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firstly, I don't know if it is the right forum to post this, so if there is a better forum, dear admins please move this post there.
second, I do not have a particular question in this post, there are lots of things(endocrinology, physiology and the psychological aspects of sex) in the experience that I want to talk about and, I think would be useful to guys, specially the ones who are younger than me and might have the same problems.
so, I have had erectile dysfunction since I can remember. I also have been struggling with depressions as long as I can remember and have been on a super heavy dose of anti depressants for more than a decade now. I am also a chain smoker, overweight and barely have any good sleep(mostly due to depression). So I assume all of these factors are contributing to my ED. (important to note that depression itself can cause a significant decrease in the production of testosterone)
It's been almost a year that I have been on Finasteride (hairloss medication). That thing killed my dick since the second day I took it. like, it has been so shrunk all this time that one would think it's a dead body's penis.( obviously this side effect is pretty rare and it happens in ppl who already have a very low amount of free T, so their body relies on DHT(a testosterone derivative, the hormone that causes the hair loss) for sexual functions and when you decrease the amount of DHT significantly(by taking finasteride) sexual functions and libido almost disappear)
Important to note that if I dont take Finasteride for one or two days, the baseline of my ED and sensitivity goes back to what it was before Finasteride days.
And no, this side effect is not a 'nocebo' thing, I did not know about the ED that Finasteride causes beforehand. I read basically all the existing scientific literature on the effect of Finasteride on ED afterwards.
I watch a lot of porn, I guess technically I am addicted to it. even though I have severe ED I can still masturbate and ejaculate to porn(although I am waaay less mentally engaged to it while being on Finasteride which I assume is due to lack of libido). I donno If watching porn itself contributes to ED or not.
It's important to note that before finasteride, I was a premature ejaculator (at least to porn).
I am(I guess I was until today) a virgin, 34 years old.
so my friend knows someone who is a pimp(I don't know if there is a politically correct word for this in English) and found a prostitute for me. I told him about my ED and he told me to take sildenafil and it will be okay. he is very sexually active and he always uses it.
I also didn't take Finasteride for two days.
on the packet of sildenafil , it says the maximum dose is 100mgs. I asked my brother who is an MD and he told me to only take 50mgs. I took 50mgs while waiting for the prostitute and nothing happened. took another 50 mgs and nothing happened.(my penis wasn't as shrunk at this point but not erect at all). took another 50 mgs and I realized it's getting a bit thicker but still no erection at all. I started watching porn and it would get erect a bit and I thought maybe when the prostitute arrives she will stimulate me enough so I could actually get erect.
I was also very tired and didn't sleep well last night.
before I get the next part, I should tell you that I live in Middle East and prostitutes are very scared of everything generally. Finding prostitutes also could be very difficult.
so she arrived, very distressed. sat down, I asked here do you want any drink or something and she was like "no, let's get into the bedroom already". for some bizarre reason she didn't want the lights on . when I sat down and tried some foreplay she said "wtf are u doing, why are you not naked and putting it in already"(she was both in a hurry and was not used to anything that I was doing)
so I put my penis in, and after maybe two minutes she was like why are you not cumming? and as she kept saying it I got less and less erect.
Also one very bizarre thing, this was the first time I was inside a woman, and she had given me a handjob, but strangely my penis was the least sensitive I can remember.
we kept trying multiple positions, she kept complaining about me not cumming soon enough and she eventually got disappointed and said she had to leave. at this point the desensitization of my penis was the most amusing thing to me. that Is something that I had never experienced.
I assume this desensitization was due to her attitude, the rush she was in, her having no interest in stimulating me, lack of any actual connection. I could feel that she didn't like what she is doing and she is very scared and just wanted to get it over and get paid.
any ways, she left and I could not ejaculate.
I guess the only positives were that at some points when I was pushing in, she would moan, and that contradicts my insecurities about having a small penis. she was also the first woman who didn't laugh at my dick(to b exact, she didnt actually give a fuck).
