Hey everyone,
Preface: It's difficult to recall when this trouble started, could be since puberty, could be in the last few years. I hadn't had sex before I got married so I wouldn't really know anyway. I'm 26, married for almost two years and in good physical condition. I've been doing PE for roughly two months and haven't seen gains, maybe some extra EQ and maybe some stamina improvement.
Issue: I can't get an erection when I should be able to and when I already have an erection, it goes down very quickly if it's not being stimulated. An example would be that I get turned on when we are kissing fully clothed and I'm moving in and warming up for sex, I'll rise to a 100% erection and then within a matter of 20-30 seconds, if I'm not being stimulated I'll lose the erection and more often than not it won't return no matter what. I try face fucking her, stroking it, 69, anything really. By the time we get to the bed and are naked, I'm doing all the kissing and touching, so I'm in control - and that may be where the issue is...
Situation: My wife loves a little more of a BDSM style sex, where she has a blind fold and hands tied behind her back while I be a little rough with her. She's not usually wide open or wet for sex at any given moment so I have to take about 15-20 minutes to warm her up by stroking her thighs, teasing her, touching her breasts, etc. After this warm up, I have always had an impossible time getting an erection. Half the time, I'll end up fingering her or using a dildo when I know it's not worth trying. The other half of the time, I'll try for about 5-10 minutes to get it up and we both end up frustrated/disappointed.
Conclusion?:
-I would say it's just because I may not be attracted to my wife as opposed to "fresh meat" and I'm just comfortable with her. I know there's a more nervous response when interacting with new women but I don't think this should be an issue.
-Or that the BDSM style where I'm controlling the situation just isn't my style and I prefer a more level playing field or even where I'm the one being forced on every now and then but I don't want to conclude on either of those options.
Request: If anyone has an idea of what could be going on or has been in a similar situation, I would love some feedback and/or information that could help.
Preface: It's difficult to recall when this trouble started, could be since puberty, could be in the last few years. I hadn't had sex before I got married so I wouldn't really know anyway. I'm 26, married for almost two years and in good physical condition. I've been doing PE for roughly two months and haven't seen gains, maybe some extra EQ and maybe some stamina improvement.
Issue: I can't get an erection when I should be able to and when I already have an erection, it goes down very quickly if it's not being stimulated. An example would be that I get turned on when we are kissing fully clothed and I'm moving in and warming up for sex, I'll rise to a 100% erection and then within a matter of 20-30 seconds, if I'm not being stimulated I'll lose the erection and more often than not it won't return no matter what. I try face fucking her, stroking it, 69, anything really. By the time we get to the bed and are naked, I'm doing all the kissing and touching, so I'm in control - and that may be where the issue is...
Situation: My wife loves a little more of a BDSM style sex, where she has a blind fold and hands tied behind her back while I be a little rough with her. She's not usually wide open or wet for sex at any given moment so I have to take about 15-20 minutes to warm her up by stroking her thighs, teasing her, touching her breasts, etc. After this warm up, I have always had an impossible time getting an erection. Half the time, I'll end up fingering her or using a dildo when I know it's not worth trying. The other half of the time, I'll try for about 5-10 minutes to get it up and we both end up frustrated/disappointed.
Conclusion?:
-I would say it's just because I may not be attracted to my wife as opposed to "fresh meat" and I'm just comfortable with her. I know there's a more nervous response when interacting with new women but I don't think this should be an issue.
-Or that the BDSM style where I'm controlling the situation just isn't my style and I prefer a more level playing field or even where I'm the one being forced on every now and then but I don't want to conclude on either of those options.
Request: If anyone has an idea of what could be going on or has been in a similar situation, I would love some feedback and/or information that could help.
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