hello, i found that forum trying to find answers online and wasn't able.
i believe my husband has (mild) ED or something is off.
we have an active sex life we have been married less than a year and are having sex often many times once a day and others less frequently.
now i will need to give you some more personal information maybe you understand what is going on since the first time we were intimate i noticed that he jumped to give me oral sex and mastrubated while he was doing it so much that the bed was trembling it was the first time i ever noticed something like that in my sex life never before someone had to do that and obviously it threw me of but i decided to be polite and pretend i didn't understand anything. when he got hard or hard enough we had sex. i though because it was the first time he might have stress and couldn't get hard easy and wanted the extra help.
but since then I've noticed many times that he doest get hard very fast and takes extra effort also i have noticed he does mens kegels (understood that after looking for it online) probably to increase blood flow when i do oral sex to him. many times even with Kegel and me performing oral sex he couldn't get hard so he resorted to going down and mastrubate.
anyway long story short i discussed some times about him not getting hard and he told me that it is mental because of stress and nothing to be worried and if we talk about it it will make it worse because he will think about it more. the other thing i have noticed is that he will perform oral sex only when he needs to mastrubate to get hard.never without mastrubation. which makes it unenjoyable for me because i think at that moment if he has ED or not that he prefers his hand than my foreplay he isn't into me etc....
i don't know if my suspicions that something is going wrong are right because in the end he can have sex but only if he mastrubates alone or use his muscles by doing kegels. he seems sensitive to the subject so i haven't really talked about it again after a couple of tries and him saying everything is ok and we have lots of sex which is accurate but i am concerned on what it takes to have sex.
other times i think that maybe he is used of doing that so it is comfortable.
i would be interested read your opinions.
i feel very weird about it and don't feel like being intimate many times.
also my husband is 45 years old incase it is of any importance.
i believe my husband has (mild) ED or something is off.
we have an active sex life we have been married less than a year and are having sex often many times once a day and others less frequently.
now i will need to give you some more personal information maybe you understand what is going on since the first time we were intimate i noticed that he jumped to give me oral sex and mastrubated while he was doing it so much that the bed was trembling it was the first time i ever noticed something like that in my sex life never before someone had to do that and obviously it threw me of but i decided to be polite and pretend i didn't understand anything. when he got hard or hard enough we had sex. i though because it was the first time he might have stress and couldn't get hard easy and wanted the extra help.
but since then I've noticed many times that he doest get hard very fast and takes extra effort also i have noticed he does mens kegels (understood that after looking for it online) probably to increase blood flow when i do oral sex to him. many times even with Kegel and me performing oral sex he couldn't get hard so he resorted to going down and mastrubate.
anyway long story short i discussed some times about him not getting hard and he told me that it is mental because of stress and nothing to be worried and if we talk about it it will make it worse because he will think about it more. the other thing i have noticed is that he will perform oral sex only when he needs to mastrubate to get hard.never without mastrubation. which makes it unenjoyable for me because i think at that moment if he has ED or not that he prefers his hand than my foreplay he isn't into me etc....
i don't know if my suspicions that something is going wrong are right because in the end he can have sex but only if he mastrubates alone or use his muscles by doing kegels. he seems sensitive to the subject so i haven't really talked about it again after a couple of tries and him saying everything is ok and we have lots of sex which is accurate but i am concerned on what it takes to have sex.
other times i think that maybe he is used of doing that so it is comfortable.
i would be interested read your opinions.
i feel very weird about it and don't feel like being intimate many times.
also my husband is 45 years old incase it is of any importance.
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