Lost erection during intercourse

[Zoliqa Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zoliqa]

Hi,

My problem looks like this: I used to masturbate to porn for many years, some months ago I stopped looking at porn altogether. At the beginning, 3-4 months ago when I had sex with my partner, it was pretty strange for me, I didn't feel anything during intercourse, sometimes my penis went soft, it was hard for me even to come. Abstaining from porn and hard masturbation it helped me a lot, I started to recover, started to feel some pleasure during sex but still I haven't reached the point to feel good. In the last 2 or 3 weeks I had another issue, I got erect but when I put the condom on, after 5-10 minutes my penis started to go soft and I lost all my arousal (during intercourse). Half on hour later tried again without condom, it was okay but than it's still risky because I'm worried all the time not to ejaculate. What is the problem with me ?

[needhelp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needhelp]

You just got too dependent on porn for a dopamine rush. What you HAVE to do(and by have to do I mean there are no other options) is stop watching porn alltogether(60-90 days), stop masturbating alltogether(60-90 days), and have no orgasm for at least a month or so. It might take you less than 60 or more than 90 but its what you have to do. Im currently on day 50.

[Zoliqa Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zoliqa]

The thing is that I haven't used porn for 3 months or so and I reduced my masturbation habit a lot. I noticed the things got better a bit but it's still not the best in addition to losing my erection during the act. Do you think that total abstinence would work for me and would I recover my sensitivity too ?

[needhelp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close needhelp]

Are you a virgin? Maybe its performance anxiety. And if I were you I would stop masturbating all together. If youre masturbating to a fantasy in your mind that is just as bad as porn.

[Cdn Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Cdn]

Condoms can also decrease the sensation, try unltra thins or something like it to see if that helps.

[carlos21cm Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close carlos21cm]

I think the porblem may be we want to have a 18 eyar old penis for life,getting spontaneus erections with an eye blink,hard as steel and recovering in 10min.
Probably its time for us to be realistic,time to think that nothing is good in excess and maybe due to a cultural aproval to masturbation and pornography we have abused it.
I always wondered,why is it that women cant give birth after 40 and we can have childrne up to 80? Well if we cant run at 40 like we did at 18 its absurd to think our little friend is going to stay the same for EVER...
So first thing I think is we all should realize that maybe there is not a problem with you,its just not going ot be the same,same as your face doesnt look that young.
Some people may have better genetics,or may not ahve abused sex masturbation drugs,alcohol,poor diet...Some people may not been stressed or may have had a stable partner to have a ful sexual life. For us singles,adicted to porn,drinkers,PEers or whatever is the cause that brings you here there is a common goal. Recover our erection hardness and lasting power,and/or libido.
I think we should be realistic,look in the mirror,read and learn from each other.See what the mistakes have been,see our age and present condition,try to learn fromt he mistakes make changes etc.
So in other words..WELCOME! theres nothing wrong with you,we are all here in the same boat and thru try and test we are getting some cmmon rules and knowledge that we can pass on to you,and maybe you can get your old erections back,or amke them even harder.Read every post in this board,you will learn from both the advice and mistakes. What has worked for somebody and what doesnt.
There are some common rules most of us agree.
1 Masturbating Porn is detrimental,better wihout it
2 Over masturbation over the years is detrimental and leaves your penis/nerves not sensitive
3 There are natural alternatives to viagra etc that can help you in the short and long term in a safer healthy way(Read The 5 G's post)
4 Abstinence form sex/mastubation is a key part of your erection recovery
5 Jelking can fight your ed in the short term,improve it in the long run(no consensus on this)
6 Kegels improve erection but theres is debate on the amount needed duration etc(no consensus)
7 Alcohol is the first thing to remove if you seriusly want your erections back.

You have to realize that time pass,that you may have done some damage to your penis,nerves or brain so you dont respond the same way. And you too need to realize that you need to take it seriusly and focus on reboot your system.
I ahve recently posted My Solution to Ed,there are guys alredy doing my routine with great results.Its fast and safe.feel free to try it and most importnat of all share your results good or bad so can help other guys.Peace

[Zoliqa Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zoliqa]