It was a very strange experience. I hope this information could be somewhat helpful.
second, I do not have a particular question in this post, there are lots of things(endocrinology, physiology and the psychological aspects of sex) in the experience that I want to talk about and, I think would be useful to guys, specially the ones who are younger than me and might have the same problems.
so, I have had erectile dysfunction since I can remember. I also have been struggling with depressions as long as I can remember and have been on a super heavy dose of anti depressants for more than a decade now. I am also a chain smoker, overweight and barely have any good sleep(mostly due to depression). So I assume all of these factors are contributing to my ED. (important to note that depression itself can cause a significant decrease in the production of testosterone)
It's been almost a year that I have been on Finasteride (hairloss medication). That thing killed my dick since the second day I took it. like, it has been so shrunk all this time that one would think it's a dead body's penis.( obviously this side effect is pretty rare and it happens in ppl who already have a very low amount of free T, so their body relies on DHT(a testosterone derivative, the hormone that causes the hair loss) for sexual functions and when you decrease the amount of DHT significantly(by taking finasteride) sexual functions and libido almost disappear)
Important to note that if I dont take Finasteride for one or two days, the baseline of my ED and sensitivity goes back to what it was before Finasteride days.
And no, this side effect is not a 'nocebo' thing, I did not know about the ED that Finasteride causes beforehand. I read basically all the existing scientific literature on the effect of Finasteride on ED afterwards.
I watch a lot of porn, I guess technically I am addicted to it. even though I have severe ED I can still masturbate and ejaculate to porn(although I am waaay less mentally engaged to it while being on Finasteride which I assume is due to lack of libido). I donno If watching porn itself contributes to ED or not.
It's important to note that before finasteride, I was a premature ejaculator (at least to porn).
I am(I guess I was until today) a virgin, 34 years old.
so my friend knows someone who is a pimp(I don't know if there is a politically correct word for this in English) and found a prostitute for me. I told him about my ED and he told me to take sildenafil and it will be okay. he is very sexually active and he always uses it.
I also didn't take Finasteride for two days.
on the packet of sildenafil , it says the maximum dose is 100mgs. I asked my brother who is an MD and he told me to only take 50mgs. I took 50mgs while waiting for the prostitute and nothing happened. took another 50 mgs and nothing happened.(my penis wasn't as shrunk at this point but not erect at all). took another 50 mgs and I realized it's getting a bit thicker but still no erection at all. I started watching porn and it would get erect a bit and I thought maybe when the prostitute arrives she will stimulate me enough so I could actually get erect.
I was also very tired and didn't sleep well last night.
before I get the next part, I should tell you that I live in Middle East and prostitutes are very scared of everything generally. Finding prostitutes also could be very difficult.
so she arrived, very distressed. sat down, I asked here do you want any drink or something and she was like "no, let's get into the bedroom already". for some bizarre reason she didn't want the lights on . when I sat down and tried some foreplay she said "wtf are u doing, why are you not naked and putting it in already"(she was both in a hurry and was not used to anything that I was doing)
so I put my penis in, and after maybe two minutes she was like why are you not cumming? and as she kept saying it I got less and less erect.
Also one very bizarre thing, this was the first time I was inside a woman, and she had given me a handjob, but strangely my penis was the least sensitive I can remember.
we kept trying multiple positions, she kept complaining about me not cumming soon enough and she eventually got disappointed and said she had to leave. at this point the desensitization of my penis was the most amusing thing to me. that Is something that I had never experienced.
I assume this desensitization was due to her attitude, the rush she was in, her having no interest in stimulating me, lack of any actual connection. I could feel that she didn't like what she is doing and she is very scared and just wanted to get it over and get paid.
any ways, she left and I could not ejaculate.
I guess the only positives were that at some points when I was pushing in, she would moan, and that contradicts my insecurities about having a small penis. she was also the first woman who didn't laugh at my dick(to b exact, she didnt actually give a fuck).
It was a very strange experience. I hope this information could be somewhat helpful.
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