Changes in Erections (lack of these days)

[MPolo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MPolo]

I am a Bathmate user for about three years now. For the first two and half years it gave me incredible hardness when I was erect. My wife loved it.

These days (last six months), I am having trouble getting, and keeping any type of erection. It seems to be getting worse too.

On my own if I try jerking off I can get hard, but not super hard, and the erection goes away almost immediately when I stop masturbating.

Using the Bathmate, I used to try and get about 80% hard before pumping, with no problem. Now I can barely get any type of erection when I try to pump. I go in almost soft now.

I do have very hard morning wood on occasion, and not sure is that has anything to do with arousal.

I am also feeling like there is a disconnect between my mind and my cock. It seems like I just don't feel like getting aroused in my mind, or when I do feel it there is no connection to my cock; no erection at all.

It is def starting to have an effect on my sex life. I am not able to get very hard, or stay hard, when trying to have sex with my wife.

Looking for places to start research on these threads. Thanks for any help pointing me in the right direction.

[BigKnob Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2019 Find all posts View Profile Close BigKnob]

porn or mental issues is my guess given from the info given. age could also a factor. take a break from sexual activity and pe to clear your mind and also to see if its related to pumping

[MPolo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MPolo]

porn or mental issues is my guess given from the info given. age could also a factor. take a break from sexual activity and pe to clear your mind and also to see if its related to pumping

Thanks. What might you mean, related to pumping? Can you explain that a bit more?

[Dangler Senior Administrator☼ Wizard ☼ White Tiger Award 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Dangler]

After some time passes with pumping, your erection just is not as it used to be. Its like the tissues are tired. Some use a cock ring, others pursue ways to increase/restore erection quality EQ.
Age and health may factor into all this.

Some who use ED pills (viagra, et al) notice that after years pass, the body just does not produce the same quality results as it used too. Building a tolerance too/immunity too are thought about; increase dosage or switch to a different type pill maybe.

Some research may be needed.

[ktm1987 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ktm1987]

If you have good morning wood I would say it's a mind issue. Maybe stress? Lack of desire for your partner? Lack of rest? Low T?

What if you made it a challenge for 2 weeks up to a month. Don't see your wife naked, don't watch any sort of porn ECT. Have zero orgasms. Then one day grab your wife, push her against that wall making out with her and rip those clothes off! Perform oral like you never have and plow that field like it's your first and last time!

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

What were the numbers on the hormone test ?

[MPolo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MPolo]

What were the numbers on the hormone test ?

In July 2018 it was:

Testosterone Total 597 ng/dl

Free Testosterone 59.8 pg/ml

Doctor said these were OK. I had a visit a few months ago and told him my libido was still really low and I want to have sex sometimes, but have trouble getting and maintaining an erection.

[MPolo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MPolo]

I actually signed up for a free trial of Bluechew this week (arrives tomorrow), so I am going to see if that helps at all. I ordered the version that has the Viagra ingredient in it. I was getting such amazing EQ when pumping, my wife and I both really miss that. Not sure what to do next about this though. I guess I should ask the doc for next steps.

[Travelin Man Member Find all posts View Profile Close Travelin Man]

How old are you?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

In July 2018 it was:

Testosterone Total 597 ng/dl

Free Testosterone 59.8 pg/ml

Doctor said these were OK. I had a visit a few months ago and told him my libido was still really low and I want to have sex sometimes, but have trouble getting and maintaining an erection.

So total test of a guy in his 50's and free test of a guy in 70's.

[MPolo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MPolo]

So total test of a guy in his 50's and free test of a guy in 70's.

so, that’s bad if I’m in my 50s I assume?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

so, that’s bad if I’m in my 50s I assume?

No lots of guys in their 50's have low libido /\it's quite normal.

Free test can be inaccurate was it done by sensitive measure .?

[Going411x7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going411x7]

i ALWAYS HAD GREAT ERECTIONS, AND THEN WHEN I HIT MY 60'S, MY ERECTIONS STARTED TO SAG, SO I DECIDED TO TRY P.E. TO GET MY ROCK HARD STIFFIES BACK, AND WITHIN A MONTH OF DAILY JELQING AND KEGELING, I HIT ELEVEN O'CLOCK.

MANY MEN GO THROUGH WHAT I WENT THROUGH MUCH EARLIER, IN THEIR 50'S,FOR SURE, EVEN IN THEIR 40'S. I THINK THE LOWER AGE LOSS OF ERECTION MAY BE DUE TO FACTORS OTHER THAN ADVANCING AGE, ESPECIALLY ANXIETY AND STRESS PRODUCED ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION. WATCHING PORN MAY BE A HUGE FACTOR THIS DAY AND AGE. I WOULD AVOID ERECTILE ENHANCEMENT PILLS AND PORN, AND ABSTAIN FROM BOTH WHILE YOU WORK ON DEVELOPING A LONG-TERM PENIS ENLARGEMENT/ ENHANCEMENT PROGRAM.

[MPolo Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MPolo]

Thanks for all the great feedback. This weekend was interesting. After almost two weeks of family holidays and travel, I booked a one-night vacation about two hours from home for Saturday night. On Friday my wife told me she was going to get a bikini wax for the trip and asked if I had any 'requests' for how I wanted her to get waxed. After a bit of web surfing, I pulled up a few pictures of a recent Playboy model I liked and texted them to her and asked her to match the models type of bush styling. It was a turn on looking through the pics to decide, and sending them to her. After not pumping with my Hydromax for over a month, I decided to bring it on the trip. I was able to get hard and pump before sex (we had sex just after we arrived - I made her come but held off myself to build up more arousal by just edging while fucking her.) I pumped in the shower prior to the first time, and my wife helped me use the pump dry in bed when we went for round two after dinner, and for my orgasm. It was a nice change of pace to get a hard on, and keeping it, and feel confident fucking her. And we really went at it. Also pumped again in the shower this morning before leaving the hotel as I was able to get hard in the shower just thinking about the sex. So, it could be work pressure? An anomaly? Who knows, but it was a great weekend sex-wise for me/us.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Stress kills more erections than any other single factor.