Supplements to get in a highly sexual state of mind?

[leadbelly Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close leadbelly]

Hey guys,

I'm glad there's a forum for all this stuff. This is my first post.

I'm 28 and have had anxiety induced ED since I first started having sex. It's purely psychological for me, though I cannot seem to 'outthink' this problem.

My biggest problem when it comes to sex is that when I'm actually with a new woman, my brain has a very hard time getting into a sexual state. Things feel robotic. I'll be kissing her and feeling her body but it's not sending my whole body into the right state. There's no question about my heterosexuality either, something else is causing this. I will also note that once I succeed through the first few times of having sex with a girl, I never have a problem getting turned on and hard. Once a girl becomes my girlfriend, I get hard just from kissing her and sometimes just looking at her. But it takes so much more than that when we get in bed for the first time.

I've had 3 girlfriends. The first one was while I was 19-20yrs old, and I was never able to keep an erection long enough to penetrate. So we basically never had sex for that entire relationship. That really fucked up my head.

I then started working with a therapist, who I've continued working with for the last 8-9 years. He suggested trying viagra to get over the fear for the first few times with a new girl. I got some viagra and levitra samples from my doctor and I used them with my next girlfriend. The levitra did not work at all, though I'd been drinking a lot. The viagra worked, though it wasn't smooth sailing at first, but I was able to make it through the first time, then after the 2nd and 3rd time I never needed it again with that girlfriend and we had amazing sex for a couple years.

I did some online research on over the counter stuff for ED and read that Stamina Rx was good. I used that to get things going with my 3rd girlfriend. I found Stamina Rx to be inconsistent, but when it worked it was way better than viagra. What I liked about Stamina was that something in it altered my state of mind. With viagra I'd get a stiff boner but still be the scared anxious guy in my head. With Stamina Rx I went into a really sexual state of mind. I just felt slightly high and what I imagine a hyper-sexual, non-anxious guy feels when he's undressing a girl.

I believe that this mental state that I went into gave me a hard erection just as much as my body was reacting to the erection enhancing components.

You're probably thinking, "well just take Stamina Rx when you first have sex with a girl," but the problem is that it doesn't always work for me. I had a really bad experience where I took 2 of them with a new girl and they did absolutely nothing. It was crazy because it was actually the worst night of ED I've ever had. My dick was just a shriveled up anti-sex machine that night. My dick was in panic attack mode, I swear to god it was cold to the touch and the smallest I've ever seen it. Not enjoyable with a hot horny woman in my bed. We never got another date.

Then I took Stamina Rx again before I went on a 2nd date with a girl that I thought would end in sex. But it disagreed with my body and I felt really woozy and nauseous, making me act really weird on our date and I ended up just going home early because again I was in an anti-sexual state.

Ok, I'm done rambling now. I'm interested in hearing if anyone has discovered some supplements or anything that sends your brain into a highly sexual state?

Another problem I have from it is that it makes me think that the girl I'm with at the time is not hot enough to turn me on, but I know it's not true. Honestly I'd love to find a way to lower my criteria for women I sleep with. I know this sounds crazy, but it's like if I think a girl is cute, my mind will look for reasons why I shouldn't go for her. i.e. "i wish she had bigger boobs" or "her butt's a little too big"

I hate that my mind goes in that direction because I know it's bullshit and it keeps me from having alot more sex. I see my friends having fun and hooking up with cute girls, while I bitterly wait for some flawless girl who I think will send my brain into horny mode. I hope this makes some sense.

I'm dating a new girl now and we slept together last weekend but did not try to have sex. We are seeing each other next week and I'd love to have something in my pocket to get my head straight.

thanks guys

[VIPER Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close VIPER]

I suffer from anxiety aswell and currently undergoing CBT. Just like you it has had devestating effects on my EQ leading to ED. I have a strategy though, I am inquiring about meditation and relaxation courses which will hopefully be a great help. I am also now experimenting with supplements because there are some ingredients that have shown to reduce performance anxiety's. These ingredients are; Gingseng, Maca, Muira puama, damiana.
Only recently started taking supplements this week so it is still early days a lot of trial and error to come. Right now i am taking 1 capsule of L-arginine and 2 capsules of Damiana a day, I will monitor over the next week or so to see if there is any improvement if not i will try something else.
Other ingredients that are popular are; horny goat weed, omega 3 fatty acids, ginkgo biloba, Tribulus, pomegrannate.

