Hi all
I'm a longtime lurker in my early 40s and I've suffered from a combination of erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation since forever. For the record I've tried to handle my issue with viagra etc before but with varying degrees of success/failure but one thing's for sure it has killed spontaneity in the relationship. I've had a few girlfriends with varying degrees of success in the bedroom and now I'm married with a young child. My wife is very supportive although affected as well by the psychological aspect of things.
I would like some guidance or steer please given the vast experience of this forum as to where I should focus first. There seems to be a vast amount of knowledge and techniques here but I'm getting a bit confused as different people seem to find different treatments and techniques to work for some but not all.
I assume my issue began with bad masturbation habbits in my teens which resulted to premature ejaculation and this developed in embarassment/frustration which tend to kill my erection. I don't find I have issues getting an erection when aroused but I find it difficult to maintain it if my mind drifts off or if there is no physical stimulation. Too much physical stimulation ends up in premature ejaculation. I have found success (i assume mostly the psychological assurance) with viagra/cialis knowing that they've got my back so to say. I tend to find though if I mentally spiral downwards I cannot get my erection for love nor money so to say.. I find I have pretty good 'morning wood'. Worth saying that I have tried to 'artificially induce' my erection by flexing the PC muscle which resulted to me ejaculating very quickly shortly after penetration.. I once was prescribed Tramadol for muscle pains which I found worked wonders for premature ejaculation (by accident) but obviously that ran out years ago but offered a respite of sorts while I had it.
I've tried hypnotherapy (worth mentioning that when I tried that combined with a mild dose of viagra one night I went for about an hour and didn't ejaculate - I was properly shocked) but that hasn't happened for over a decade. In my late 20s I was in quite a good relationship sex-wise and was able to go for a few minutes if I had sex every day or multiple times in a day but nowadays with work and a child I find that if I try to initiate something and a week (or a month) has passed I end up getting an erection, getting stressed in case I lose it and end up ejaculating very swiftly.
Anyway I hope this provides some context to the situation. I would like to get rid of this issue permanently but I also don't know where to begin and what to tackle first.
Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks in advance
Vince
I'm a longtime lurker in my early 40s and I've suffered from a combination of erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation since forever. For the record I've tried to handle my issue with viagra etc before but with varying degrees of success/failure but one thing's for sure it has killed spontaneity in the relationship. I've had a few girlfriends with varying degrees of success in the bedroom and now I'm married with a young child. My wife is very supportive although affected as well by the psychological aspect of things.
I would like some guidance or steer please given the vast experience of this forum as to where I should focus first. There seems to be a vast amount of knowledge and techniques here but I'm getting a bit confused as different people seem to find different treatments and techniques to work for some but not all.
I assume my issue began with bad masturbation habbits in my teens which resulted to premature ejaculation and this developed in embarassment/frustration which tend to kill my erection. I don't find I have issues getting an erection when aroused but I find it difficult to maintain it if my mind drifts off or if there is no physical stimulation. Too much physical stimulation ends up in premature ejaculation. I have found success (i assume mostly the psychological assurance) with viagra/cialis knowing that they've got my back so to say. I tend to find though if I mentally spiral downwards I cannot get my erection for love nor money so to say.. I find I have pretty good 'morning wood'. Worth saying that I have tried to 'artificially induce' my erection by flexing the PC muscle which resulted to me ejaculating very quickly shortly after penetration.. I once was prescribed Tramadol for muscle pains which I found worked wonders for premature ejaculation (by accident) but obviously that ran out years ago but offered a respite of sorts while I had it.
I've tried hypnotherapy (worth mentioning that when I tried that combined with a mild dose of viagra one night I went for about an hour and didn't ejaculate - I was properly shocked) but that hasn't happened for over a decade. In my late 20s I was in quite a good relationship sex-wise and was able to go for a few minutes if I had sex every day or multiple times in a day but nowadays with work and a child I find that if I try to initiate something and a week (or a month) has passed I end up getting an erection, getting stressed in case I lose it and end up ejaculating very swiftly.
Anyway I hope this provides some context to the situation. I would like to get rid of this issue permanently but I also don't know where to begin and what to tackle first.
Any guidance would be greatly appreciated.
Many thanks in advance
Vince
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