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    so some weird stuff has been going on with my penis for a little less than a year. I am a 20 year old college junior.

    For about 3 months (last september through early december) i was smoking marijuana about everyday. Then I got hit with the horrid hard flaccid, thought my life was over, blah blah. I quit smoking weed and after a few months, my symptoms seemed to subside and things got better. My flaccid penis was still somewhat hard and uncomfortable at times, but my erection seemed to be almost totally back to normal, so the sometimes uncomfortable flaccid didn't really matter. I had had good sex both with and with out a condom while i was drunk several times.

    Flash forward a few months with no sex (summer vacation at home blows), and the first sexual encounter I have at school this year I ended up being too drunk to achieve and maintain an erection. This didn't really concern me, as I had drank a lot and I knew that this is a common problem among guys. So i brushed it off.

    About a month later (about 3 weeks ago), I ended up having sex with a girl I actually really like while also really drunk, probably about 12-14 drinks deep. Again I have problem achieving an erection, which didn't initially phase me much either because i knew how drunk I was.

    Things ended up not really working out with the girl relationship wise, but I know it wasn't because of my erection, she understood it was the alcohol. We never had sex again when I was sober. But for about a two week period I had serious anxiety over the girl, cause I do really like her. coupling the anxiety with my usual sleeping problems and stress from work/school, as well as my self consciousness/concern about my erection problems (even though they were when I was drunk) made getting an erection extremely difficult. Now I do largely attest that to the fact that I wasn't very horny because of the stress, but things still seemed off.

    I used to always get pretty good morning wood, amazingly hard every day before i had hard flaccid, and still some but typically not as hard after. Lately, I have been waking up with an enlarged penis, sometimes very hard all around, but the base is weak and loose. The most noticeable change is that my perineum, which used to be extremely hard/stiff and greatly contributed to the feeling and strength of my erection, seems to be soft relaxed now, only getting harder with stimulation, but still not as much as before. This is what really has concerned me. I had written off my previous problems as a result of the anxiety I was facing, but now that most of that anxiety is gone, I have gotten more anxiety over why my erections have been weaker/harder to achieve thank just 3 weeks ago.

    Now I know these problems can really feed into themselves. I have been way less horny because of it- which i know can easily contribute to ed problems. lately when I am trying to get erections, i feel like im doing it just to see if I can, which is obviously bad and contributes to being self conscious. Usually for a while it feels like my penis just wont retain any blood- it just gets really loose and floppy but can't hold any blood in. Usually after constant physical and mental stimulation I can finally let go,get into it and become aroused, allowing me to maintain a pretty good erection with a mildy hard perineum, but it is never at the same speed/quality as before.

    I was largely under the impression that you could prove mental ED with good morning erections, but now that my morning erections are actually weaker i am concerned. Oddly enough, through all of this my flaccid penis actually feels better and more normal (was less hard flaccid-like) since about the beginning of this whole ordeal.

    Im sorry if any of this sis scattered or unclear, I just woke up at 5 am frustrated and figured I needed to hear some opinions. I know it probably is just because of stress/anxiety.

    so what do you guys think? Does it sound anything like a venous leak? This is one possibility I have been considering.

    Its only been about 3 weeks and I have been dealing with some really bad anxiety, so I really don't want to see a urologist if i dont have to, as I am hoping it all passes. But I have also considered maybe trying to some cialis and viagra to regain confidence. I am going to stay abstinent for at least a week, and probably start up on some kegels.

    thanks for reading, any advice/comments is really appreciated.

  • #2
    Have you ever taken hair loss drugs (propeca/ dutasteride), acne drugs (accutane) or anti depressants?

