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    Quick rundown, before November 2016 I was a hornball I would have sex at least 3 days a week, and in each day it would be around 3-5 sessions. I would get pretty rock hard every time, same woman. November 2016, had serious stress taking my finals since I'm about to graduate as a mechanical engineer. I met up with my girlfriend, and started to kiss and touch and all that, I could NOT get hard. She was giving me a BJ and couldn't get hard.. eventually I got a semi hard and inserted and got hard and finished the job.. I freaked out.. I just freaked out that night and my girl calmed me down and said I was tired.. Well next time around to seeing my girl I just had a bad experience and couldn't get hard AT all. I just panicked, I tried to masturbate to open and couldn't get hard I had massive anxiety. I stopped sleeping (I have had insomnia history for 2 years back in 09-11). I started to become so depressed around Dec 2016, I cried and was super sad that I couldn't get hard. I told my father about my issues and he said it was all psychological, he said neither side of his or my mom's family had history of ED. It calmed me down, and my girl was there, and I put my arm around her and got an insane boner after that talk with my pops. Had sex, and its almost as if my depression went away for a day or 2. Next time around, I see my girl, start getting anxiety if I could perform, I just think about my dick.. every moment in the month of December I just thought of my dick if it was going to get hard.. I didn't get any random erections, my morning erections wouldn't appear and if they did they were semi hard. Well.. My girl (been with her for 7+ yrs) just says that she won't leave me because of that and she will help me.. Well every other day I attempt to have sex and slowly I get a little confidence and get semi hard/hard.. once I penetrated I usually got fully hard. Well, even after some successful sex sessions, all I could do was just think of my dick and why it doesn't randomly get hard...or why I don't get strong morning wood anymore. January 2017, I see the doctor and my cholesterol is in the 270 range and my testosterone in the 400 range. Doctor says I'm fine, just to exercise a bit. I'm 6 feet, 197 lbs, and can rub about 1.5 miles in 15 minutes, bench around 255. Doctor (mohit khera a renowned ED doctor here in TX) says that I need to take cialis daily and strong vivo just so my mind comes off my dick and why I'm not getting hard. I refuse to do it. Months pass and I'm very depressed all I think about is why don't I randomly get hard, I get anxiety thinking sexual thoughts, I get anxious when I see my girl.. I used to get hard just seeing my girl cuz I knew it was sex time. Well in those months my erections got slightly better I could now get a for sure erection every time I was with my girl and had sex 2-3 times the day we got to have sex.

    One thing I noticed was when my girl started to push me off when I was grabbing her (clothes on) as if she didn't want sex, I had raging boners like seriously rock hard and I told her that whenever she would deny me, I would get very hard and want her more and more, the more she denied having sex/me touching her ass or tits, the harder I got.

    Anyways, around summer 2017 I took all kinds of supplements, pycnogenol, strong vivo, maca, l arginine, etc etc, literally hundreds of dollars.

    I decided to take cialis, and the first week had no effect. After the first week I would get some serious boners, rock hard (5mg daily) and would notice my morning wood was back when I was on cialis. I stopped taking it since I only had 30 tablets.

    One thing to note is that I can get hard if I masturbate to porn when back in December I couldn't at all. I panic less if I don't get hard now and my anxiety has dropped a good amount. I kinda think "fuck it I don't care if I don't get hard anymore" recently to see if my issues are psychological. The ED doctor assures me that no morning wood it's psychological.. The thing is I can get an erection (pretty hard) now.. But I struggle a bit, maybe 2-4 minutes. And I still have a hard time having sexual thoughts (because I notice I don't get an erection right away). But since around March til now October, everytime I have had sex with my girl I have managed to get an erection 2 to 3 times during sex.

    One thing I noticed back in December was that after running or exercising, I would get erections. Now I get a semi hard erection after exercising. At this point, if cialis helps my body release nitric oxide, maybe I have bad circulation? I mean I still worry about my erection quality, sometimes when. I have sex it is not as hard as I would want. But after having sex, or knowing I can still get an erection, I feel pretty happy for maybe a day or 2. Sometimes after having sex, the next day I get morning wood but goes away somewhat quick. Everyone tells me it's psychological but why don't I have morning wood or random erections as frequent or of better quality?? My pops says it's my cholesterol clogging my veins to my penis.. not sure though.. But why would cialis make my morning wood come back.

    At this point I have been training myself to just think sexual thoughts even if I don't get hard, and not get anxiety. I just need some input from you guys and see what you guys think? I get erections but I don't get them anymore looking at girls in school..which maybe due to having anxiety thinking of having low quality erection. But if my problem is psychological why is my libido suffering and morning wood much less frequent and quality of erection lower?