Thanks for the advices, Carlos. I read your other post on ed, it sounds good, I haven't tried it so for but I'm looking into it. Truth is I'm not a teenager anymore, I'm in my late 20s and the fact is was a virgin before I started having sex with my girlfriend. In the beginning it was very strange because I didn't feel anything during the act. The first time was like hell, at least for me, I couldn't even come. For my girlfriend it was good, she came several times. I gave up masturbation and looking at porn but sometimes we had some fights or misunderstanding and then I came back to porn and mb. I learned that porn and mb can lead to ed and lost sensitivity and I think it's true in my case because things got better with time, I recovered some of the sensitivity of my penis but it's still not okay, I think. In some positions, like the missionary I can't feel anything whatever I do, the only position that I like is doggy, because I can come faster and I can feel something during the act. In the beginning I had this issue that my penis went asleep but with time this was resolved but now, 3 months later things got worse as in the beginning even though I don't masturbate and don't look at porn. I lead a healthy lifestyle, I do weight lifting 4-5 times a week, I run regularly, eat healthy foods, don't smoke, drink, so I don't know what can cause this phenomena for me.
I tried to stay away from sex/masturbation but my record was only 5-7 days, maybe I need more time to recover, I don't know.

[carlos21cm Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close carlos21cm]

Thanks for the advices, Carlos. I read your other post on ed, it sounds good, I haven't tried it so for but I'm looking into it. Truth is I'm not a teenager anymore, I'm in my late 20s and the fact is was a virgin before I started having sex with my girlfriend. In the beginning it was very strange because I didn't feel anything during the act. The first time was like hell, at least for me, I couldn't even come. For my girlfriend it was good, she came several times. I gave up masturbation and looking at porn but sometimes we had some fights or misunderstanding and then I came back to porn and mb. I learned that porn and mb can lead to ed and lost sensitivity and I think it's true in my case because things got better with time, I recovered some of the sensitivity of my penis but it's still not okay, I think. In some positions, like the missionary I can't feel anything whatever I do, the only position that I like is doggy, because I can come faster and I can feel something during the act. In the beginning I had this issue that my penis went asleep but with time this was resolved but now, 3 months later things got worse as in the beginning even though I don't masturbate and don't look at porn. I lead a healthy lifestyle, I do weight lifting 4-5 times a week, I run regularly, eat healthy foods, don't smoke, drink, so I don't know what can cause this phenomena for me.
I tried to stay away from sex/masturbation but my record was only 5-7 days, maybe I need more time to recover, I don't know.

Its the same for me I loose my erection in missionary too very unocnfortable in my opinion,doggy is the best youc an be relax control and see the girl.Im not an advocate of complete and long abstinence of masturbation sex because instead of rest the penis can become weak.You need blood flowing.Talking to another user here who has tested different abstinence periods he got to the conclusion that once a week had the best effect on his erection.
I think you need to masturbate once a week,edging(search what it is),take the 5G's by kingpole and my kegel routine.You will definately see benefits.It doesnt look like you ahve a huge ed problem it can be solved with the right timing and diet

[Thick_Unit Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Thick_Unit]

2 Over masturbation over the years is detrimental and leaves your penis/nerves not sensitive

Been jerking it since 2001 no loss of sensitivity... The head is sometime painful to the touch..

[carlos21cm Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close carlos21cm]

Been jerking it since 2001 no loss of sensitivity... The head is sometime painful to the touch..

ok then keep going and in 3 years come back writing you lost sensitivity everything in excess is bad,you may ahve good genetics but jerking it over years in a compulsive way like we do cant be good,it actually is not

[Going411x7 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Going411x7]

Great advice here. Yes, those spontaneous erections that we got at age 15 or 16 start fading ever so slowly after that. By one's mid-twenties, losing an erection during intercourse is very, very normal. Not to worry. However, regular jelqing/kegeling and edging will keep age-related woodies going for a long, long, time.

[thenewdude Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close thenewdude]

Overdoing anything can be bad for you beside masturbation. But if you masturbate with too much pressure, indeed, you can desensitize your penile friend down there dulling the nerve ending on the penile membrane (the skin). Also, dry masturbation can cause penile nerve damage on the membrane due to too much friction.

[Zoliqa Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Zoliqa]

My question to you is whether I should be doing these exercises or should I abstain from any stimulation at for some time. From my experience I felt the best results in terms of sensitivity when I abstained from stimulation for a week or so, after that I felt really good.

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[dsfan Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dsfan]

Great advice here. Yes, those spontaneous erections that we got at age 15 or 16 start fading ever so slowly after that. By one's mid-twenties, losing an erection during intercourse is very, very normal. Not to worry. However, regular jelqing/kegeling and edging will keep age-related woodies going for a long, long, time.

I dont think ive ever seen anything written by a mod here that I second guessed, but.. I didnt think losing an erection during intercourse in a healthy male in their mid to late 20s was normal?