How Do I Get Over Being 'Small'?

[DarkMind Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DarkMind]

My entire life I've always felt very under average, and my first few experiences when I was 16 ended in girls laughing at me and commenting on how small it was - I've never had a complement on the size or anything other than a look of mild disappointment when they see it.

With a good EQ I'm 5.9" NBPEL, 6.25 BPEL, and 5.25 MSEG.

However, I have ED (and also delayed ejaculation) which means that I never reach that full size often during sex.

So technically, I'm average but it just looks tiny to me and I can't get over it - I think the early experiences have ruined my self image.

I have a partner who I can make orgasm/squirt relentlessly and she seems happy but instead of looking at this positive, all I can think about is how she (probably) wishes I were bigger, and 'knowing' (fair assumption) that she's had and enjoyed bigger literally destroys me inside.

I've tried PE on and off for 13 years so I don't think it's ever going to work for me.

So the only strategy left is acceptance - how can I get over myself?

[TeoDeles Senior Member Member of the Month July 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TeoDeles]

Explain exactly what methods of PE you have done and also the intensity/volume/frequency of them.

[DarkMind Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DarkMind]

In the past I've tried various routines that I can't quite remember: mostly manuals (10 mins max), jelqs (around 100 - 800 reps), squeezes. Tried 2 on 1 off, 5 on 2 off, 3x per week. Longest Ive done it consistently for was 8 months, rest have been 2-3 months here and there.

Currently doing JP 90 + bathmate - a few weeks in, no gains.

[Mike_b Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mike_b]

Just be thankful for what God gave you, I'm 4 inches, some are less.

[TeoDeles Senior Member Member of the Month July 2018 Find all posts View Profile Close TeoDeles]

Start using an extender.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

It is easy to overtrain on the JP if you are also doing bathmate even more risk . How are your pi's ?

[DarkMind Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DarkMind]

Only negative is reduced EQ after the session - everything else seems fine.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Only negative is reduced EQ after the session - everything else seems fine.

I would reduce volume and get a hormone test.

[DarkMind Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DarkMind]

I would reduce volume and get a hormone test.

Results from the doctor, done a few weeks ago:

Serum testosterone: 25.6 nmol/L
Serum prolactin level: 148 mu/L
Serum TSH level: 1.3 mu/L
Gonadotrophin LH: 7.3 u/L
Gonadotrophin Serum FSH level: 9.1 u/L

All apparently 'normal' according to the doc.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Hormones seem good I would reduce volume.

[bcroger2 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bcroger2]

6 inches is average.

Most men have what foids would describe as "small penises." Average soft dick is about 3.5 inches and hard dick is 5-6 inches. When fully retracted, many men can get as small as 2 inches.

The issue is that foids watch too much porn. Another issue is that when foids see movies and they see a nude scene, they watch men who consent to going naked on camera. A guy with a 3.5 inch soft dick that can retract down to 2.5 inches may not consent to getting naked for a movie. Thus, foids are mostly exposed to large dicks.

[mistergeorge Senior Member Member of the Month June 2021 Find all posts View Profile Close mistergeorge]

6 inches is average.

Most men have what foids would describe as "small penises." Average soft dick is about 3.5 inches and hard dick is 5-6 inches. When fully retracted, many men can get as small as 2 inches.

The issue is that foids watch too much porn. Another issue is that when foids see movies and they see a nude scene, they watch men who consent to going naked on camera. A guy with a 3.5 inch soft dick that can retract down to 2.5 inches may not consent to getting naked for a movie. Thus, foids are mostly exposed to large dicks.

Foid is a derogatory term used to debase women in incel culture. Foid is a blend of the word feminoid.

For those of you who don't know what incel means it is a blend of the two word phrase "involuntary celibate." Incels or Involuntary Celibates are guys who basically believe they are not sexually viable because feminism made women inaccessible to them in recent decades. They are generally militant woman haters. I don't usually do this, but I'm going to quote from the Wikipedia article, so members here will understand the seriousness of incel stupidity:

"At least seven mass murders resulting in a total of 46 deaths, have been committed since 2014 by men who have either self-identified as incels or who had mentioned incel-related names and writings in their private writings or Internet postings."

If you're not an incel yourself, it will be helpful for your own social status in this community and to the betterment and dignity of other members to refrain from using incel jargon or other misogynistic terminology.

If you do identify yourself as an incel, you should know that PE Gym is not an incel community and your values are not shared here. If you are trying to infect this community with terminology that will mark PE Gym as a hive of incels or to recruit new members to your ideology (if you can call it that), that would qualify you as a troll.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

MeasurectionDOTcom is a forum to help guys who have or perceive they have small dicks.

[giantsrule Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close giantsrule]

My entire life I've always felt very under average, and my first few experiences when I was 16 ended in girls laughing at me and commenting on how small it was - I've never had a complement on the size or anything other than a look of mild disappointment when they see it.

With a good EQ I'm 5.9" NBPEL, 6.25 BPEL, and 5.25 MSEG.

However, I have ED (and also delayed ejaculation) which means that I never reach that full size often during sex.

So technically, I'm average but it just looks tiny to me and I can't get over it - I think the early experiences have ruined my self image.

I have a partner who I can make orgasm/squirt relentlessly and she seems happy but instead of looking at this positive, all I can think about is how she (probably) wishes I were bigger, and 'knowing' (fair assumption) that she's had and enjoyed bigger literally destroys me inside.

I've tried PE on and off for 13 years so I don't think it's ever going to work for me.

So the only strategy left is acceptance - how can I get over myself?

You don’t have to get over being small because you’re not small. It’s in your head. You won’t have a problem landing girls with that size. The only thing that would kill that dream is obsessing over problems that arnt there, which you’re doing right now.

[DarkMind Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DarkMind]

It appears that I may have been measuring wrong (or maybe a miracle happened and I gained through PE ) but I'm nearly 7" BP on a good day - although NBP seems to still sit at around 6".

Anyway, because you can't see the 'emergency inch' it still looks very small to me - going on those 'monster cock' sub reddits doesn't help either. Seeing folks with 8/9+ and all the comments creaming over it hurts my fragile ego.

My delayed ejaculation is getting me down too - I'm now at the point where I wish I had premature ejaculation; just being able to cum during sex would be amazing.