So for as long as I can remember I have never orgasmed during sex .... I can orgasm via manual stimulation but cant seem to orgasm via intercourse.
I dont find penetration to be very stimulating... after 15 minutes I find i dont feel much ....just going through the motions.
Last night I had the longest session I've ever had... 40 minutes, but nowhere close to orgasming....during that time my erection strength varied from very hard to soft... soft enough for penetration, and back again so all over the place.
Despite the fact I cant seem to orgasm through penetration i do find enjoyable especially when I'm at peak erection strength.
Now my history to date (I'm 35) is aggressive masturbation for much of my 20s and 30s...death grip. I haven't gone 2 months without masturbation in this aggressive manner so I think ive trained my body to respond to this kind of touch/feel.
I'm circumcised, and I notice that if the skin is intact I can cum fairly quickly by masturbating. If I retract the skin it takes MUCH longer to orgasm.
So I dont know if time is what I need to fix this problem, or abstaining from masturbation altogether for a period of 3 months etc?
Something I thought about ... is there some way I could have sex .... but keeping my skin from rolling back? Because clearly I lose sensation if my skin is retracted during sex.... the evidence is that I cum far quicker with penis fully covered than skin retracted.
Any tips on how I would go about this? It might not solve my problem but its something I could try ...
I dont find penetration to be very stimulating... after 15 minutes I find i dont feel much ....just going through the motions.
Last night I had the longest session I've ever had... 40 minutes, but nowhere close to orgasming....during that time my erection strength varied from very hard to soft... soft enough for penetration, and back again so all over the place.
Despite the fact I cant seem to orgasm through penetration i do find enjoyable especially when I'm at peak erection strength.
Now my history to date (I'm 35) is aggressive masturbation for much of my 20s and 30s...death grip. I haven't gone 2 months without masturbation in this aggressive manner so I think ive trained my body to respond to this kind of touch/feel.
I'm circumcised, and I notice that if the skin is intact I can cum fairly quickly by masturbating. If I retract the skin it takes MUCH longer to orgasm.
So I dont know if time is what I need to fix this problem, or abstaining from masturbation altogether for a period of 3 months etc?
Something I thought about ... is there some way I could have sex .... but keeping my skin from rolling back? Because clearly I lose sensation if my skin is retracted during sex.... the evidence is that I cum far quicker with penis fully covered than skin retracted.
Any tips on how I would go about this? It might not solve my problem but its something I could try ...
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