[E_Weazy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close E_Weazy]

Search up Erection tea, as that will give u a boost in attaining an erection easier.

As for increasing libido, you could try MACA or Horny Goat Weed. I have a whole thread dedicated to taking these supplements as a seminal volumizer, but as a side effect, I had a voracious appetite for sex.

[angus Banned Find all posts View Profile Close angus]

Horny Goat Weed!
I purchased it hoping for some help with my ED & EQ (it did nothing for that), but it made me so ‘mentally & physically’ horny it was embarrassing.

I obviously don’t know how to cut/paste links within PEgym but if you’re interested, I posted a review within this thread a couple of weeks ago. Ying yang huo (Horny Goat Weed) It’s on 2nd page.

Angus

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Well you know leadbelly the problem is in your head.I don't think there is a supplement out there that would be powerful enough to overrule what your brain is thinking.If you're making love to a beautiful woman and all you can think about is not what you're doing but wether you'll get hard or not than that is a problem.Since it's your brain then you have to do something to get your brain out of the equation.Drinking is one way but it will affect your eq and girls tend to not like slobbering drunk guys and despite what we think if you were bombed enough to not worry about your erection quality you probably wouldn't be all that good in the sack.Pot would probably work well and put you in the mood and take your worried brain out of the equation and who know this may be a new use for medical marijauna; curing ed caused by anxiety.There another way to take your brain out of the equation. It has worked for weight loss and to help people quit smoking so it just may work for you with your problem; hypnosis! I don't know much about it but I do know it has helped people in other ways so that's just a thought and I hope it helps!

[flex Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close flex]

The hypnosis suggestion isn't bad. Performance anxiety is supported by the subconscious mind which is extremely powerful (as you see). That's exactly what hypnosis targets. You can probably learn to do it yourself, but it might not be easy for some people. You might want to find a good hypnotherapist and do a few sessions. Good luck.

[Nsome Member Find all posts View Profile Close Nsome]

Some times low sexual desire and following ED things that are mental are the result of low Testosterone..wouldn't hurt to get a test done and see what your T levels are.

[leadbelly Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close leadbelly]

Thanks guys.

To clarify, I do not have a low sex drive. I just got out of a relationship where I'd have sex up to 5 or 6 times a day, though I'd only see the girl once or twice a week.

My psychological issue is only when getting physical with a new girl.

I'm looking for a substance that does for sexual desire what marijuana does for appetite. My concern is my anxiety. It drastically alters my mental and physical state when I first try to have sex with a woman. I'd like to alter my mind in a way that signifigantly lowers my criteria for arousal. I'd like to get hard from making out with a girl. I do not think I should need oral sex to get hard. I know that something is different about the first sexual encounter because it takes a lot for me to get hard at first but then once I've had sex with a girl a few times, I get hard just from kissing.

I'm looking for any opinions from guys who have experimented with aphrodisiacs, i.e. things that stimulate the caveman/sexual part of the brain.

Here are the ingredients from the label on Stamina Rx. which one do you think causes the mental high that I was referring to when I said it worked awesome? Gamma?

1) Xanthoparmelia Scabrosa, which induces smooth muscle relaxation, allowing for maximum arterial dilation and increased bloodflow
2) Cnidium Monnier, which increases nitric oxide release and inhibits PDE-5, allowing erections to be sustained for longer periods of time.
Storage:
It is recommended that once you open the bottle of Stamina-RX™ store the product in your freezer to avoid any type of breakdown within the pill.
Stamina-Rx also contains:
Yohimbe 8% Extract - increases blood flow to the penis and dramatically increases libido. Stamina-Rx contains the highest percentage of yohimbine hcl in the world.
Epimedium/Horny Goat Weed - increases the sex drive as effectively as any compound known to science. Stamina-Rx uses a 20:1 extract, 5 times stronger than the competition!
L-Arginine - increases natural production of nitric oxide, leading to a more rigid erection.
Gamma Amino Butyric Acid - increases dopamine levels, igniting a euphoric feeling and increasing sensations during orgasm.

[sEctor-D Member Find all posts View Profile Close sEctor-D]

Supplements are there to support you, I don't think they can be used primary to boost your horniness. I've tried HGW etc. and yes I do feel slightly horny but anxiety is still present. It is still good to use them.

Sex drugs needless to say is for a boner, I can get them with or without the drugs, nevertheless the anxiety can inhibit me from "enjoying" the process. It is in the brain, and drugs/supplements can only do so much. I'll say just take them if you feel better with it.