Do people not take erectile dysfunction seriously?

[slickskin Member Find all posts View Profile Close slickskin]

I noticed that when a lot of people, particularly young people complain about ED that they are immediately accused of it being all in their head or the result of watching too much pornography. I agree psychological issues and porn don't help. I quit porn earlier this year completely and cut masturbation too for that reason alone but it didn't help.

I've had two doctors refuse to even check my testosterone levels saying that I'm too young to have a problem and that ED is psychological if you're under 50. Even if it is purely psychological people should have physical problems ruled out, and something still needs to be done to address it. Or maybe people just don't care since it's not happening to them and they assume that it's not a serious problem if someone can't get hard. Maybe it's not as bad as having cancer or being in a wheelchair but it really makes someone's quality of life plummet. Relationships become next to impossible, self esteem goes out the window, and people become irritable all the time when they can't get hard. One of my biggest wishes in life would be to push a button and just get hard instantly for as long as I want without having to think or worry about it, and then push the button again to return to flaccid when I'm done using it, as simple as that.

I use Cialis now which helps but it by no means fixed the problem. It just makes sex possible if I really like the person, am in the mood for it, and have energy and everything falls in exactly the right place. Otherwise I'd be as soft as a gummy worm and a hurricane wouldn't wake up my penis. Even during masturbation where I'm of course not going to be taking Cialis for it is sometimes takes a bit of work to get and stay hard despite being very horny

I'm suspecting Venous leakage at this point or some other hormonal imbalance.

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What country do you live in?

[watersnake Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close watersnake]

The biggest mental problem is the severe depression you can fall into from having ed.

[SoraSora Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SoraSora]

I noticed that when a lot of people, particularly young people complain about ED that they are immediately accused of it being all in their head or the result of watching too much pornography. I agree psychological issues and porn don't help. I quit porn earlier this year completely and cut masturbation too for that reason alone but it didn't help.

I've had two doctors refuse to even check my testosterone levels saying that I'm too young to have a problem and that ED is psychological if you're under 50. Even if it is purely psychological people should have physical problems ruled out, and something still needs to be done to address it. Or maybe people just don't care since it's not happening to them and they assume that it's not a serious problem if someone can't get hard. Maybe it's not as bad as having cancer or being in a wheelchair but it really makes someone's quality of life plummet. Relationships become next to impossible, self esteem goes out the window, and people become irritable all the time when they can't get hard. One of my biggest wishes in life would be to push a button and just get hard instantly for as long as I want without having to think or worry about it, and then push the button again to return to flaccid when I'm done using it, as simple as that.

I use Cialis now which helps but it by no means fixed the problem. It just makes sex possible if I really like the person, am in the mood for it, and have energy and everything falls in exactly the right place. Otherwise I'd be as soft as a gummy worm and a hurricane wouldn't wake up my penis. Even during masturbation where I'm of course not going to be taking Cialis for it is sometimes takes a bit of work to get and stay hard despite being very horny

I'm suspecting Venous leakage at this point or some other hormonal imbalance.

From my limited experience, when the causes aren't physical, ED isn't a dysfunction of the penis. It's a dysfunction of being turned on.

Every time I didn't have an erection when I expected one to be present, when I took a mental step back in the situation and observed the mind, I found I wasn't turned on in the slightest.

Moreover, when I sort of accepted it, and allowed whatever would happen to happen, I noticed I gave myself more mental space to become turned on, and in turn, to get erections. Nowadays it's fortunately not that big of a deal, and if it does arise, I feel more confident I know the cause.

Just work on chilling out more. Chances are you're worrying, and hence aren't allowing yourself to become turned on, and from then, have no mental reason to get an erection.

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What country do you live in?

United States

[slickskin Member Find all posts View Profile Close slickskin]

From my limited experience, when the causes aren't physical, ED isn't a dysfunction of the penis. It's a dysfunction of being turned on.

Every time I didn't have an erection when I expected one to be present, when I took a mental step back in the situation and observed the mind, I found I wasn't turned on in the slightest.

Moreover, when I sort of accepted it, and allowed whatever would happen to happen, I noticed I gave myself more mental space to become turned on, and in turn, to get erections. Nowadays it's fortunately not that big of a deal, and if it does arise, I feel more confident I know the cause.

Just work on chilling out more. Chances are you're worrying, and hence aren't allowing yourself to become turned on, and from then, have no mental reason to get an erection.

Yeah, if someone isn't attracted to the person they are with and don't want to have sex it makes perfect sense that their penis wouldn't respond. But most of us that report this problem are saying it happens where we absolutely like our partner and are in the mood mentally but the penis is dead and not responding.

[SoraSora Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SoraSora]

Yeah, if someone isn't attracted to the person they are with and don't want to have sex it makes perfect sense that their penis wouldn't respond. But most of us that report this problem are saying it happens where we absolutely like our partner and are in the mood mentally but the penis is dead and not responding.

I dunno, my last girlfriend was the type of girl you'd see on an Asian modelling Instagram, without exaggerating. Ended up leaving me for a millionaire, was how desirable she was. But in the early days she'd call me 'floppy' because of my penis randomly going soft on her! Once I chilled out and just took my time, I paid her back a few times over, fortunately.

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Okay so from the US. Let me ask you are you willing to pay for the tests you want the doctor to take? You see since ed is so rare in the young unless the have a underlying medical condition there is no way, unless the doc lies, to justify to the insurance company so that they'll pay for the tests. Now if you're willing to pay then tell him and he'll do whatever you ask as long as the bill is paid.

