I've decided i need help...

[g_man Member Find all posts View Profile Close g_man]

Hey it g_man with another problem that needs someone to help me find out whats wrong and how to cure.
My problem is i can't seem to get it up arund women anymore and no im not gay. I can stimulate myself to porn and what not and even around the hottest of hotties i cant get it up for shit. I also have a minor problem that might link to it but i kinda trained my self in strong stimulation in nipple play when i was with my last girlfirend, and it got so bad as too where that all we would do to get it up.. idk. but This is really starting to get to me as its hurting my manly hood in the ability to not be able to enjoy sex and make a women happy sexually. I have a few ideas like, porn desensitization; been watching it since i was 16 and em currently 20, nervous do to my last girlfriend was my first and only and that i have a very strong need to please a women goal which ultimately leads to me being nervous due to wanting to really please her.

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Anxiety is a factor in ed, it could be mostly mental and porn.

[g_man Member Find all posts View Profile Close g_man]

you have any suggestions on what could help?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Stop porn.
My area is the physical ,I am of little help if there is not a physical component.- However during masturbation it is common to do kegel and not reverse kegels, there is the possibility of a physical imbalance as a factor. You could include reverse kegels as part of your rehab.

[g_man Member Find all posts View Profile Close g_man]

anything is worth a try. im just at that point where ill what i have to. i want to fix this. but yea i have heard of reverse kegals but not enough to understand and try them. I also hear that watch porn can desensitize , so all in all i should quit veiwing porn but what bout masturbation quit all together or cut down what?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

You should edge in a controlled fashion, be aware of what is happening in your pelvic floor. Report any involantary kegels or spasm ,I can help with that . Others may be able to help you with the head side of it.

[g_man Member Find all posts View Profile Close g_man]

ok im going to try masturbation til ponr then mantain it for awhile then quit. i find it has the same relief feeling as if i ejaculated. but i was wondering does it still cause a hormone change if i do this but not cum? or does it give me the benefit of cumming and since i didnt cum i still get the hormones for growth? im hope its a double positive and im hoping it will help my problem by helping with my libido from long terms of no ejaculation.

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

To piggyback on Peg's advice, your performance anxiety issues may take some time to overcome, but you can help speed it along with a few techniques that aren't really 'techniques.' Try to engage in really long foreplay. Not only will it buy you time to help get your head in a place to where you are not thinking about performance, it will also get your partner sufficiently hot enough that the energy she brings from her side can take your mind away from it as well.

[g_man Member Find all posts View Profile Close g_man]

yea then the image pops in my head what if i cant get it up then check it feels dead and she will think of me as less of a man.

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

yea then the image pops in my head what if i cant get it up then check it feels dead and she will think of me as less of a man.

Nah man ... if you two are goin at it hot and heavy, that'll be the last thing on your mind.

And you have to go into it with the mindset of everything's goin to be okay. That anxiety will kill any hopes of getting over the problem. Not saying it's easy, but it can be done .

[frankjemson Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close frankjemson]

Yep, porn is rotting your mind.

This is a mental ED issue, not physical. But relax, there are solutions. Firstly, use your imagination when you jack off, not porn EVER. Imagination rules.

When you jack to the sound of the underground, imagine yourself with a big hardon every single time. Jack off for a while, but don't shoot your wad every day. Only shoot it 2 or 3 times per week and hold back the other times. Breathe deeply.

You can find exactly how to do it by just googling "delay ejaculation technique" or something.

Good luck fella, you'll get better, believe me.

[code_junkie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close code_junkie]

g_man,

Take it from someone who's been in almost the same exact situation as you're in right now:
THERE IS NOTHING PHYSICALLY WRONG WITH YOU! Convince yourself of this by whatever means you have to.

This happens to SO many young guys here at the gym.

Here's my prescription for recovery:
- Stop watching porn. Masturbate only to feeling. You will probably have trouble keeping it up or even being mildly amused by this but it's to be expected. You're desensitizing yourself. It may take months.
- Do some good cardio for an hour a day at least a few times a week
- Eat right
- While you're having sex next time, don't think about needing to pleasure your girl. It's about you too. Think about how her skin feels, how she smells, etc. This will get easier once you've trained your brain to get pleasure from feeling and other your senses instead of visually.
- If you do lose your erection during sex, use your tongue or your fingers. They work too.
- Talk to your Dr. about getting a prescription for Cialis or Viagra. Take about 10mg about a couple of hours before your next lay. You'll be hard as a rock and you'll feel like a stud after you rail your girl, relieving almost all of that performance anxiety. This is my biggest recommendation.

Let us know how you make out. GL

[frankjemson Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close frankjemson]

There's tons of advice when you Google something like "maintain an erection for over 45 minutes"..

Don't panic, take it easy.

Stop the porn totally.

Starting training your Smith & Wesson on your own, just imagination and no filth ever.

Don't shoot your wad too often.

Maybe try something like hypnosis to chill you out. Some guys say it works...search "hypnotherapy for libido sex drive" or whatever, get one of those downloads.

Let us know how it goes.

[code_junkie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close code_junkie]

There's tons of advice when you Google something like "maintain an erection for over 45 minutes"..

If when you say advice you mean spam, then you're right on the money.

[hunglet Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hunglet]

Stop porn and relax man. It looks like its all in your head so stop thinking and go wild. I don't even think about my dick and it gets hard.