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After two years of issues, I have had a breakthrough. Only briefly but enough for hope.
Problems:
Failures in person. Low libido due to a self-imposed disinterest in sex for perceived inadequacies. and overuse of porn. Infrequent erections and poor morning wood for years.
Solution:
Meditation + Fantasy.
For the last little while I had been self-testing with manual stimulation and kegels to test EQ - always to my disappointment.
Recently I began meditation/fantasy sessions, where I would just shut my mind off and imagine erotic situations while relaxing somewhere e.g. bath or bed. On a few occasions I have achieved a 100% rock-hard erection, better than on any meds and that I can't achieve watching porn. Pointing straight up. Impossible to push down. These last a while, not fading instantly without manual stimulation like others. The same happens on occasion too if I read erotica, but the best have been from relaxing, regulating breathing and fantasising. You aren't trying to achieve an erection, you're trying to imagine a scenario that is appealing to you. It sounds so simple, but how many of us have lost the ability to relax and imagine in this age of constant technological distraction?
From someone who has undoubtedly overdone visual stimulation since teen years. This was an interesting experiment. Could a potential cure be re-engaging with this mindset? How many of us are so focused on our erections that we ignore the feelings that lead to them? I would advise anyone to try this if you are struggling - meditation music can be beneficial to aid in relaxation and if there aren't any out there, I believe a cure or treatment could exist in an audio program for guided fantasy/visualisation to aid in these sessions. At the least, it proved to me that my issue was likely not physical and lies somewhere between visual desensitisation, negative conditioning and anxiety - all able to be remedied with patience and practice.
Anyone in a similar boat, give this a try and post your results here.
Thanks,
Problems:
Failures in person. Low libido due to a self-imposed disinterest in sex for perceived inadequacies. and overuse of porn. Infrequent erections and poor morning wood for years.
Solution:
Meditation + Fantasy.
For the last little while I had been self-testing with manual stimulation and kegels to test EQ - always to my disappointment.
Recently I began meditation/fantasy sessions, where I would just shut my mind off and imagine erotic situations while relaxing somewhere e.g. bath or bed. On a few occasions I have achieved a 100% rock-hard erection, better than on any meds and that I can't achieve watching porn. Pointing straight up. Impossible to push down. These last a while, not fading instantly without manual stimulation like others. The same happens on occasion too if I read erotica, but the best have been from relaxing, regulating breathing and fantasising. You aren't trying to achieve an erection, you're trying to imagine a scenario that is appealing to you. It sounds so simple, but how many of us have lost the ability to relax and imagine in this age of constant technological distraction?
From someone who has undoubtedly overdone visual stimulation since teen years. This was an interesting experiment. Could a potential cure be re-engaging with this mindset? How many of us are so focused on our erections that we ignore the feelings that lead to them? I would advise anyone to try this if you are struggling - meditation music can be beneficial to aid in relaxation and if there aren't any out there, I believe a cure or treatment could exist in an audio program for guided fantasy/visualisation to aid in these sessions. At the least, it proved to me that my issue was likely not physical and lies somewhere between visual desensitisation, negative conditioning and anxiety - all able to be remedied with patience and practice.
Anyone in a similar boat, give this a try and post your results here.
Thanks,
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