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- 12-05-2020 #1
I'd like to share my thought on how porn effects EQ . If you have any experience or opinions then please share.
I am 22 y/o and I started watching porn when I was only 10. I believe this negatively effected my EQ as I never got morning wood or random erections anymore, so for the past 6 months I have cut out porn. After this my EQ has improved dramatically. I have been getting morning wood every other day, and I can get a full erection just by thinking about sex. While I was on porn it was becoming hard to get an erection standing up, but now it's practically a bar of steel. Additionally I feel way more confident and happier now that I've quit porn. Sidenote: You can masturbate without watching porn.
So recently I've been thinking about the reasons porn destroys EQ and I've come up with this list. Please comment on what you think. If you have any additional reason then I will add it to the list.
1) Ruins mental/ psychological stimuli
Porn raises the requirement for what kind of mental stimuli you need. The timeline for excessive porn users shows that overtime many people watch progressively more extreme/ unordinary porn. Every step you take down this road makes it harder to get erections for less extreme types of mental stimuli. Maybe all it use to take was a pair of boobs, but now getting turned on requires some complicated sexual ritual that is perpetuated through pornography. This sexual ritual is so complicated that doggy style with your wife now no longer gets you 100% hard and erections you do get quickly evaporate.
If you're a boob guy like me, then maybe you've noticed that you need bigger and bigger porn boobs to get an erection. What use to seem like big beautiful milkers now seem small because of how much jumbo bumbo titties that you've looking at daily.
2) Destroys confidence
Porn is really bad for sexual moral. Jerking off someone desirable getting banged by another dude is essentially the role of the cuck. I recently downloaded bumble and just got asked yesterday to be a third in someone's relationship. This seems to now happen whenever I download dating apps. I often see profiles of couples looking for a "bull." I always decline because that's pretty weird, but I think it's evident of a trend in our society. Young men are watching porn and it's turning them into submissive cucks that make Tinder accounts for their girlfriends.
When watching porn women will fake orgasms and will drive this message into you head that you need to be 8+ inches and on steroids to please a women. The pornstars moan as they give hand jobs, and act/ say things that normal women don't say or do. This delegitimizes your performance in the bedroom when you view sexual interactions through the lens of porn. Because, porn creates feelings of inadequacy it becomes sexually demoralizing and thus hard to get an erection. Your mindset needs to be in the right place or getting an erection becomes neigh impossible.
3) Poor habit building
Every day following the routine of Porn then Erection then Masturbate then Orgasm creates a bad habit. You are training yourself to only get erections in a very specific and methodical way. Psychologically this is similar to ringing a bell to let your dog know its time to feed. The dog will eventually begin salivating just from the sound of the bell even if food is not present. A similar effect happens to you when you watch porn. You train yourself to only get an erection to a very specific methodical process. Furthermore, watching porn from the safety of your bedroom or bathroom will make you too nervous to perform sexual acts with a partner. Before I quit porn I always felt nervous the first few times I was with someone new, and it would become difficult to get an erection and orgasm those first few times. Porn creates a trained atmosphere of safety by loneness which will leave you ill equipped to get erections.
4) Gives unrealistic standards of beauty
When searching on the internet you can find the ideal woman. Red heads with big tits are probably 1 in 2,000 people but if that's what you've grown to enjoy then it will become harder (no pun intended) to get an erection from women expressing other physical characteristics that you would otherwise find beautiful. You can easily find 10/10 women on the Internet to jerk off to, but guess what??? you can't get a 10/10 woman. Maybe you can get an 8 or a 9 but if you keep fapping to 10/10 then those 9/10 and 8/10 will not be as visually stimulating as they otherwise would be. And if you're humping a 6 or 7 then these mildly pretty girls won't come close to the beautiful women that you daily bust to. Essential higher and often unobtainable standards of beauty lead to numbed visual stimuli components of an erection.Start: 5.875x4.75
Now: 7x5.125
Goal: 7.25x5.5
- 12-09-2020 #2
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I think you covered it pretty well, but then you're preaching to the choir with me
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- 12-10-2020 #3
- 12-10-2020 #4
I was never an all day masturbator(on average once a day 5days/week) and I never understood WHY people are doing it.
As I never understood why people do drugs in excess , why they drink alcohol until they pass out ETC.
Having an orgasm , or feeling a little light headed from alcohol and stuff is nice and good.... BUT why the hell some people need to do it all the time!
Why this self catastrophic behaviours?
In my case if you feed me everyday 6 meals of a certain food.... even if i Love this food in the 1st place then after some days I will hate it.
So in order to keep loving it you have to eat the certain food in moderation.... the same applies in ANYTHING. ( according my kind of thinking).
