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  • New and terrified of this ED, any advice is appreciated

    Long.story.short.

    I was diagnosed with a mild case of epydidmitis back in August and given some antibiotic. Around this time I could not get nor maintain an erection. After a couple days on the antibiotic, I was fine and erections were solid.

    About 10 days ago, I noticed my erections are only at like 75% hard. Couldn't penetrate my wife so she ended up manually getting me to climax, which I did. But afterward she said that I felt soft to her. I don't regularly have morning wood and for this past 10 days I get maybe one erection a day and it's at that 75% softness bit.

    I saw my doc and he of all things, gave me at prostate exam (I'm 34 yrs old). He said my prostate was fine and ran some blood/urinalysis tests and those were all negative.

    I'm not on any medications, drugs, etc. I'm 34yrs old, 5'8, but I do weigh 263. This has never been an issue before until now with my erection.


    I'm freaking out, paranoid, sad depressed. She wants kids, now I am scared I'll never get another hard on in my life or make her happy. I just need some support/help.

  • #2
    Anxiety in itself can cause these issues .

    What was your testosterone level ? Do not accept "normal" you want the actual number.

    Weight loss would be a general health positive.

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    • #3
      I asked about testosterone level, but the doctor said he wasn't concerned with that. I'm fairly sedentary and do get zero exercise.

      99% it turtles and I don't know why. I am so scared.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Hustle View Post
        I asked about testosterone level, but the doctor said he wasn't concerned with that. I'm fairly sedentary and do get zero exercise.

        99% it turtles and I don't know why. I am so scared.
        Many docs are idiots, you need the number ,if the doc will not supply it I suggest you get retested.

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        • #5
          His is referring me to a urologist. My libido feels down too. but I am avoiding anything sexual for fear of not getting an erection. I wasn't a heavy porn user but I've totally avoided it.

          I'm really scared I'll never be cured

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          • #6
            Fear; well that won't help will it?
            The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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            • #7
              You're 5'8 and 263, that's the first thing you need to address. Did you think after years of getting to this point your health wouldn't catch up with you? Your anxiety is only making it worse.

              Find a decent gym, invest in training sessions with a good and certified trainer. You want to have kids but you can't take care of yourself? Can you imagine the toll your heart and internal organs are taking at you being that weight at that height? People have probably told you, that you need to lose weight and this should be your wake up call.

              Start eating healthy,and I means do your god damn research and eat healthy. Enforce some discipline on yourself- eat healthy, never skip a workout. Take care of your body first and try to curb your anxieties. It might take weeks or even months till you start functioning normally again.

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              • #8
                Well I honestly didn'tknow that suddenly one day I only get 75% hard and that's all.

                I don't know anything about diet. Low carb? any advice

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                • #9
                  75% hard; 25% anxiety!
                  The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Hustle View Post
                    Well I honestly didn'tknow that suddenly one day I only get 75% hard and that's all.

                    I don't know anything about diet. Low carb? any advice
                    Give this a try, man.

                    https://authoritynutrition.com/medit...iet-meal-plan/


                    Here's the shopping list I use.

                    http://blog-content.emeals.com.s3.am...ble-eMeals.png


                    Your wife will understand, tell her you guys might have to go on a little sex hiatus until your health gets better. It may help curb some of anxiety you have now. Just don't think about sex and your ability to get/retain an erection for a while, start losing a bit of weight and you'll be back to normal.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Paracletus View Post
                      Give this a try, man.

                      https://authoritynutrition.com/medit...iet-meal-plan/


                      Here's the shopping list I use.

                      http://blog-content.emeals.com.s3.am...ble-eMeals.png


                      Your wife will understand, tell her you guys might have to go on a little sex hiatus until your health gets better. It may help curb some of anxiety you have now. Just don't think about sex and your ability to get/retain an erection for a while, start losing a bit of weight and you'll be back to normal.
                      There were posts of certain yoga positions helping. Yoga will relax your mind and body and some of the moves relax the pelvic floor. I'm about to start for this purpose and you just feel a little better.

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                      • #12
                        I never endorsed one diet over the other as better but just do generally healthy things. Eat less, cut out excess sugars, and eat healthier.

                        Anxiety will kill you here. I would suggest not attempting to have sex until you can achieve a 100% erection but since you have a wife that may not be an option. Whatever you can do to relieve the pressure of getting an erection by letting your wife know this problem may take a while to fix and to be patient will help with a lot of the anxiety you are feeling.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by longrodten View Post
                          There were posts of certain yoga positions helping. Yoga will relax your mind and body and some of the moves relax the pelvic floor. I'm about to start for this purpose and you just feel a little better.
                          +1

                          Completely agree.

                          During your hiatus, you can even do a few exercises to strengthen and balance your pelvic floor. You can start with baby steps like 75 quick kegels when you wake up and 75 more before bed.

                          Try deep breathing exercises and look into yoga poses for pelvic floor relaxation likelongrodten recommends. You can find a bunch on YouTube.

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                          • #14
                            What's a kegel?

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                            • #15
                              I've also been turtling a lot which bothers me. only thing that came up in my blood test was a slight trace of blood in my urine.

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