Hello all,
This is difficult to talk about, but I'd really appreciate some honest advice as this issue is really affecting me at the moment.
Basically before September this year I had never had sex before, I have plenty of female interest but apparently alot of women / girls are too afraid to approach me, it was only in September when I became drunk with a friend that I eventually became sexually active.
We got drunk and I fingered her and licked her out, but because we were very drunk I did not get hard with her giving me a hand job or blow job. I was very deflated but put this down to be very drunk.
A few days later with it playing on my mind constantly I made it my mission to have sex with her, I took her home in the evening, popped some viagra and had sex for over an hour after long foreplay, but never came.
It was a very strange sensation as eventually my cock became numb and I could not cum so I went forever in many positions, she was blown away by the sex and said it was the best she'd ever had and never seen anyone go so long, she was a little upset I hadn't cum however.
The next day or two I had sex again but only used half the viagra 50mg tablet, we lasted a long time but eventually I came and it was amazing as we came together.
Fast forward to November 25th and I'm having an issue. I'm trying to ween myself off of the viagra but today and yesterday I had two soul-destroying events when I had gone down on my now girlfriend who I have fallen in love with and she has too but when I went from giving her oral to trying to penetrate her, I was not hard enough and eventually in went soft. No amount of handjob or blowjob could make it hard. She laid back looking devastated, she thought I'd didnt love her, it really broke my heart to see that. It then happened the next day and I almost lost my cool because I could not do anything about it.
Basically I can achieve strong erections masturbating, I'm very physically fit, strong, eat very healthily, don't drink regularly or do drugs and have no physical diseases or issues. I can ejaculate fine and can stay hard but I've noticed that for almost 12 years I've watched porn, I recently in September deleted all my porn and have tried to refrain from masterbating which definiately helps me to maintain strong libido but it makes me focused on sex all day. I even started getting wet dreams for the first time in my life.
I recently lost my job and I kind of feel like having once failed to get hard when drunk the psychological factor of stress and performance anxiety might be affecting me, but Im not 100% sure as I'm not depressed at all.
I don't know whether I have low libido because stimulation alone does not get me hard, I have to really imagine something to turn me on. But as soon as I avert my attention I go soft again.
Maybe ive given myself too much expectation from using viagra as when i use it I stay hard without any thought what so ever which is great but obviously unnatural. But then if I can maintain a hard erection for hours with viagra then I feel like it cannot be anything physical but psychological.
There isn't much else to add other than the fact I've had sex with this girl over 20 times, all great, but now I'm trying to go viagra free I'm running into hurdles. I can stay hard laying next to her and kissing definiately turns me on, but spending 20-30 minutes giving her oral then trying to get hard again is near impossible, she is very tight and so its hard to penetrate without a very hard penis.
It's only happened 2-3 times now, but it is affecting me to the point where I'm really questioning myself as a man, my abilities and just life in general. The first time in my life I attempt a meaningful relationship and the girl in question is already questioning my love for her and there is nothing I can do seemingly to rectify the situation. Shes understanding but I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and I feel sex is important to the relationship, without sex how can we work out.
I have been through 3 packets of viagra at great expense and recently ordered some cialis. I just feel this is a very desperate measure which I can't keep falling back on.
Any help would be greatly appreciated,
Regards.
This is difficult to talk about, but I'd really appreciate some honest advice as this issue is really affecting me at the moment.
Basically before September this year I had never had sex before, I have plenty of female interest but apparently alot of women / girls are too afraid to approach me, it was only in September when I became drunk with a friend that I eventually became sexually active.
We got drunk and I fingered her and licked her out, but because we were very drunk I did not get hard with her giving me a hand job or blow job. I was very deflated but put this down to be very drunk.
A few days later with it playing on my mind constantly I made it my mission to have sex with her, I took her home in the evening, popped some viagra and had sex for over an hour after long foreplay, but never came.
It was a very strange sensation as eventually my cock became numb and I could not cum so I went forever in many positions, she was blown away by the sex and said it was the best she'd ever had and never seen anyone go so long, she was a little upset I hadn't cum however.
The next day or two I had sex again but only used half the viagra 50mg tablet, we lasted a long time but eventually I came and it was amazing as we came together.
Fast forward to November 25th and I'm having an issue. I'm trying to ween myself off of the viagra but today and yesterday I had two soul-destroying events when I had gone down on my now girlfriend who I have fallen in love with and she has too but when I went from giving her oral to trying to penetrate her, I was not hard enough and eventually in went soft. No amount of handjob or blowjob could make it hard. She laid back looking devastated, she thought I'd didnt love her, it really broke my heart to see that. It then happened the next day and I almost lost my cool because I could not do anything about it.
Basically I can achieve strong erections masturbating, I'm very physically fit, strong, eat very healthily, don't drink regularly or do drugs and have no physical diseases or issues. I can ejaculate fine and can stay hard but I've noticed that for almost 12 years I've watched porn, I recently in September deleted all my porn and have tried to refrain from masterbating which definiately helps me to maintain strong libido but it makes me focused on sex all day. I even started getting wet dreams for the first time in my life.
I recently lost my job and I kind of feel like having once failed to get hard when drunk the psychological factor of stress and performance anxiety might be affecting me, but Im not 100% sure as I'm not depressed at all.
I don't know whether I have low libido because stimulation alone does not get me hard, I have to really imagine something to turn me on. But as soon as I avert my attention I go soft again.
Maybe ive given myself too much expectation from using viagra as when i use it I stay hard without any thought what so ever which is great but obviously unnatural. But then if I can maintain a hard erection for hours with viagra then I feel like it cannot be anything physical but psychological.
There isn't much else to add other than the fact I've had sex with this girl over 20 times, all great, but now I'm trying to go viagra free I'm running into hurdles. I can stay hard laying next to her and kissing definiately turns me on, but spending 20-30 minutes giving her oral then trying to get hard again is near impossible, she is very tight and so its hard to penetrate without a very hard penis.
It's only happened 2-3 times now, but it is affecting me to the point where I'm really questioning myself as a man, my abilities and just life in general. The first time in my life I attempt a meaningful relationship and the girl in question is already questioning my love for her and there is nothing I can do seemingly to rectify the situation. Shes understanding but I can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and I feel sex is important to the relationship, without sex how can we work out.
I have been through 3 packets of viagra at great expense and recently ordered some cialis. I just feel this is a very desperate measure which I can't keep falling back on.
Any help would be greatly appreciated,
Regards.
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