Couldn't get an E with new GF?

[maiL]

Not had a girlfriend or sex for atleast 2 years
Find a girl I really like
We tried it on last night - I was hard, but then lost it....
Couldn't get it back
I'm 19... I should still be there now going like a train!

Wtf happened?

[Andy]

Don't worry buddy, we've all be there at some point, particularly when it's been a while. There's nothing wrong with you; it's all psychological. Just don't think about it too much, don't put pressure on yourself. Just have fun, do lots of foreplay. Over time it won't be a problem anymore. If she's into you it won't be an issue for her either.

I had this recently in the past and I couldn't get it up the first time alone with a new girl, so I just concentrated on pleasing her. She definitely had a good time so it was no big deal. The next time we were together I didn't think about it, and BOOM, massive erection! :-D

Kegels have helped me too.

Good luck with that mate.

[maiL]

Don't worry buddy, we've all be there at some point, particularly when it's been a while. There's nothing wrong with you; it's all psychological. Just don't think about it too much, don't put pressure on yourself. Just have fun, do lots of foreplay. Over time it won't be a problem anymore. If she's into you it won't be an issue for her either.

I had this recently in the past and I couldn't get it up the first time alone with a new girl, so I just concentrated on pleasing her. She definitely had a good time so it was no big deal. The next time we were together I didn't think about it, and BOOM, massive erection! :-D

Kegels have helped me too.

Good luck with that mate.

Come to think of it I would definitely agree that it's more of a psycho.. thing, but when you mentioned "have fun, lots of foreplay" that may have also been an issue, she knows i'm nervous as hell and it's been years so she whispered in my ear "are you sure?" but there was NO foreplay involved, a bit kissing but before I knew it she was taking her own pants and underwear off... in hindsight that sounds great but it was no fun?

And the thing about "is she into you"... well I think she is? This has happened twice now and she hasn't told me to fuck off, yet? But i'm not sure quite where we are at the minute, i'm a personal trainer at a gym she uses (that's how I met her - she approached me) and she is moving to Canada for life, next year. So we aren't technically like "together" I think and that also plays on my mind a bit i guess?

And lucky you being able to go down on your girl, I love it, but the girl i'm with now is very strong minded and if she doesn't like something she'll just tell you and push you away for 5 minutes..., and I tried to work my way down her body last night with kissing to try help me get going!, and she just said "no" and brought my face back up, again... no fun

Thanks for your reply!

P.s. i've also looked into the Kegel thing, thanks!

[Batwoman]

Not getting an erection (or not being able to keep one) the first time with a new partner is a very common thing. I have had it happen to me at least a couple times (from the female end of things, I mean). Usually the next time is fine!

[movinonup]

Sounds a little chauvinistic, but I found getting a blow job helps that first time stress issue. I have not had first time sex since '97, but that use to work for me.

[CUSP82]

Just rookie nerves! Just don't think about it and have fun and all will be well. Kegals will help so keep doing them but you'll be fine!

[MrBigDick]

I had that happen to me, especially after a 5 year absence from sex (no one ask!!). My first time with my lady friend I would only get maybe 75% erect.......all I needed was to blow a load with someone new and I'd be ok. I did and I was fine after that. It's all a mental thing man, age has little to do with it.

[crayrobs1]

No worries mate. I met someone several years ago that was as close to my "ideal" physically as I've ever seen. I totally psyched myself out with one thought "What if I don't get it up?" That did it!! I was so nervous having sex with my fantasy that I blew it. Andy is so right... just have fun. Go into it slow and enjoy each step along the way. But take heart man, we've all been there. It's ok.

[maiL]

Thanks for all the replys people, appreciate it! I was starting to thing I have low testosterone or something! Less of a man etc. which i'm sure some of you felt when it happened to you I hope! lol

This is my 1st day using Kegels, so will rest tomorrow, this morning it was quite hard to get used to but now I can do it whilst walking.

But fuuuu, it's actually starting to feel nice!? Is this ment to happen? It obviously doesn't beat oral or sex, but it's definitely knocking on the door!

[crayrobs1]

But fuuuu, it's actually starting to feel nice!? Is this ment to happen? It obviously doesn't beat oral or sex, but it's definitely knocking on the door!

Yeah maiL, it can feel nice. PE isn't all pain and discomfort. Keep going man. You may eventually want to consider a beginner's routine.