    Propecia has left my penis completely numb and i am impotent

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    • #3
      Let's see; too much weed, too much alcohol, too much stress so your dick doesn't work like it used to. You dick is only showing you what the rest of your body is going through on that diet. 12-14 drinks in one night? Let me ask you how's your liver? Keep going the way you're going and that won't work as well as it used to . No you don't have a venous leak. That's the biggest cop out when a guy ain't working up to snuff because of other factors. Venous leaks are not all that comon except on here where it is used more times as an excuse for not doing the right thing. Hey you can either clean up your act a bit and have your dick work better and live a bit longer or you can, well I'm sure you get the idea.
      The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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      • #4
        i havent smoked weed in months, I stopped immediately after having any problems with hard flaccid. About the alcohol, 12-14 is obviously excessive and unhealthy, that amount isn't always the norm, but 10 is typically pretty common. Binge drinking has kind of become the norm among many of my friends during the weekends. I know it is not good, I am not trying to justify or defend it one bit. I am more than willing to admit that drinking and stress could be the problem. But I've had drank excessively before and never had problems, only after recent events/stress that went with them. This has been the cause for my concern and maybe speculation about a venous leak or whatever. I really do appreciate your advice and bluntness.

        So obviously step one is to reduce drinking, if not quit altogether for a bit. Im working on stress. anybody have any other advice?


        And additionally I did take Accutane years ago, but i dont think that is it.

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        • #5
          You don't have to quit drinking per se, but cut back on it by a good bit. Also, take a look at this thread and try taking these supplement https://www.pegym.com/forums/erectil...erections.html. As for the stress, all I can advice for that is take classes or do something to relieve that stress (like yoga lol).
          Start
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          4.8" MEG

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          5.25" MEG (5.75" Base)

          09/2019 (Restart from 2 Year Break)
          7.625" BPEL (6.5625" NBP)
          5.125" MEG (5.875" BEG)
          4.25" NBPFL x 4.25" FG

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          • #6
            yeah i've been trying those. ginko, green tea, giner. erection tea. The think that bothers me most i guess is that I just noticeably feel like my perineum is not really getting hard. The rest of my dick gets pretty firm/hard, probably good enough for penetration, but I dont feel like its getting nearly as rigid at the base as it used to, which is my biggest concern.

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            • #7
              Stress is definitely a contributing factor both to libido and to erectile dysfunction. Uncontrolled blood sugar problems is another, not to speak of drugs like propecia. Even excessive cycling on non-ergonomic seats is known to cause temporary ED.

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              • #8
                BBH, im 21 now and experienced something very similar to you a year ago. Stress will definitely affect your erections and performance in anything that requires you to relax. I would recommend trying to determine what's got you anxious and making a game plan to address it. My poor EQ costs me a relationship, my girl tried working with me for months but their conditioned to seek that amazing penetration climax and if you can't give them that, this alone will stress you out. I can tell you at the time I was smoking bud habitually and had a very poor diet, that with the school and work "stress" was a toxic formula that kept me from having the great sex I wanted. What would benefit you the most is making changes to your lifestyle, the drinking, everything. I haven't been with any other women since the last one as I want to focus on being healthy and getting my vitality where it should be for dudes our age. Though I can't tell you about intercourse with my new and improved piece(since its been half a year), I can tell you my penis is way healthier those rock hard erections are back. A good regimen to follow is 1)Clean up diet (not just what you eat, but everything you put in your body) 2)Exercise as much as you can (reduces stress and gets your blood going) 3) Kegel. I just started taking 1000mg arginine daily along with cayenne pepper and already feel the blood flow improving. Drinking lots of water along with these other things I mentioned should put you in the state you desire within a month or two if you stay consistent.

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                • #9
                  Health supplements are a rich blend of vitamins, herbs, antioxidants, minerals, enzymes, and amino acids. Also referred to as nutritional or dietary supplementary food products, they are consumed to fortify the daily diet. It is necessary to keep in mind that are never meant for curing, preventing, or treating diseases. An important question: When should be a supplement be taken? A person should essentially get a rich blend of vitamins and minerals through the regular diet chart followed.

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                  • #10
                    funkylemonade just absolutely nailed it. Your dick is basically a thermometer of your overall general health. If you can't get it up, you need to clean it up! If you're in really good health and your dick doesn't work there's alternative solutions but the majority of ED is between the ears, not between the legs. I'm living proof of that. I had stress like I couldn't believe and had major and complete ED. With that stress gone, my vitality has returned. His advice is sound.
                    current BPEL: 7" -- goal BPEL: 8.5"+
                    current BEG: 7" -- goal BEG: 7"+
                    current MEG: 6" -- goal MEG: 7"+

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