Penis Envy

[Darthic1 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Darthic1]

Whew!!!! Lets see. I realized in high school I was not one of the blessed ones when it was time to take a shower after football practice. Once I got to college it got worst but I never got teased for it I became more insecure than ever. I turtle a lot and that made it worst. My experience in sex due to I had quite a few gfs, did not compensate for my fear(s) and major insecurity. The older I gotten, the bigger I believe have it has gotten but it alwayz takes that one chick to comment on your penis size with her friends. This added to my depression and anxiety immensely. Going into the bathroom stalls and taking a shower after I work out is beginning to be more than a challenge. Not only that, I prolonged sex with chicks because my confidence is at an all tims low. Ive started looking at other men packages to compare mine which is awful. This is no way for one man to live!?!?! Please help!!! How does one overcome this and find happiness with ones self?

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Also to add and I know this is sad, but I always think girl that i hook up with exes were bigger than me. My insecurities bleeds through and they can see my confidence leaving me. sigh!!!

[Excellator Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Excellator]

You're not the only one. It's strange, realizing your penis is inadequate, inferior to other men. I believe it's the first major setback a man can have in life concerning himself. Isn't it a strange world we live in?

[rbi99 Retired Moderator Member of the Month Nov 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close rbi99]

What size are you? Now that you fully realize your issues, it's time to literally take your problems into your hands. PE is not only about making yourself bigger, but it also helps each of us to get a new perspective. You will hear this a lot, but a dude hung like a horse who has few skills in bed looks real good, but it ends there. A guy not so gifted who knows how to make his partner feel important and knows how to fuck may not look real good, but it just starts there!!!

[rbi99 Retired Moderator Member of the Month Nov 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close rbi99]

Just because some of us were gifted in the size department doesn't mean that we don't have our own issues. What is important is that each of us need to face those issues with realistic goals in mine to ease them or end them completely. Simply feeling sorry for ourselves accomplishes only one thing - it makes matter worse every single time. You are now taking those initial necessary steps to help yourself. That alone should make you feel better.

[closed224 Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2014, Feb 2017 Find all posts View Profile Close closed224]

What are your measurements? Definitely go to the START HERE button at the top left of the page. Learn to safely grow your penis. WAY MORE IMPORTANTLY change your inner dialogue to one dispositive messages about yourself and your penis. Good luck, enjoy.

[Darthic1 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Darthic1]

Measurements:

NBP 5.5
BP 6.5
girth 4.5

I've gain a little girth within last 2 weeks though. Thanks for the support guys. I have not other insecurities other than that but it has cause me a lot of grief, especially in relatonships. I lack mental discipline because this and even though Im very skilled in the oral and foreplay skills dept(ive been told), I become insecure the longer im with someone smh

[Raven89 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Raven89]

8 incher here, sometimes I have penis envy, but to celebrities and pornstars... most of the girls I dated claim they've never been with anyone like me prior (except one girl), and a couple of them even tend to miss me even tho they¡re dating another guy, but anyways, while I like what I have (and I would like to have even more), sometimes it's not enough to develop a more deep relationship, and the ones my age tend to dump me for older or more mature guys...
I wouldn't change having a large dick for any other attractive trait anyways, but I would like to add something else to my personality that makes me go further teenage-like infatuation from the girls I date...

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

You can get to the point to where you decide, once and for all, to STOP being a slave to your fears! The choice to worry, fear, and dwell on "what ifs", is by an large a voluntary one- though not always easy to control.

You deserve dignity. You have to give yourself that dignity first, though.

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let me get this correct Raven, you rather have a deep relationship than to have chicks infatuated with you? I wish I had your problem? Congrats. I never had that luxury. I agree, of course i wouldnt change a thing(e.g. Penis evny) but have ever had doubts that the chick you were intimate with was screwing someone else while you wasnt around? Why would you? Keep doing what you do and believe me, one of your options will connect with emotionally.

