Good Article Regarding Sexual Performance Anxiety

**TJM19** · 02-02-2012

I completely agree with you Rando. I need to step up my game with meditation too. But if we can learn to apply those breathing methods and control over our thoughts to sex it should eliminate the performance anxiety. I am also looking into starting yoga. Very similar to meditation plus it helps with flexibility and circulatory function. Started taking a bunch of vitamins for sexual health plus 5-HTP which helps produce serotonin. In addition to those I am going to the gym trying to get my confidence through the roof.

**jd10021** · 02-02-2012

For me, it came down to experience and learning about my body. If you've never given a speech or been on stage, the first time (or times) can be quite nerve-wracking for many guys. Once you get used to it, you start focusing on your speech/performance and stop worrying about everyone watching you. Also, I stopped masturbating daily/nightly or even worse masturbating multiple times. I learned that my body is not a machine and just because you can stroke yourself to orgasm doesn't mean that sex with a partner is something you can force on your penis.

**WalrusGumBoot** · 02-02-2012

Rando,

+1 on the post. Thanks.

**dsfan** · 02-02-2012

Originally Posted by Pegasus

Unfortunately guys often don't want to confront head issues.

This, this, this.

It's never psychological, it's always physical from what I've seen on here.

**TJM19** · 02-02-2012

Originally Posted by dsfan

This, this, this.

It's never psychological, it's always physical from what I've seen on here.

Wrong.

**Hockey_NY** · 02-03-2012

Originally Posted by TJM19

Wrong.

dsfan was being sarcastic, no?

**Koh** · 02-03-2012

Originally Posted by Rando

Wow, that's a bit odd, wonder how common that is. I just take erections by myself for granted at this point, it's when I'm with a girl that I start to question myself a bit and wonder if the erection will come, which of course ends up being an erection killer.

Yeah, I don't know how I am now. I haven't been with a girl since like April of last year. I've cut the porn since 1/11/12... I get random moments of starting to get hard when I'm in the presence of a girl I'd like to give a ride.

Just gotta keep at it, came close to relapsing tonight, just gonna try to edge it off without ejac.

**dsfan** · 02-04-2012

Originally Posted by Hockey_NY

dsfan was being sarcastic, no?

Sorry; yes, I was being sarcastic.

I can be stupid sometimes, I know that sarcasm isn't a good trait, and it's not easy to detect over the net, appologies.

It's amazing how many people simply refuse to accept how much of sexuality is indeed between the ears.

**laviewpoint** · 03-12-2012

You say it like its ease to overcome a fear. Listen just go to LA View Point | Overcoming men's sexual anxiety that will help... i'm sure.

**Drummer19** · 03-12-2012

I have researched anxiety and Pre-E a LOT. I have a lot of posts on threads about it too. It is very relevant in Pre-E and since I have been combating my anxiety issues I have had great leaps. Keep looking into it! Check out my https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...echniques.html thread also. In here I show that many arousal responses are similar to anxiety, which shows that they are linked.