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    I thought this might be the best place to gain some insight on my issue. The last two times I had sex, I couldn't finish. I usually last fine for 30-40 minutes, but if there's too much down time in between then I get flaccid fairly quick. It resulted in me being unable to become erect again. Last night after sex, I tried masturbating an hour later and couldn't get hard.

    Lately, erection quality isn't 100% rock hard either. I'd say I'm at around 70-80% erect. Getting hard at the start of the session is fine, but I definitely lose it later. For about 2 years, I've been following Minuteman's guide as well improving the strength of my pelvic floor. Attempting the kegels where I'm erect are difficult because I can't maintain an erection unless I edge frequently during the session.

    I have noticed for a while - at least a year if not more - that I don't get frequent erections and almost never have morning wood.

    Background and history for me: 29 years old, been in good shape, and eat a wholesome diet for most of the time. No drinking or smoking ever, even in the past. Not many processed foods and lifted weights consistently the past 10 years+ (barbell and dumbbells). I teach strength training at a professional level and know it's not fluff I'm doing either - squats, rows, pull ups, presses, etc. in various rep ranges. I started tracking calories the past month to be more accountable as well.

    I know a lot of guys suffered in their teens because they used a death grip and relied heavily on porn trying to ejaculate as fast as possible. I was the opposite and edged a lot when I masturbated. I would masturbate maybe once a day. Sometimes twice, but 3 was rare and every week was about 5 sessions. I don't find sex absolutely mind blowing for my penis (I'm uncircumcised), but I do enjoy making sure my partner feels satisfied.

    With work the past few years, I watch porn maybe once every 2 months and masturbate one to three times a month.

    My only guess is I need better sleep habits. I get around 6 hours a night, but waking up early (4:30-5:00AM) has never been good for me since I started this job 5 years ago.

    I have an appointment with a urologist next week. Should I rely on them to understand my issues? Originally the appointment was for something else and was thinking to cancel it.

    Sorry for the essay, but thanks for reading!

    I have a guess as what might be the underlying issue, but I'd like to hear advice from other members.

    tl;dr - Not sure why erections are infrequent and subpar. Suggestions?

    Also I wrote this on my phone so sorry if formatting doesn't look right!

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    Originally posted by Dress Sock View Post
    I thought this might be the best place to gain some insight on my issue. The last two times I had sex, I couldn't finish. I usually last fine for 30-40 minutes, but if there's too much down time in between then I get flaccid fairly quick. It resulted in me being unable to become erect again. Last night after sex, I tried masturbating an hour later and couldn't get hard.

    Lately, erection quality isn't 100% rock hard either. I'd say I'm at around 70-80% erect. Getting hard at the start of the session is fine, but I definitely lose it later. For about 2 years, I've been following Minuteman's guide as well improving the strength of my pelvic floor. Attempting the kegels where I'm erect are difficult because I can't maintain an erection unless I edge frequently during the session.

    I have noticed for a while - at least a year if not more - that I don't get frequent erections and almost never have morning wood.

    Background and history for me: 29 years old, been in good shape, and eat a wholesome diet for most of the time. No drinking or smoking ever, even in the past. Not many processed foods and lifted weights consistently the past 10 years+ (barbell and dumbbells). I teach strength training at a professional level and know it's not fluff I'm doing either - squats, rows, pull ups, presses, etc. in various rep ranges. I started tracking calories the past month to be more accountable as well.

    I know a lot of guys suffered in their teens because they used a death grip and relied heavily on porn trying to ejaculate as fast as possible. I was the opposite and edged a lot when I masturbated. I would masturbate maybe once a day. Sometimes twice, but 3 was rare and every week was about 5 sessions. I don't find sex absolutely mind blowing for my penis (I'm uncircumcised), but I do enjoy making sure my partner feels satisfied.

    With work the past few years, I watch porn maybe once every 2 months and masturbate one to three times a month.

    My only guess is I need better sleep habits. I get around 6 hours a night, but waking up early (4:30-5:00AM) has never been good for me since I started this job 5 years ago.