    Thank you so much for reading this I tried to be as specific as I can and I can answer any questions that you guys have. Please would love some feedback! Been looking around the forums and decided to join. I am 24. I have prayed to god, and gone through a severe depression which I feel like I am getting out of, I think less about my erection and if I randomly get an erection now.. I guess that's progress..thanks guys!!

  • #2
    Having read what you're going through, I think your hunch is right: this seems psychological. Now, I am no authority on this, so take what I say with a grain of salt...

    It seems like your anxiety is to blame. It is a vicious circle of classical conditioning: sexual acts were paired with anxiety, and now sex is causing you anxiety. Serious anxiety and libido never mix well. While Cialis will likely help, it might be worthwhile meeting with a therapist. They might help you investigate your anxiety, so you can curb this issue. I'd imagine some form of systematic desensitization might help. It is commonly used with phobias and a few other anxiety disorders.

    Your penis is likely fine. Focus on overcoming that anxiety, and things will start looking up. Still, remember to check with your general practitioner if you think something is off, and don't be afraid to get a second opinion. Health, whether physical or mental, should be your first concern!
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    Last edited by CaptainJohnson; 10-10-2017, 01:19 AM.
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    • #3
      Thank you for replying!! Do you think the psychological issue might affect my low quality erection in the morning? I know I won't go back to normal immediately it will take some time.

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      • #4
        Your story is not at all uncommon. What appears to happen is one negative incident creates a fixation. The fixation itself then becomes the problem.

        If you're able to get erect in scenarios where there's no pressure to perform then your penis is very likely healthy. Progressively easing back into sexual scenarios with a trusted partner is typically the best way to resume activities.
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        • #5
          Thanks for your feedback. My concern now is that why are my erections of lower quality whenever I get a random erection, or if I get morning wood. Is it possible that even if this psychological, it manages to affect my ability to get proper morning wood?

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          • #6
            If you've been stressing out about your erections to the point where your dopamine and even your hormone levels are depressed, this can have a severe effect.
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            • #7
              I stressed out and constantly thought about my erections and morning wood from November 2016 up until August 2017. I still do but every now and then, then I masturbate I get an erection and forget about it. I'm guessing that would cause some issues? I am very grateful for your replies!

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              • #8
                Glad to help.

                If you're convinced there's nothing physical wrong with you (and from the text you've written there likely isn't), then making a concerted effort not not dwell on your penis' performance should help you to resume a healthy mindset.
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                • #9
                  Every doctor said I'm physically fine just have high cholesterol. One other thing is that I tend to be uninterested in sexual acts, but when it comes down to it I always managed to have sex and get an erection...would that also discern back into my mindset and is a result of constantly being fearful of sexual activity when I first experienced this anxiety?

                  Cliffnotes: I am not really interested in sexual activity, but can still achieve erection if needed after a couple of minutes..why am I uninterested in sexual activity?

                  I get so calm reading that I'm most likely fine lol
                  Thankyou.

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                  • #10
                    You are fine, just mentally messed up. You forgot how to be young!
                    The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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                    • #11
                      Not everyone wants to have sex frequently- even at a young age. Now, if you have sero urges it could be low libido or something within your psyche.
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                      • #12
                        I went from wanting sex every 2 days to wanting or having some kind of urge every 4-5 days, but I'm not sure if it's attributed to the anxiety I correlated to sexuality/sex. At one point I would get anxiety from just peeing because I would touch my penis. I would get anxiety when I would see a girl nakedand wouldn't get an erection. But like I said the thing that bothers me is the lack of morning wood frequency

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                        • #13
                          Anxiety can have an impact on libido. Many get stuck in the "before" and "after" mindset- where the before period was no negative associations with sex or obtaining erections, and the after being post-trauma. Interestingly enough, some men have that epiphany moment where, after a period of suffering with anxiety they manage to have a good sexual performance and are able to shake off the shackles of fear.

                          They then reflect on how much they had allowed the illusion of fear to hold them back.
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                          • #14
                            I had that epiphany with insomnia several years ago and after 2 years of horrible sleeping, I fixed my issues. I guess it'll be the same with this, it's amazingly fearful what my brain can do, 4 months ago I wanted to suicide/was in deep depression..now I'm getting better and learning how to cope with this.. i believe it's my subconscious. I have vowed to maybe initiate and fund some sort of relief group that deals with ED. I wouldn't wish this on anyone, and would love to help other depressed people like me to continue fighting.

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                            • #15
                              Once again, people like you, are what I consider help from God (may you be or not, religious.) I thank you for taking time to ease my thoughts.

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