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[helpme1 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close helpme1]

I'm 5'10 , 190 and am very active. I've been doing sports my whole life. One thing I do notice is I almost always have high blood pressure in the high - pre hyper tension area when I check and probably suffer from performance anxiety. It's not like I have a small penis, I just CAN'T get it up. I very rarely have morning wood and take no medications. I first tried to have intercourse when I was 14. I wasn't nervous, but entered inside and quickly became flacid. The next time I was either 15 or 16. The female was very attractive and I couldn't get hard enough at all and was completely embarrased and even went home. To make a very long story short, it's the same thing every time. I just can't get it up. I've tried with maybe 8-12 different girls total. Im now at the age of 20 and I don't want to grow to an old man and have it become impossible.

I've visted the doctor once and he couldn't tell me much. We ran a test for testosterone and mine was even highger than usual. He gave me sample viagara and cialis and it didn't work. I must admit I have watched a lot of porn of the years and masturbated a lot when I was younger.

I've recently started kegel excercises and they seem to have an effect, but can anybody tell me what is truly wrong with me from reading all of this? Feel free to say whatever.

I need an answer I can't take it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Hardheaded Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hardheaded]

Do you get nervous before sex? I think maybe it's because of your first bad experience that's what's making you worry? My advice would be to find a girl and build a steady relationship with her, build trust and be honest about everything. When it comes to sex she should be patient with you. You won't be worried about disappointing her either as you can always try again.

Is it that you weren't nervous at the start but since that bad experience now you are? It's seems more like a mental issue to me, but I'm surprised viagra didn't work?

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Even Viagra won't work with a severe mental issue. Time to go and talk to a therapist. They do help.

[Hardheaded Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hardheaded]

Okay well that makes sense. One night stands are never a good thing especially in your circumstances. It's anxiety at it's best.

[helpme1 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close helpme1]

So I'm crazy and I never knew haha, I hope they can help me. I appreciate the diagnosis, that definetly could be it. I've never told a soul everything like I just did

[Hardheaded Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Hardheaded]

Do you get nervous if the opportunity of sex presents itself? It's just a case of performance anxiety and no you're not crazy. It's good to tell others and get things off your chest.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

Why is it that every guy would rather put some phyiscal cause on what ails him instead of mental? Is it easier to accept? And why is it that we have to think that we're mental? Minds have diseases just like the physical and can be helped. Baring any unforseen medical problem or if you hit your dick with a hammer if you don't function it's not the physical at all. It takes a man to admit that maybe he needs a bit of help now and then; everybody does!

[billywilliams Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close billywilliams]

Can you get hard if you masterbate. If this the case it is an anxiety issue. If you get hard watching porn what type.

[litopita Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close litopita]

but can anybody tell me what is truly wrong with me from reading all of this? Feel free to say whatever.

I need an answer I can't take it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

There is nothing is wrong with you. And it is very crucial that you understand this. You just happened to experience a sexual "failure" at a very young age that left a huge mark. Trying to have high pressure sex at 14 years of age is a recipe for disaster. We should always remember that SPA feeds off of failures that it stacks up against each other. Looks like you suffered a number of these at a very important stage in formative life. What you have now is deep sited SPA. But I wouldn't worry so much if I were you because unlike a real disease like Diabetes or cancer, this is just a mental issue centered around self perception and can be easily sorted. There is a long trail of threads here about Sexual Performance Anxiety and also on the net. Start by checking those out.