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As mentioned, physiological induced ED is rare among younger guys and even rarer if the guy can achieve a hard erection depending on conditions.

When I was young and not yet married. I often experienced a limp dick. However, once I got married, and sex was had under relaxing non stressful circumstances, the ED was put to rest for 30 years. Unfortunately, diabetes raised its ugly head and now I can't get an erection without the aid of medication and/or pumping and constriction.

Though I am older, I do take ED seriously.

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Okay so from the US. Let me ask you are you willing to pay for the tests you want the doctor to take? You see since ed is so rare in the young unless the have a underlying medical condition there is no way, unless the doc lies, to justify to the insurance company so that they'll pay for the tests. Now if you're willing to pay then tell him and he'll do whatever you ask as long as the bill is paid.

That basically was the problem the first time around when he offered to do an ultrasound. Apparently there was a problem with the insurance covering it and I didn't want to pay the $500. But I since have gotten new insurance so it might be possible to have it done again, after seeing a primary first and then getting a referral which this new insurance demands. The medical system is outrageous in the United States hence why a lot of people don't get their problems treated.

[slickskin Member Find all posts View Profile Close slickskin]

As mentioned, physiological induced ED is rare among younger guys and even rarer if the guy can achieve a hard erection depending on conditions.

When I was young and not yet married. I often experienced a limp dick. However, once I got married, and sex was had under relaxing non stressful circumstances, the ED was put to rest for 30 years. Unfortunately, diabetes raised its ugly head and now I can't get an erection without the aid of medication and/or pumping and constriction.

Though I am older, I do take ED seriously.

I don't think it's as rare as people think for young people to have ED. It's just young people aren't likely to admit they have a problem in that department and are very unlikely to go to a doctor to get it treated, especially if the doctor isn't going to even hear them out saying you don't actually have a problem and ignore it.

[Party Senior Member Member of the Month August 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Party]

ED before 50 is very possible. I started to have issues at 40, and by 45 I was finding excuses not to have sex. Made the Mrs feel like crap, she felt she didn’t get me horny anymore. Luckily my cardiologist and I had become friends. I shared my difficulties and he walk back to his off ice and brought a big bag so Viagra samples. 10 years later I’ve told him he saved my marriage. Thanks Doc.

[Ultimate Burrito Moderator Member of the Month Oct 2017PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Ultimate Burrito]

One thing that has made a night and day difference for me is edging and doing erect kegels. Edge and get it really hard and then start doing kegels. You will feel the surge through your burrito and after a couple of days doing that I was getting semi hardon's all the time and really good quality erections. Maybe this can help.

[slickskin Member Find all posts View Profile Close slickskin]

One thing that has made a night and day difference for me is edging and doing erect kegels. Edge and get it really hard and then start doing kegels. You will feel the surge through your burrito and after a couple of days doing that I was getting semi hardon's all the time and really good quality erections. Maybe this can help.

I started doing sets of kegals while flaccid but didn't find them helpful yet. Guys tend to clench the muscles and do a kegal anyway when they feel their erection weakening but that hasn't helped me.

[EdwardJames Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close EdwardJames]

I noticed that when a lot of people, particularly young people complain about ED that they are immediately accused of it being all in their head or the result of watching too much pornography. I agree psychological issues and porn don't help. I quit porn earlier this year completely and cut masturbation too for that reason alone but it didn't help.

I've had two doctors refuse to even check my testosterone levels saying that I'm too young to have a problem and that ED is psychological if you're under 50. Even if it is purely psychological people should have physical problems ruled out, and something still needs to be done to address it. Or maybe people just don't care since it's not happening to them and they assume that it's not a serious problem if someone can't get hard. Maybe it's not as bad as having cancer or being in a wheelchair but it really makes someone's quality of life plummet. Relationships become next to impossible, self esteem goes out the window, and people become irritable all the time when they can't get hard. One of my biggest wishes in life would be to push a button and just get hard instantly for as long as I want without having to think or worry about it, and then push the button again to return to flaccid when I'm done using it, as simple as that.

I use Cialis now which helps but it by no means fixed the problem. It just makes sex possible if I really like the person, am in the mood for it, and have energy and everything falls in exactly the right place. Otherwise I'd be as soft as a gummy worm and a hurricane wouldn't wake up my penis. Even during masturbation where I'm of course not going to be taking Cialis for it is sometimes takes a bit of work to get and stay hard despite being very horny

I'm suspecting Venous leakage at this point or some other hormonal imbalance.

You know what, I was just thinking the same exact thing. And it actually makes sense. Because let's just say if you were a person who had no problem getting a hard-on and was able to perform sex on demand, would you be bothered by someone who had ED issues? Most likely not. The majority of men doesn't have permanent ED issues so to the general population and society in general, we are like a joke to them. They look at us crying about our ED problems and think, well, there's people starving in the world, places with no water or electricity etc.., bottom line, yes there are much more bigger problems in the world and people who have it way worse than someone with ED. But to someone who is suffering from ED, there isn't anything worse to us. Like WaterSnake mentioned previously, the biggest mental problem is the severe depression that comes with ED. At least I know for me it is.

That's why forums like this and others are great because, though it may not fully solve our problems, it sure helps to communicate with people who understands.