Couldn't get it up

[adventurousman]

So I'm now 24 years old, 3 years ago in 2009, I went to a brothel with a friend, that was my first time and I was very nervous and couldn't do it, a week later I tried again with a prostitute and again couldn't do it. After that I was very nervous to even try it with another girl. Last week I decided to just go again and this time I assured myself I'd be able to do it, well this time I got relaxed, I tried many things, kissing,cuddling, making out, me on top everything for those 25-30 minutes but this time I didn't even feel aroused nor did I get even lil bit hard & when I'm alone I do masturbate and get a full erection, so what should I do?

I think its psychological but how can I overcome this when I don't have a gf to try it on many times, I can't go to a prostitute and try this every week.

please help

thanks in advance

PS: I'll go to my doctor to see what she has to say.

[medilook]

Viagra could help.

[Zman007]

You have phychological ED. There is nothing wrong with your penis. Some men cannot go to a prostitute as it lacks a certain intimacy and comfort level that they need. You have sexual anxiety. What you nee to do is find a loving girl who cares for you. The rest will happen all on its own.

You don't need viagra, and you don't need a prostitute. Find a real girl who cares for you. And try and relax.

[second lensman]

Oozman is absolutely right. If this sounds like the voice of experience, your ears do not deceive you!

[adventurousman]

You have phychological ED. There is nothing wrong with your penis. Some men cannot go to a prostitute as it lacks a certain intimacy and comfort level that they need. You have sexual anxiety. What you nee to do is find a loving girl who cares for you. The rest will happen all on its own.

You don't need viagra, and you don't need a prostitute. Find a real girl who cares for you. And try and relax.

I was thinking the same thing but now even when I see a girl I'm attracted to, in the back of my mind there is this voice that what if this doesn't work and u r not able to get it up again and to be honest this is going on for the last 3 years & that's why I've not met any real girls, many showed interest, in many I was interested too but couldn't go through with it.

Now logically I'm convincing myself that I should give it a try, I don't have to have sex on the same day, we can wait and see where it goes, somehow I wanna take the pressure off myself but I don't know if logic helps here as the feelings just show up

[Hockey_NY]

I was thinking the same thing but now even when I see a girl I'm attracted to, in the back of my mind there is this voice that what if this doesn't work and u r not able to get it up again and to be honest this is going on for the last 3 years & that's why I've not met any real girls, many showed interest, in many I was interested too but couldn't go through with it.

Now logically I'm convincing myself that I should give it a try, I don't have to have sex on the same day, we can wait and see where it goes, somehow I wanna take the pressure off myself but I don't know if logic helps here as the feelings just show up

Exactly...Once again, mental ED. You equate those earlier experiences and are worried it will happen every time, regardless of who you're with. The answer would be different if your three encounters were legit, but they are obviously just a non-emotional fling and that didn't work for you.

You are going to have to start living your life though and come to the rationalization that the first few times were makeshift encounters not out of love. You have to believe that when you get into a real relationship, your natural juices and feelings should get you through just fine. But it won't if you are too nervous and worry too much. Hopefully when you get into the right relationship, things will progress smoothly and naturally.

It's an absolute pity that you are missing out on relationships and sex on something that should not be a big deal at all. So I wish you the best of luck.

[adventurousman]

Exactly...Once again, mental ED. You equate those earlier experiences and are worried it will happen every time, regardless of who you're with. The answer would be different if your three encounters were legit, but they are obviously just a non-emotional fling and that didn't work for you.

You are going to have to start living your life though and come to the rationalization that the first few times were makeshift encounters not out of love. You have to believe that when you get into a real relationship, your natural juices and feelings should get you through just fine. But it won't if you are too nervous and worry too much. Hopefully when you get into the right relationship, things will progress smoothly and naturally.

It's an absolute pity that you are missing out on relationships and sex on something that should not be a big deal at all. So I wish you the best of luck.