There are women out there in real life that they look like porn stars and they are being fucked like pornstars...
What you have to blame is not porn.... but you ( and by you I mean anyone with your kind of thinking) that you are not doing what is needed in order to fuck them too.
I have put my answers in your quote.
- 12-10-2020 #5
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It all boils down to addiction.
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- 12-10-2020 #6
First I would like to say I really appreciate all the posts you've made about pelvic floor tension. Probably some of the most useful information on PEGYM.
1) I was writing that watching porn leads to fetishes that become more extreme over time. I'm glad that this never happened to you but I believe it happens to many people myself included. I went from getting off to pictures of boobs, to eventually watching BDSM and reading kinky erotica and it led to boobs not being able to turn me on until a few months after I quit porn. Again, I'm glad that your porn tastes have remained consistent.
2-4) Your responses to each unique point that I brought up was that I was insecure, and that it's not porn's fault. After I quit porn my EQ improved tremendously and my sex life has been better. Even though you come off as condescending I think you're right that I was insecure. All of that insecurity has been washed away since I stopped watching. Was the insecurity in my head? Of course all insecurities are in peoples heads, but one of the points I was trying to make was that getting rid of porn destroyed any insecurity I had.
Essentially I noticed that quitting porn made my EQ skyrocket, and it boosted my confidence and enjoyment in the bedroom. I'm just theorizing as to why I got all these benefits.Start: 5.875x4.75
Now: 7x5.125
Goal: 7.25x5.5
- 12-10-2020 #7
Another point that I think you missed was that porn numbs down the visual stimuli part of getting an erection. Take person A who never watches porn, and person B who watches porn daily. Person A will be much more excited to see someone naked and to have sex, compared to person B. To person A something as simple as a blowjob will be extremely erotic, while person B's standard for erotic will be higher and thus harder to please.
Start: 5.875x4.75
Now: 7x5.125
Goal: 7.25x5.5
- 12-10-2020 #8
Brother.... watching porn and having real sex are 2 completely different things.
Let me give you an example...
For example I love amine 3d porn. There is an anime video of a huge ass and huge tits amine girl that is having sex with an anime dog.
The idea of a woman having sex with a dog in an anime porn turns me on... Does this mean that I want to become a dog and fuck a woman? Does this mean that if I see a woman infront of me having sex with a dog will turn me on? Of cource not!
I also love anime sex with girls and Orcs... does this mean that I want to become an orc? LoL
An other example... I like watching a woman having sex with 2 men at the same time... does this mean that I would like to bang a woman together with a friend of mine?? Hell NO! I am too much possessive when it comes to sex so in real life I would never share a woman with any man .
Understood now?
Watching porn and having real sex are 2 completely different things.
Its like saying that you like watching UFC so you want to get in the cage and be beaten.
Porn is great... porn is a must for any male with a strong libido.Not watching porn at all is not healthy and not normal.
You can have a sexy girl and fullfill you 100% in sex but when you will not fuck her one day cause you can t meet her , to put a porn video and play with your dick.
EVERYTHING in moderaton is good and healthy .( as long us you don t hurt anyone).Last edited by TeoDeles; 12-10-2020 at 06:33 PM.
- 12-10-2020 #9
"Not watching porn at all is not healthy and not normal."
For 99.99% of human history watching anime Orc porn was actually not normal.
My own experience as well as everyone else's who has quit porn contradicts the notion that watching porn leads to a healthier libido/ better EQ.
"Everything in moderation is good and healthy"
like Fluoroantimonic Acid?
If watching porn has no side effects for you then continue to have fun.Start: 5.875x4.75
Now: 7x5.125
Goal: 7.25x5.5
- 12-11-2020 #10
""""My own experience as well as everyone else's who has quit porn contradicts the notion that watching porn leads to a healthier libido/ better EQ.""""
Of cource its true... IF YOU BEAT YOUR MEAT 10 times/day ...which is sick!
Listen to the other side... When I had some periods that I was alone without a GF and I was not watching porn(and not masturbating) for lets say 1 week...my Libido(mood for sex) was less...and then when I watched some porn for 2-3 days and I masturbated 1 time/day, my libido went crazy high.
"""For 99.99% of human history watching anime Orc porn was actually not normal.""""
Says who?
"""like Fluoroantimonic Acid?""""
Nature man...nature... not chemistry...and not hurting people physicaly or mentaly
As I said before drinking a glass of wine has health benefits...but drinking the whole bottle is catastrophic.
Its the same with porn.Last edited by TeoDeles; 12-11-2020 at 07:31 AM.
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