    I have an appointment with a urologist next week. Should I rely on them to understand my issues? Originally the appointment was for something else and was thinking to cancel it.

    Sorry for the essay, but thanks for reading!

    I have a guess as what might be the underlying issue, but I'd like to hear advice from other members.

    tl;dr - Not sure why erections are infrequent and subpar. Suggestions?

    Also I wrote this on my phone so sorry if formatting doesn't look right!
    Trying to understand your situation. Are you on any medications? If not, you might as well do a hormonal test to see that everything is fine, you will see an urologist right? Sleeping 6 hours is okay, that shouldn't affect you unless you are a HEAVY sleeper 10+hours of sleep. I feel like you underuse your penis 2-3 times per month? At this age with morning boners becoming less frequent your penis can get out of shape. Start a beginners routine here to increase the blood flow in your penis and also consider supplementing l-arginine.

    Either way don't get too frustrated about the 2 times you weren't that great at intercourse and try to give a little more attention to your little guy.
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    • #3
      Why not wait until the guy who will be diagnosing you, going over your medical history, doing a visual and physical exam and maybe even some blood work tells you what he thinks the problem is.
      The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Sticke View Post
        Trying to understand your situation. Are you on any medications? If not, you might as well do a hormonal test to see that everything is fine, you will see an urologist right? Sleeping 6 hours is okay, that shouldn't affect you unless you are a HEAVY sleeper 10+hours of sleep. I feel like you underuse your penis 2-3 times per month? At this age with morning boners becoming less frequent your penis can get out of shape. Start a beginners routine here to increase the blood flow in your penis and also consider supplementing l-arginine.

        Either way don't get too frustrated about the 2 times you weren't that great at intercourse and try to give a little more attention to your little guy.
        No meds. Yes on the urologist. Would masturbating more achieve the same for blood flow?

        Although, you're probably right about giving him more attention. I actually had sex last night and didn't go completely flaccid. But, I did have to hold a kegel to maintain erection while receiving oral.

        Originally posted by CUSP82 View Post
        Why not wait until the guy who will be diagnosing you, going over your medical history, doing a visual and physical exam and maybe even some blood work tells you what he thinks the problem is.
        I will. I figured experiences from other users would offer some insight. Should I mention anything specific when meeting with the doctor? Either in terms of testing or describing symptoms.

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        • #5
          Dress sock is your job stressing you, stress is a great sex killer and could be what's behind your problems, next time your with your women focus on her and gets lots of foreplay in, forget the wham bam thank you mam kind of sex, make your foreplay last your women will just love that, doing that builds your erection up, and when comes to sex with her take it slowly, don't forget its her body that will keep your erection alive and going.
          and Just for Cusp when your not with her think of your doctor.

          NOWHARD

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          • #6
            Job has been busy lately and I'm on my feet quite a bit walking around our job site. I usually go home (90 minutes one way) and exercise if it's planned or proceed with dinner, getting ready for the next day, and falling asleep after that.

            When it comes to sex, I really do like taking my time and building up the passion. I've never found rushing the moment to be all that fun.

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            • #7
              Hi DS try getting into meditation as a way of clearing your head, plus as your read its a good way to start your day its a must do thing, see if you can find a local group who will teach you the art of meditation, that's a really good way to go.

              You can google stress or anxiety and meditation and you find help that way its something rated highly by the Mayo Clinic and a very good tool to de stress yourself and for anxiety and depression, but lots of people use as a daily lift up before work and after.

              Perhaps that may help you and your sex life.

              NOWHARD

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Dress Sock View Post

                tl;dr - Not sure why erections are infrequent and subpar. Suggestions?
                In my opinion, night/morning erections are one of the most important indicators of one's hormonal status wrt sexual function: libido, orgasms, erections, etc.

                To me, it says that something is most definitely wrong; and that's a good start in a way.

                However, establishing causation is a trickier matter. The first thing I would do is get a full hormone profile. I do not advise you to go to a urologist; nor to any old endocrinologist. Have it done by either an endo who focuses on male hormones - often look for former bodybuilders, no kidding. Or, even better, an HRT/TRT specialist.

