Hello all! I'm posting here because I'm really just at my wits end about what to do about this situation. I'm young, I should be living my life and feeling confident about my bedroom abilities, but my penis has failed me.
For starters, I very rarely get erections. It's not that I'm not into girls or can't get turned on by them, but even when I am aroused the most I will usually get is a very slight swelling feeling in my penis and that's it. I've had girlfriend's before, and every time I've participated in sexual activities I've had a very hard time getting it up. My erection quality is very week, and makes penetration next to impossible. It's just, no matter how aroused I am I feel like my erection only stays at like 40% naturally. Now subconsciously I believe I started kegelling to try and squeeze and trap blood in my penis. This does increase my erection quality a bit, but doing this also causes me to ejaculate very quickly after starting to squeeze those muscles. So basically I have very weak erections, regardless of my arousal level, and while kegelling can help compensate for this slightly, it also causes me to ejaculate prematurely. Another problem, and one that has been the case since I was probably 14, is that I virtually never wake up with erections. I think I've had morning wood maybe 4 times max in the last four years, and even then it was very very weak. I've been told this is typically a good indicator that something is wrong.
Admittedly, I believe I know what might have caused my problems. I used to masturbate daily for several years, usually to porn. I didn't masturbate for long, but I often would rush the masturbation to get to the feeling of the ejaculation, without actually enjoying the process. I think this trained my body to use my kegel muscles to ejaculate as quickly as possible. I know this is a problem, but I don't know how to fix it.
Within the past year I have dramatically cut down my viewing of porn, in the case that it could be caused by an overuse of porn. I have gone for several weeks without viewing porn on multiple occasions, but it has never had any effect. Perhaps I just need to avoid porn for even longer?
I've been to several doctors and urologists about this situation, but none of them seem to know what the problem is or how to fix it. I've been given Viagra, and it helped mildly but it was nothing to write home about.
I live pretty healthy, I exercise regularly, eat cleaner than most young adults and I'm not overweight. I'm simply confused about what could be causing my problems. It could be anxiety or depression related issues. I know I've never been very good at managing stress, so that could be playing into it, but I'd be surprised if that was what was causing my problems. My erections seem to be no better when I am relaxed and calm and happy compared to when I am angry or stressed.
Another thing that may be of note. I do have a rather large varicose vein in my penis, as well as having a perennial hematoma. I'm not sure if these things are related, but is possible that varicose veins in my pelvic floor could be causing blood flow issues?
I was also thinking it could be pelvic floor tightness causing blood flow issues. I've been to a pelvic floor specialist who said that my PF was very tight, and I have done a variety of stretches and work with a therawand over the past several months. My PF has loosened, but my erection problems have gotten no better.
I'm really just confused about what to do here or how to solve my problems. Any advice would be appreciated. I think the thing that concerns me most is that I NEVER get morning wood. I'm pretty sure that means something is pretty wrong, but I don't know what or how to fix it.
For starters, I very rarely get erections. It's not that I'm not into girls or can't get turned on by them, but even when I am aroused the most I will usually get is a very slight swelling feeling in my penis and that's it. I've had girlfriend's before, and every time I've participated in sexual activities I've had a very hard time getting it up. My erection quality is very week, and makes penetration next to impossible. It's just, no matter how aroused I am I feel like my erection only stays at like 40% naturally. Now subconsciously I believe I started kegelling to try and squeeze and trap blood in my penis. This does increase my erection quality a bit, but doing this also causes me to ejaculate very quickly after starting to squeeze those muscles. So basically I have very weak erections, regardless of my arousal level, and while kegelling can help compensate for this slightly, it also causes me to ejaculate prematurely. Another problem, and one that has been the case since I was probably 14, is that I virtually never wake up with erections. I think I've had morning wood maybe 4 times max in the last four years, and even then it was very very weak. I've been told this is typically a good indicator that something is wrong.
Admittedly, I believe I know what might have caused my problems. I used to masturbate daily for several years, usually to porn. I didn't masturbate for long, but I often would rush the masturbation to get to the feeling of the ejaculation, without actually enjoying the process. I think this trained my body to use my kegel muscles to ejaculate as quickly as possible. I know this is a problem, but I don't know how to fix it.
Within the past year I have dramatically cut down my viewing of porn, in the case that it could be caused by an overuse of porn. I have gone for several weeks without viewing porn on multiple occasions, but it has never had any effect. Perhaps I just need to avoid porn for even longer?
I've been to several doctors and urologists about this situation, but none of them seem to know what the problem is or how to fix it. I've been given Viagra, and it helped mildly but it was nothing to write home about.
I live pretty healthy, I exercise regularly, eat cleaner than most young adults and I'm not overweight. I'm simply confused about what could be causing my problems. It could be anxiety or depression related issues. I know I've never been very good at managing stress, so that could be playing into it, but I'd be surprised if that was what was causing my problems. My erections seem to be no better when I am relaxed and calm and happy compared to when I am angry or stressed.
Another thing that may be of note. I do have a rather large varicose vein in my penis, as well as having a perennial hematoma. I'm not sure if these things are related, but is possible that varicose veins in my pelvic floor could be causing blood flow issues?
I was also thinking it could be pelvic floor tightness causing blood flow issues. I've been to a pelvic floor specialist who said that my PF was very tight, and I have done a variety of stretches and work with a therawand over the past several months. My PF has loosened, but my erection problems have gotten no better.
I'm really just confused about what to do here or how to solve my problems. Any advice would be appreciated. I think the thing that concerns me most is that I NEVER get morning wood. I'm pretty sure that means something is pretty wrong, but I don't know what or how to fix it.
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