Thread: getting nervous before sex
- 12-15-2011 #1
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so i've recently been having trouble with getting nervous before sex thus leading to a limp penis. This already happened twice with my ex- girlfriend now that im seeing her again. But only with her. Im seeing another girl as well and i never have this problem its always a 90%+. Are there any exercises or advice in avoiding this situation? I've recently started JP's beginner program for a week and have noticed some good results, bigger flaccid and i would say harder boners. Now i don't mind having this problem with my ex girlfriend but i am worried that it might happen with future girls. I don't want a bad first impression, what if she's smoking hot?
- 12-15-2011 #2
There's a reason she became an ex, right? You're not having any issues with this new girl, so I don't think there's really a problem here, other than the ex.Be a reflection of what you'd like to see in others.
If you want love, give love.
If you want honesty, give honesty.
If you want respect, give respect.
You get in return, what you give.
- 12-15-2011 #3
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If the girl takes you out of your comfort zone, it's okay to not want to sleep with her.
Just because you're a man doesn't mean your penis has to respond to visual and tactile stimulation and not mental. Sex is mental for both genders. If she doesn't do it for you mentally, or makes you uncomfortable, just don't waste time on the sex. You're likely not to cum even if you do get hard enough to have fun.
- 12-15-2011 #4
Wrong advice above. Its evasive and timid. Running away from the problem. Thats not how you solve a problem. You solve a problem by facing it head on. With that said, I think what you do have is in fact sexual performance anxiety (mental impotence) which is occuring with this girl and will most likely occur with other girls in the future because you are already fearing that it will occur. Thats enough to ensure that it will occur. Do you see how this works? Your thought patterns are interfering with the natural process of erection when the time comes. So what you need to do is de program your mind from the way you are thinking. That will solve the root problem which will enable you to not only have sex with this specific girl, but any other girl you want in the future. Now thats how you solve a problem.
- 12-15-2011 #5
- 12-15-2011 #6
Now for the OP, how long did you date your ex, if it has been a long relatioship then dont sweat a couple of times you couldnt get it up, I have been married for 13 years and its happened a few times, I am only a man, not a machine and I have never worried, I knew I was either tired or stressed or some otherfactors figuring in. I will tell you something that is more common than many know. I didnt get laid on my wedding night, no problem. There was a reason, we were not rich people so we did hours of work and prep for hours over a few days, ate and drank our asses off, danced and hosted freinds and family and by about 3:00 am, guess what. we passed the eff out. My wang looks and works great but we are not machines. If it has only happened a few times over the long haul chalk it off as tired or something else. See how this works
- 12-15-2011 #7
- 12-15-2011 #8
What if it wasnt something else, then maybe he should listen to someone whos telling him hes gotta problem right off the bat. You are jumping to a conclusion with absolutely no evidence. Plain and simply he has said I didnt get hard with my ex but when I am with my other gal who is hot I am ready to go. Do you see something there. Maybe the spark is goe but if people jump up and say well dude, you have mental EDthen he may stress and is more likely to get mental ED, keep giving that great advice. I am not saying you should help but be infromed before you start throwing stuff out there like that. I am getting that he may not like her because he called her an ex and claimed hes more than ready to go with the other, every time.
- 12-15-2011 #9
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Mental ED is something you can't "fix" by attacking the person. You fix it by attacking the cause. The cause is he gets nervous with his GF but not with his other girl. Why is that? who knows, maybe his GF attacked his manhood, you don't know that. Maybe she makes him feel less than a man. You can't fix a PERSON you can only fix your situation.
Your advice is wrong liliput.
- 12-15-2011 #10
Look. All i know is he said the word "nervous". What comes to your mind? Anxiety right? Get my drift? Anyway, lets wait for him to explain in detail.
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