[Raven89 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Raven89]

exactly, what i want is more like a "come for the dick, stay for the love" situation...
and yeah I never got cheated so far, but TBH I got dumped because inmaturity, agressiveness, taking for granted, jealousy and other shit...

[Darthic1 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Darthic1]

raven89..... I dont believe you! Its hard for me to image that with my 6.2-6.5(on viaga days) dong but if you say so.... Either way, I rather be in your shoes. I can assure you, chicks didnt leave for you for your (cough, cough) lack of confidence. You jealous! please eloborate. My best friend is well endowed and he always says, " Chicks cant get enough of it!) Not a jealous bone in his body and he is not the attractive fellow. Me, on the other hand, my insecurites bleed thru because of dudes like you(no offense). You are blessed!!!!

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sorry raven89, just a tad bit jealous!!!!

[Raven89 Member Find all posts View Profile Close Raven89]

haham, yeah I'm a bit of the classic "jealous boyfriend" myself (no bullshit), my last ex was long distance and was way too in love with me at first: same musical tastes, almost same age, lots of experiences in common, emotional connection, besides well, she never saw a dick like that previously (dont know now)...
yet I wasn't that in love yet, it took me several months, it was hard to get to see each other, and not having her around most of the time (plus anxiety problems due to drugs, that I'm now overcoming), with so many friends that drooled on her (cute, curvy, nice smile, big boobs), I was too jealous, aggressive and mistrusting (just to find out later she didnt care about anyone else than me), that drew her away claiming that she still loves me, I'm a wonderful man but too inmature, and she can't deal with that now, because she needs something more stable, as she has a daoughter, no job and we're in different countries...
anyways I'm hoping to improve myself back into the man she fell in love with first and one day (not now, but given some time) work things out, as she never did any wrong to me, I admit I took her for granted and didn't treat her that well in the last weeks, but I never had a connection like that with any other girl (except one),but I guess she needs another type of man now, older, more mature, successful and classy...
I'm not that type of guy and don't care being so, to me, there are other areas in life to improve (not talking about sex or my dick jaja)

[jockinthebox Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close jockinthebox]

While I do believe whether consciously or subconsciously guys with a "shower" flaccid Dick (I'm assuming that's what your discussing specifically, OP) are more confident (at least those who learn to deal well with it), I also think because less than 20% of males are "showers", it makes "penis envy" a REAL and quite common affliction among the greater male population, whether it's admitted or not.

I know from my own experiences in locker rooms from jr. HS through adulthood, I've had guys (many of whom were friends & teammates) tell me privately they wished they had a penis that hung like mine. I was a naturally born "shower" and because I played 4 sports from the time I was in grade school, it was "evident" I had more between my legs than others. I was also taught humility about being "different", because speaking from the opposite side of the fence OP, it can be a little unnerving to have other guys actually make comments to your face or within ear shot about something physically you have no control over. It's not unlike having a birthmark or other physical abnormality that sets you apart from everyone else. Learning to deal with it is what's MOST important, regardless of which side of the flaccid extreme you happen to land.

I fortunately have always had a somewhat flippant jovial personality that helped me cope well with teammates who made jeering or snide comments about my cock out loud in the locker room. I learned to "disarm" them quickly, but without leaving wounds that wouldn't heal (verbally). It's a topic well worth discussing IMO, because confidence is a male attribute that's a LOT more attractive to most females than even a PORN-sized Dick. Having BOTH is truly a GIFT, lacking BOTH is a wound that's TOTALLY self-inflicted.

Learning to accept our bodies with ALL its assets and liabilities (yes, we ALL have them) is when we reach a "balance" that not only women, but males will envy. It's called being comfortable in our own skin, and it will manifest in what's known as "confidence". There's NO FAKING IT, either. Call it penis envy, or anxiety, or feelings of inadequacy, it's ALL in YOUR MIND. NOBODY CARES...least of ALL WOMEN! Learning to accept yourself is the only "CURE."