ED, stress or numbness?

[Toky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toky]

So I've been in relationship with my girl 5 years and she is extra hot, big tits, big ass, pretty face... So just for background I have Pre EJ, but I "fixed it" many times but I have never ever experienced ED or that I can't get up when I was with her. First time I experienced that I couldn't get up on her was when we smoked weed and I was giving her sex suprise (foreplay with dildo, butt plug, oral sex..) and it was really sexy all of it but I couldn't get up just by doing that/looking at her enjoying and listening her moan. Then she asked me to put my D in and she realized that I'm not hard and she tried to stroke me but I couldn't get hard and after 5 min of her trying I got hard and cummed immediately. Next time it was on our vacation. And now last time it was when my parents weren't home so she stayed at my place for 7 days. I was sick that 7 days (stomach problems) but my dick was all time like numb, I didn't feel touch like little horny 20 yo boy (I'm usually like that I have 22yo) and I was not feeling horny in my body just my head. I was getting paranoid and just thinking I lost my libido, I don't like her anymore and stuff like that, I got so deep that I cried infront of her that I have ED.
So I have 2 questions, why did all of that happend to me? And how can I make not to experience that ever again? What exercises, food, anything I need to eat/do or avoid to be more horny (be hard when I'm doing her oral and just by seeing her naked), have better EQ.
I must mention that I abused porn in past and that last 2 months I've been doing stamina training (bathmate pumping, edging with flashlight(but I was also loosing erection in FL after some time), kegels, yoga stretch).
Thank you all for help and sorry for poor english.

[blomman Member Find all posts View Profile Close blomman]

Its very likely all in your head in my opinion. Just relax remember that its your girlfriend of 5 years and try to recall all the nice sexual experiences that you two have had together and how many times you have actually gotten it up instead of thinking of how this one time out of hundreds you were not able to get an erection. Just relax a bit and its 99% going to work out. Also try to cut the porn use i suppose.

[Toky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toky]

What is with my penis? I was doing before vacation stamina program(yoga stretching, kegels, bathmate, edging/edging with flaslight, glans pushing) and I got alot better EQ + I was lasting longer. Now after vacation 3 weeks of no training just ocassional kegels and mastrubating to porn -.- I'm having hard time to get erected + it is not EQ like it was when I was training, I can't even get hard with my GF. My penis feels numb and I can't maintain erection when standing if I get hard.

[Toky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toky]

My questions are: 1. Can it be that my PF got so tight I can't get up and maintain erection, so I need to add yoga stretcihng + tennis ball massage?
2. How to train maintaining erection in standing position?
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What I started to do: Trying to get erected just by mastrubating without porn/erected thoughts and then after it edging (how much to edge per day once or twice and how much time, more than 20 min?) + yoga stretching.

[Toky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toky]

Anyone opinion would help please

[Toky Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Toky]

Anyone? Please I need help

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

What you describe sounds like acute performance anxiety. You must learn to relax and avoid correlating the idea of sexual contact with pressured performance!

[PEispossible Senior Member Member of the Month Dec 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close PEispossible]

What you describe sounds like acute performance anxiety. You must learn to relax and avoid correlating the idea of sexual contact with pressured performance!

you remind me of master Yoda, you have wisdom and the perfect answers. This is something I must work on. Work on, I am. =-)

Theres a book called the inner game of stress and theres something in there called PLE. Performance, Learning and Enjoyment. Esp in our western culture many people focus only on performance, when you stop focusing on performance as the only thing and equally focus on learning, enjoyment, and performance, this has helped me.

[Big Al AdministratorPEGym EditorMale Enhancement Coach Rep.PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Big Al]

you remind me of master Yoda, you have wisdom and the perfect answers. This is something I must work on. Work on, I am. =-)

Theres a book called the inner game of stress and theres something in there called PLE. Performance, Learning and Enjoyment. Esp in our western culture many people focus only on performance, when you stop focusing on performance as the only thing and equally focus on learning, enjoyment, and performance, this has helped me.

Thank you so much!