                Once you get a good snapshot you can then determine what is causing the endocrine issues (if there are any) - and you can begin to address the problem.

                A few caveats: 1. you go by how you feel and your progress - you treat the patient, NOT the test results. Very important and not all doctors seem to understand this lol. 2. tests are not 100% accurate and some are better than others (the gold standard for male hormone analysis in my opinion is the 24 urine). 3. Test ranges are based on a very unhealthy population and should be treated with skepticism.

                Also, a good doctor won't focus on one hormone, say, test; but will see your hormones as a kind of symphony in movement.

                There are many, many bad endos/doctors who put men through years of hell. Avoid them. There are a few extremely good ones. Find them. I would trust my hormones with about five doctors I know of worldwide.

                Anyway, a bit disjointed response but there it is.

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                • #9
                  I'm going to see the urologist because I'd like to discuss some other things. I did search online for an endo, but honestly I have no idea how to discern who is worth seeing for men's health. Most seem geared toward's diabetes, thyroid issues, and women's health.

                  I'll see how the urologist visit goes and follow-up with an endo if it's not a good visit.

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                  • #10
                    Dress Sock, try doing your jelqs at bedtime. I usually have raging morning wood when I do that. Also, as suggested above, try L Arginine 1000 mg a day coupled with Maca and Horny Goat weed. Try to get rest as well. Do you have any anxiety issues about work, sex or other stuff? Glad you are going to the urologist. Perhaps he can test your testosterone levels to see if they are low.
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                    • #11
                      I actually don't jelq since I'm happy with my size. I do remember when my kegel routine was a harder session, I'd usually have a wet dream.

                      No anxiety issues or stress. Work is busy lately and has been draining one or two days out of the week, but I'm not overly stressed about it. I'll follow-up with more information after seeing the doctor today.

                      Thank you to all for chiming in! It's very comforting to see the support here.

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                      • #12
                        Dress sock, i advise you to see an urologist and check for a varicocele. You can also look at to your left testicle and check if you have bag of warms.

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                        • #13
                          Quick recap since I don't have any labs yet.

                          Urologist was cool. I explained everything and brought up how my libido is low and infrequent erections. I even compared it to my friend who masturbates 1-2 times daily. He said not everyone is the same and the important thing is that I'm able to produce erections without issue. He did have some concern that I don't get morning erections very rarely even with a lot of sleep on my off day. He said me waking up for work at 4:30am-5:00am might be messing with my circadian rhythm causing some of the issues I'm experiencing. I think he said test is highest between 3:00AM and 4:00AM.

                          The two times I went flaccid could have been subconscious anxiety or stress (although I doubt that).

                          He said my results will probably be normal and doesn't think it's necessary, but he wrote the Rx for the labs for me to go get the tests done. Scheduled a lab appointment, but it won't be for 2 weeks. He wanted me to get tested early in the morning at 7:30AM and most places are booked in the early mornings. He wrote Rx's for: total test, FSH, LH, prolactin, test serum, estradiol level, SHBG, and test % free. I asked for thyroid, but he didn't seem comfortable giving that and said he's a urologist.

                          I will update when I get my results.

                          Originally posted by wantedBig View Post
                          Dress sock, i advise you to see an urologist and check for a varicocele. You can also look at to your left testicle and check if you have bag of warms.
                          He gave me a physical exam and didn't find anything unusual.
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                          • #14
                            I have my lab tests tomorrow at 7:30AM. Would you guys happen to know if I lift weights from 6:00AM to 7:00AM, would that have any affect on my results?

                            I emailed my doctor yesterday, but no response in regards to that question.

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                            • #15
                              Sorry to butt in, the bit that sound of most interest to me is that you say sex is good but not mind blowing and that you make a very brief reference to a partner.

                              Totally agree that lack of morning erection is the alarm bell.

                              You’re 30. Not to pry but how long have you been together, how are you both progressing the relationship? are there young kids involved?

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