, you reach the bottom you regain your breath and feeling and then you feel the adrenaline rush (excitement, joy, happiness, pure ass fun) (She responds to you and prolongs the conversation). As you go up each hill along the ride, you get the same feeling as the first hill, but it isn't as bad as the first hill. You are able to scream, raise your hands and enjoy the ride as you go around the course (The conversation between you and her prolongs longer and longer. Each word comes out easier, you lose the feeling of the nervousness in your stomach, you stop sweating and you feel that you could do this without even thinking about it). This is how I think of approaching a women. It seems nerve racking at first, but if you go up and start talking to her then the feeling goes away and your mind starts to concentrate on the conversation.

For you, you probably need to keep it simple. Just start approaching random women that you find attractive. You don't have to get their numbers or ask them out on a date. Just say "hello, how are you doing today?" After that becomes easier start to have conversations with them. Then once you do that then you can start to ask them for their numbers or to go on a date once you want to end the conversation with them. It may seem simple to talk about and way harder to do in person, but once you begin to do this it becomes easier in life to do it.

You really have accept that nervousness and really like it, as in it makes you feel good to get it. You have to trick your mind into accepting it. That's what I have done and I thrive for that feeling. It makes me feel good, because it is adrenaline.

So, next time you see a woman that you are attracted to. 1st. realize and accept the nervousness as how it makes you feel good 2nd. Go approach her and say "hello" and then build up conversation with that or go find another attractive girl to go say high to. The more women you approach in a day the less and less that nervousness becomes. It will still be there it just won't be as strong or you just start to use it as a means of motivation and to thrive off of.

[Chungungo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Chungungo]

I am not looking for relationships but honestly if the girl is not too hot or pretty for me I cannot get an erection after ejaculating the first time---

[Aussigymguy Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Aussigymguy]

I think becoming more confident is just repetition, the more often you talk to girls the easier it becomes, they're just humans the same as you just a slightly different anatomy, no big deal

[closed116 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close closed116]

Try speed dating to build your conversation skills with women.

[greg123 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close greg123]

Yo orgasmic how old are you?. And do you watch porn?. If yes for how long have you been watching?.

[VinC Banned Find all posts View Profile Close VinC]

Those guys who feel submissive around pretty gals need to understand that these beautiful ladies also need cock (a man) and they are as lonely as any other girl without a man. The only difference is that... these gals are approached by many guys and they know that they are beautiful.

Do you know what...... these gals will terribly get hurt when you start ignoring them in front of another girl. I mean... you give importance to other girl and ignore pretty gal HUGELY. There is no big punishment for any girl than ignoring them. Also, make it sure that you just not hooked up with any gal (keep yourself free) and see the power of your ignore.