True, another reason I'm delaying is that if somehow it doesn't work with a real girl then it'll be just more evidence that I can't do it even with a real girl and then it'll get even worse, the reason i wanted it to work with a prostitute is because it would have given me enough confidence and evidence that I can do it but now I don't know, I mean the girl I was with was attractive and she was very nice, she did everything I said, I mean she behaved like she was my gf but time and money can be 2 factors as I know I'm paying for it + I know there is time limit so that can put pressure on me.

As u said I've to find a real girl anyway because there is no other way, my GP might prescribe some viagra but am not sure about taking those either, & after that episode I've not watched porn and have masturbated only twice to see if its really working or not as I was having my doubts but all is well, so that's good news

[dejaview]

So I'm now 24 years old, 3 years ago in 2009, I went to a brothel with a friend, that was my first time and I was very nervous and couldn't do it, a week later I tried again with a prostitute and again couldn't do it. After that I was very nervous to even try it with another girl. Last week I decided to just go again and this time I assured myself I'd be able to do it, well this time I got relaxed, I tried many things, kissing,cuddling, making out, me on top everything for those 25-30 minutes but this time I didn't even feel aroused nor did I get even lil bit hard & when I'm alone I do masturbate and get a full erection, so what should I do?

I think its psychological but how can I overcome this when I don't have a gf to try it on many times, I can't go to a prostitute and try this every week.

please help

thanks in advance

PS: I'll go to my doctor to see what she has to say.

Dinner and a movie with your gf, might prove better in the long term, for both your wallet and your intimacy skills.

[dexter68569]

So I'm now 24 years old, 3 years ago in 2009, I went to a brothel with a friend, that was my first time and I was very nervous and couldn't do it, a week later I tried again with a prostitute and again couldn't do it. After that I was very nervous to even try it with another girl. Last week I decided to just go again and this time I assured myself I'd be able to do it, well this time I got relaxed, I tried many things, kissing,cuddling, making out, me on top everything for those 25-30 minutes but this time I didn't even feel aroused nor did I get even lil bit hard & when I'm alone I do masturbate and get a full erection, so what should I do?

I think its psychological but how can I overcome this when I don't have a gf to try it on many times, I can't go to a prostitute and try this every week.

please help

thanks in advance

PS: I'll go to my doctor to see what she has to say.

Adventure man.. just one Q.... how often do u have a happy time in a week...and in a day. (masturbate)
Do u watch a lot of porn?
Porn can make u live in a fantasy world.
And i guess u r already in a fantasy world.. expecting to have sex with every new girl u meet.

fantasy isn't wrong... but if u start to live in it then u might not like the real world.

In ur room u fantasies about sex.. and u have good erection and everything..

With a girl u cannot create the same fantasy .. so ur body says... aiiye... i donot like it. And hence ur penis... say.. fuck off.. i am not doing it

U need to re-program your brain.

And that is no sci-fi.. technique.. Just quit watching porn and masturbation for 10 days.
Donot think abt ur past failures....and just drop the topic for 10 days.

It might be hard for u as u have a perpetuity of living in a fantasy.

After 10 days ..i can say this with garantee.. u will wake up with a Tower (big hard on).

U will have hard on.. just by looking at Good girls.
U will be having happy sexual encounters.. as ur penis will be very very happy.

believe me .
Just stop watching porn and masturbation for 10 days.

This is a immediate remedy . quick fix..of sort but u need to stay loyal to the course to see the final result.

Keep me informed how you been doing.
And remember u donot need viagra...we all have a great body... its just it needs maintenance for maximum output. Don't worry be happy

[adventurousman]

I used to masturbate almost everyday and watch porn every other day but since this incident I've stopped watching porn completely and have masturbated only twice & today is actually my forth day without masturbation & porn & today I had a hard on when I woke up, lol + I had sexual dreams but am not sure about a wet dream.

I don't want to have sex with every girl nor do I believe I'll have sex with every girl I meet but there are good chances that I can meet up someone great, I was putting too much pressure on myself, from now on I've decided to forget about dating and just meet women for the sake of meeting them.

what do I do after the 10th day? Go back to masturbating if I've not find a girl?

I believe I can quit porn very easily even masturbation isn't the problem, so I'll let u guys know how it goes.