I thought I'd write my personal story dealing with the demons in the hope that it may help people (and myself) deal with the issue of depression and anxiety as well as hopefully make some aware of what depression and anxiety ACTUALLY IS.
First of all. Depression and anxiety is not just feeling a little down, upset, angry etc, these are normal every day human feelings about our environment and our position at the time of feeling the mentioned moods.
So, here goes. My own experience dealing with the condition.
My life has been quite a bit of a roller-coaster ride in the 33 years I have been on this earth. I'm luck to be here in all honesty, I was born 2.5 months early and weighed a whole 2.3lb when born. But luckily I have some of my dad's genetics and stand around 6' and weight 90kgs at present, I have been upto 105kgs....another story.
I got married at a young age. I was 20 years old just about and things were looking good. I had the woman of my dreams, smart, sexy, fun, hauntingly beautiful and she adored me. I was in my band, we had a great group of friends and the sex was good, fun, spontaneous and plenty. What more could I ask for?
At 21 we had our beautiful daughter, things were still good, nothing really changed apart from we went abroad for my work, we had a very good life.
We came home for a while and then beautiful daughter no2 came. Things started getting more difficult, we went abroad again for work and we again did very well but we never had any time alone to go out, do things together etc.
We came home again and got regular work as the children needed to start school etc.
This is when things really went down. Money was tight, we still had no time alone and living life was getting in the way of our relationship. Evenings were reserved for sleeping only and the occasional months mechanical sex.
Then my son came along. The timing couldn't have been worse, we weren't exactly best friends and I couldn't remember the last time we had sex by the time I found out!
Fast forward 2.5 years.
We had little money, working harder than ever, still hadn't had time together, been out as a couple without the children once in 5 years, sex was a rarity and the arguments were becoming basic conversation.
All in all, life was hell.
I started to become very reserved, short tempered and completely uninterested in my family and work.
I wouldn't talk to people, laugh or do anything.
I started making sure I was alone, I wouldn't have my children around me, and my work colleagues decided I wasn't much fun to be around either.
My wife was telling me I needed help for some time and I saw it as an insult. I didn't feel that I needed help.
After a while, I started having panic attacks over going out of the house. I'd get them on the way to work, on the way home, I didn't want to come home, I certainly couldn't go to the shops to buy food or anything, that was a nightmare above all, that sent me into meltdown.
I would be in crying fits, uncontrollable tears, my face would puff up, my breathing would be so shallow and I'd cramp up with tension and wanted everything to end..... These would come from nowhere and I could be anywhere with anyone.
A friend of mine suggested I see a Dr. This was the first time someone other than my wife said I needed help. He came to me and said so, this wasn't in conversation. He was genuinely worried about how I'd changed.
So off I went.
I had a number of test and questions to do which were so hard, I had a breakdown when asked what was wrong?
I don't remember much about it but my Dr signed me off work for 5 months while I go through recovery.
I went on antidepressants, had counselling round 1 and although the pills stopped much of my breakdowns, along with the counselling, everything that sent me into this state was still there almost flipping me the bird every day and reminding me that they had beaten me and there was nothing I could do about it.
My relationship never got any better and the arguments carried on and basically, I slipped back into the same damn awful life I had always been living.
To be continued......
First of all. Depression and anxiety is not just feeling a little down, upset, angry etc, these are normal every day human feelings about our environment and our position at the time of feeling the mentioned moods.
So, here goes. My own experience dealing with the condition.
My life has been quite a bit of a roller-coaster ride in the 33 years I have been on this earth. I'm luck to be here in all honesty, I was born 2.5 months early and weighed a whole 2.3lb when born. But luckily I have some of my dad's genetics and stand around 6' and weight 90kgs at present, I have been upto 105kgs....another story.
I got married at a young age. I was 20 years old just about and things were looking good. I had the woman of my dreams, smart, sexy, fun, hauntingly beautiful and she adored me. I was in my band, we had a great group of friends and the sex was good, fun, spontaneous and plenty. What more could I ask for?
At 21 we had our beautiful daughter, things were still good, nothing really changed apart from we went abroad for my work, we had a very good life.
We came home for a while and then beautiful daughter no2 came. Things started getting more difficult, we went abroad again for work and we again did very well but we never had any time alone to go out, do things together etc.
We came home again and got regular work as the children needed to start school etc.
This is when things really went down. Money was tight, we still had no time alone and living life was getting in the way of our relationship. Evenings were reserved for sleeping only and the occasional months mechanical sex.
Then my son came along. The timing couldn't have been worse, we weren't exactly best friends and I couldn't remember the last time we had sex by the time I found out!
Fast forward 2.5 years.
We had little money, working harder than ever, still hadn't had time together, been out as a couple without the children once in 5 years, sex was a rarity and the arguments were becoming basic conversation.
All in all, life was hell.
I started to become very reserved, short tempered and completely uninterested in my family and work.
I wouldn't talk to people, laugh or do anything.
I started making sure I was alone, I wouldn't have my children around me, and my work colleagues decided I wasn't much fun to be around either.
My wife was telling me I needed help for some time and I saw it as an insult. I didn't feel that I needed help.
After a while, I started having panic attacks over going out of the house. I'd get them on the way to work, on the way home, I didn't want to come home, I certainly couldn't go to the shops to buy food or anything, that was a nightmare above all, that sent me into meltdown.
I would be in crying fits, uncontrollable tears, my face would puff up, my breathing would be so shallow and I'd cramp up with tension and wanted everything to end..... These would come from nowhere and I could be anywhere with anyone.
A friend of mine suggested I see a Dr. This was the first time someone other than my wife said I needed help. He came to me and said so, this wasn't in conversation. He was genuinely worried about how I'd changed.
So off I went.
I had a number of test and questions to do which were so hard, I had a breakdown when asked what was wrong?
I don't remember much about it but my Dr signed me off work for 5 months while I go through recovery.
I went on antidepressants, had counselling round 1 and although the pills stopped much of my breakdowns, along with the counselling, everything that sent me into this state was still there almost flipping me the bird every day and reminding me that they had beaten me and there was nothing I could do about it.
My relationship never got any better and the arguments carried on and basically, I slipped back into the same damn awful life I had always been living.
To be continued......
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