so some weird stuff has been going on with my penis for a little less than a year. I am a 20 year old college junior.
For about 3 months (last september through early december) i was smoking marijuana about everyday. Then I got hit with the horrid hard flaccid, thought my life was over, blah blah. I quit smoking weed and after a few months, my symptoms seemed to subside and things got better. My flaccid penis was still somewhat hard and uncomfortable at times, but my erection seemed to be almost totally back to normal, so the sometimes uncomfortable flaccid didn't really matter. I had had good sex both with and with out a condom while i was drunk several times.
Flash forward a few months with no sex (summer vacation at home blows), and the first sexual encounter I have at school this year I ended up being too drunk to achieve and maintain an erection. This didn't really concern me, as I had drank a lot and I knew that this is a common problem among guys. So i brushed it off.
About a month later (about 3 weeks ago), I ended up having sex with a girl I actually really like while also really drunk, probably about 12-14 drinks deep. Again I have problem achieving an erection, which didn't initially phase me much either because i knew how drunk I was.
Things ended up not really working out with the girl relationship wise, but I know it wasn't because of my erection, she understood it was the alcohol. We never had sex again when I was sober. But for about a two week period I had serious anxiety over the girl, cause I do really like her. coupling the anxiety with my usual sleeping problems and stress from work/school, as well as my self consciousness/concern about my erection problems (even though they were when I was drunk) made getting an erection extremely difficult. Now I do largely attest that to the fact that I wasn't very horny because of the stress, but things still seemed off.
I used to always get pretty good morning wood, amazingly hard every day before i had hard flaccid, and still some but typically not as hard after. Lately, I have been waking up with an enlarged penis, sometimes very hard all around, but the base is weak and loose. The most noticeable change is that my perineum, which used to be extremely hard/stiff and greatly contributed to the feeling and strength of my erection, seems to be soft relaxed now, only getting harder with stimulation, but still not as much as before. This is what really has concerned me. I had written off my previous problems as a result of the anxiety I was facing, but now that most of that anxiety is gone, I have gotten more anxiety over why my erections have been weaker/harder to achieve thank just 3 weeks ago.
Now I know these problems can really feed into themselves. I have been way less horny because of it- which i know can easily contribute to ed problems. lately when I am trying to get erections, i feel like im doing it just to see if I can, which is obviously bad and contributes to being self conscious. Usually for a while it feels like my penis just wont retain any blood- it just gets really loose and floppy but can't hold any blood in. Usually after constant physical and mental stimulation I can finally let go,get into it and become aroused, allowing me to maintain a pretty good erection with a mildy hard perineum, but it is never at the same speed/quality as before.
I was largely under the impression that you could prove mental ED with good morning erections, but now that my morning erections are actually weaker i am concerned. Oddly enough, through all of this my flaccid penis actually feels better and more normal (was less hard flaccid-like) since about the beginning of this whole ordeal.
Im sorry if any of this sis scattered or unclear, I just woke up at 5 am frustrated and figured I needed to hear some opinions. I know it probably is just because of stress/anxiety.
so what do you guys think? Does it sound anything like a venous leak? This is one possibility I have been considering.
Its only been about 3 weeks and I have been dealing with some really bad anxiety, so I really don't want to see a urologist if i dont have to, as I am hoping it all passes. But I have also considered maybe trying to some cialis and viagra to regain confidence. I am going to stay abstinent for at least a week, and probably start up on some kegels.
thanks for reading, any advice/comments is really appreciated.
For about 3 months (last september through early december) i was smoking marijuana about everyday. Then I got hit with the horrid hard flaccid, thought my life was over, blah blah. I quit smoking weed and after a few months, my symptoms seemed to subside and things got better. My flaccid penis was still somewhat hard and uncomfortable at times, but my erection seemed to be almost totally back to normal, so the sometimes uncomfortable flaccid didn't really matter. I had had good sex both with and with out a condom while i was drunk several times.
Flash forward a few months with no sex (summer vacation at home blows), and the first sexual encounter I have at school this year I ended up being too drunk to achieve and maintain an erection. This didn't really concern me, as I had drank a lot and I knew that this is a common problem among guys. So i brushed it off.
About a month later (about 3 weeks ago), I ended up having sex with a girl I actually really like while also really drunk, probably about 12-14 drinks deep. Again I have problem achieving an erection, which didn't initially phase me much either because i knew how drunk I was.
Things ended up not really working out with the girl relationship wise, but I know it wasn't because of my erection, she understood it was the alcohol. We never had sex again when I was sober. But for about a two week period I had serious anxiety over the girl, cause I do really like her. coupling the anxiety with my usual sleeping problems and stress from work/school, as well as my self consciousness/concern about my erection problems (even though they were when I was drunk) made getting an erection extremely difficult. Now I do largely attest that to the fact that I wasn't very horny because of the stress, but things still seemed off.
I used to always get pretty good morning wood, amazingly hard every day before i had hard flaccid, and still some but typically not as hard after. Lately, I have been waking up with an enlarged penis, sometimes very hard all around, but the base is weak and loose. The most noticeable change is that my perineum, which used to be extremely hard/stiff and greatly contributed to the feeling and strength of my erection, seems to be soft relaxed now, only getting harder with stimulation, but still not as much as before. This is what really has concerned me. I had written off my previous problems as a result of the anxiety I was facing, but now that most of that anxiety is gone, I have gotten more anxiety over why my erections have been weaker/harder to achieve thank just 3 weeks ago.
Now I know these problems can really feed into themselves. I have been way less horny because of it- which i know can easily contribute to ed problems. lately when I am trying to get erections, i feel like im doing it just to see if I can, which is obviously bad and contributes to being self conscious. Usually for a while it feels like my penis just wont retain any blood- it just gets really loose and floppy but can't hold any blood in. Usually after constant physical and mental stimulation I can finally let go,get into it and become aroused, allowing me to maintain a pretty good erection with a mildy hard perineum, but it is never at the same speed/quality as before.
I was largely under the impression that you could prove mental ED with good morning erections, but now that my morning erections are actually weaker i am concerned. Oddly enough, through all of this my flaccid penis actually feels better and more normal (was less hard flaccid-like) since about the beginning of this whole ordeal.
Im sorry if any of this sis scattered or unclear, I just woke up at 5 am frustrated and figured I needed to hear some opinions. I know it probably is just because of stress/anxiety.
so what do you guys think? Does it sound anything like a venous leak? This is one possibility I have been considering.
Its only been about 3 weeks and I have been dealing with some really bad anxiety, so I really don't want to see a urologist if i dont have to, as I am hoping it all passes. But I have also considered maybe trying to some cialis and viagra to regain confidence. I am going to stay abstinent for at least a week, and probably start up on some kegels.
thanks for reading, any advice/comments is really appreciated.
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