I have the solution I swear!

**meevo1983** · 04-16-2011

Ok I dont post here much or maybe I havent even posted here in my life. But guys listen! I got the freakin answer to some aspects of psychological ED.

Ok you always hear porn is bad and don't use porn to get an erection or to do PE well Porn IS bad. Its bad because you are training your dick to become erected by observing sex or nudity instead of masturbating as if someone is ACTUALLY fucking you.

I also agree with not masturbating too much but hey its not too bad if you do it a couple times a week IMO ONLY with sensation and 1st person (someone is boning you not you watching from a 3rd person).

So essentially we need to train our minds to get to that point where if we see a girl on the street your dick will be like yeah I want to be inside of that. WARNING : Softcore porn or images that make you masturbate and cum only to that image alone is just as bad as fucking with your brain and erections and porn. ANYTHING that you spectate instead of using 1st person imagination or even better stimulation alone to masturbate it bad.

Trust me guys quit all outside stimulus for a week meaning no pics no porn only PE for 1 week dont worry about masturbating and see how badly you wanna fuck a girl compared to the week prior you WILL be surprised. Thanks guys.

**aidan784** · 04-16-2011

I find this very interesting actually, I'll give it a try, maybe I'm a bit guilty of the pictures thing :/

Thanks for posting, repped.

**meevo1983** · 04-16-2011

Yes Aidan even pictures can be destructive.. The whole point of this thread is to inform you that ALL 3rd person erections and orgasms are bad sex is not a spectator sport. And the goal is when you pull your johnson out for cutie to have your johnson excited because it knows about sensation and wanting to be stuck in pussy.... I guarantee that this was my downfall and in my own experience when I started to stop porn and all external stimuli normal average girls I would start getting hard by looking at their asses and then later if I was doing well with no external stimuli I would get semi hard just from hugging a girl! LOL.

**k233g976** · 04-16-2011

what about using thoughts while masturbating? or is masturbating bad all together?

**meevo1983** · 04-16-2011

Ok my thoughts on that when you use thoughts use them pretending like a girl is sitting on your dick or giving you head or youre just fucking her. Make it real as you can. Picture her buttcheeks backing up into your cock for doggystyle etc. Masturbating in my opinion isnt bad but it can be easily abused. I try to keep it to once a week but I found it better for the whole hornyness for real women not to masturbate until you cant stand it but the longest ive went was like 3 weeks.. I mean I think we need release man otherwise we get horny. So just keep the masturbation in moderation and I do mean you have to TRY to moderate it its not gonna be easy..

This is more for HOW you masturbate and changing your brain from spectator to participator. Also I found guys that the lighter the grip and always using lube helps too. I mean plus it will simulate the whole fucking experience wet mouth and wet pussy I.E. ALSO if you fuck a tighter pussy it was feel like heaven to what youre compared to masturbate with lube with.

**kobimal** · 04-16-2011

Originally Posted by meevo1983

Ok I dont post here much or maybe I havent even posted here in my life. But guys listen! I got the freakin answer to some aspects of psychological ED.

Ok you always hear porn is bad and don't use porn to get an erection or to do PE well Porn IS bad. Its bad because you are training your dick to become erected by observing sex or nudity instead of masturbating as if someone is ACTUALLY fucking you.

I also agree with not masturbating too much but hey its not too bad if you do it a couple times a week IMO ONLY with sensation and 1st person (someone is boning you not you watching from a 3rd person).

So essentially we need to train our minds to get to that point where if we see a girl on the street your dick will be like yeah I want to be inside of that. WARNING : Softcore porn or images that make you masturbate and cum only to that image alone is just as bad as fucking with your brain and erections and porn. ANYTHING that you spectate instead of using 1st person imagination or even better stimulation alone to masturbate it bad.

Trust me guys quit all outside stimulus for a week meaning no pics no porn only PE for 1 week dont worry about masturbating and see how badly you wanna fuck a girl compared to the week prior you WILL be surprised. Thanks guys.

I like it.. It's like not eating ice cream for long time

**meevo1983** · 04-27-2011

Guys this is not good. I got nervous for a 2nd date (she accepted) but I was nervous as HELL on the phone. I kept stumbling over my jokes and stuttering, hell even some of my jokes were kind of offensive and I kept apologizing...this was all done over the phone with her. So even though she accepted a 2nd date I thought I blew it with her permanently.

So then I started getting depressed only because I THOUGHT I blew it and the 2nd date was only happening (which is this Friday 4/29/11) because she felt sorry for me and had some strange thought that she would either tell me its not working out on the date or just that she moved on! Our fear and anxiety does weird shit guys.

So then I wrote her on facebook telling her that I was nervous because I tried to hard to make this 2nd date happen and that I didnt want to mess up the chances of continuing to date ...which I believe she understands because she wrote back a link to a funny website and we chatted a little bit on facebook today and all seems OK (I hope.)

But here is where this is relevant to the thread. I kept rationalizing to myself after the phone conversation where I floundered that 'Porn is so much easier and you dont have to go through all this effort'. THAT IS A LIE!
So combine that with an apathetic attitude towards dating her anymore came over me and I masturbated FOUR!! holy shit FOUR! times in a day to porn (which was yesterday

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And boom I can feel the negative effects already. My body and brain are now reverting back to the whole specator sport of sex where I want porn instead of having a monogamous relationship! This sucks!
Im so sorry guys...here I was trying to be a role model and telling you guys what I know for a fact is right...and let some of my own self created fear and doubt get the best of me and fell back into stupid PORN.

Now its gonna be like another month until things are working semi normal AT LEAST. So in my hypocrisy I am sorry. Stay away form porn guys it seems like fear and doubt can get the best of us men. And you know what? I bet the date will go very well and I did all that self pity shit for no reason!

PORN destroys!

and Thanks for reading!

**CUSP82** · 04-27-2011

You will be condemmed for being human. The penalty for being human is that you are going to have to continue being human for the rest of your life. You know the way Bible quotes tend to piss people off around here? Well here's one of my favorites and if it pisses people off who cares? "Even he just man falls seven times a day'. Go be human! ( and have a bit of fun)