Healthy fit young man (21) struggling with erections and libido

[THE3WOLF Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close THE3WOLF]

So ive been looking for a solution for a while and i thought id mine as well throw it out there and see if anyone has any helpful advice or guidance.

My problem is i've been struggling with achieving full 100% hard on erections like i use to get and this problem started probably a little over 5 months ago roughly and i believe has become gradually worse over the 5 months.

A little history. I'm 21 years old. Physically in great shape (not boasting). Eat healthy and properly. I'm 6' 4" 225, used to be a college football player. Had a couple bulging discs in lower back that are still healing. I Use to have a ridiculous high sex and would get erections just lookin at chicks and sittin in class and the gym and I never had an issue getting or staying hard in a sexual encounter. I dated a girl for a couple years, sex was great, never struggled with achieving an erection we were really into each other than she broke it off for reasons still unbeknown to me. She broke my heart, no lie, and i definitely went into a little depression and i wasn't the same for a while. Now before i met this girl, i hadn't jacked off or masturbated in my whole life and when she broke up i started masturbating a few times a week cause i was still really horny and turned on. She was my first... to add to that however, As time went on (4-5 months) I noticed i started taking the porn watching a little too literally. What i mean by that is i was taking what they were acting out too literally, like when they got all excited about a big dick or whatever and horny housewives cheating on their husbands and stuff even though in reality i know its their job to act that way. But it made me a little unconfident and so i think that plays some role, possibly porn ED? ....Now i know anxiety, depression, and stress can effect libido and the mind which can affect erections but it's been almost two years now, im over it, ive had sex with other women since then, two to be exact, and im completely perplexed and confused out of my mind by this. Now i can add that i was pretty hard with the one girl but not 100%, and i wasn't with the other, not even 70%, and couldnt even finish even tho she still enjoyed it. Ever since this break up though i havent had the same sex drive as i did before, or even before meeting that girl i dated. I mean i wasn't a sex maniac or nothin but i was definitely turned on all the time by just seeing girls, dancing with them, and just imagining them.

I've been to a urologist, two actually, and they too can't seem to understand the issue. The one said i had a prostate infection which i took antibiotics for, which seemed to help but not 100% better. The other gave me low miligram doses of Cialis which i tried but i didn't really like cause it didnt feel natural and im not into that kinda thing. As of now, I am now retaking the antibiotics because he thinks it may still be infected which he said cause affect the nerves and urethra but i don't feel like this is the solution. In terms of sex drive however, its still not close to being where it was. If i had to gage what percent my erections are at it would have to be about 60% and thats still if i was masturbating by myself or with a girl. Also i haven't had a morning or night time erection for like over 6 months i think and i had blood tests done and they said there wasn't anything wrong with my testosterone or nothing. I lift about 4-5 days a week. What the hell is wrong haha

So my question is, whats the problem!? is it mental, physical, performance anxiety, or stress related? It's really drivin me crazy cause i feel as if im doing everything right; eating, working out, seeing a counselor (psychiatrist). Literally a year and a half ago i never thought for a second that erectile dysfunction and these type of issues would ever ever be a problem and now i feel as if ill never get them back. So if anyone has any helpful advice or knowledge or guidance i would be truly greatful and i appreciate you even taking a look at this. Thank you and god bless.

[erratic Member Find all posts View Profile Close erratic]

Hi man,

I 'm not an expert but the info I gathered on the subject really makes me think twice before watching porn. Yourbrainonporn is perhaps the most prolific website on the question. As a beginner in PE, what I could tell you is : keep your clean lifestyle, start PE'ing and stop porn for good. If you're still messed up by your previous relationship, tell yourself this: pussy is the most abundant resource on earth, after water. Understanding this helped me more than anything else.

I don't know if you are here for the size thing but it seems to me that even if it's just for reconnecting with your penis and you sensations, penis exercising is worth it. So many mental pollutions for our cocks nowadays. As someone with an interest for feminism, I've always been aware of the amount of sexual solicitation surrounding us, but on a intellectual level. Now that I'm the process of getting rid of all this, I feel overwhelmed by the stimuli, on a more emotional level. Hope it makes sense. Anyway, NEVER give up on your penis, and keep us posted here, I haven't been here for long but I think you'll always find support from the others guys ( and girls !) .

E.

[CompensatingForMuscleMass Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close CompensatingForMuscleMass]

What is healthy and properly? How many kcals? What kind of exercise?

A longterm kcal deficit can destroy your sex drive and erections.

[THE3WOLF Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close THE3WOLF]

Sorry for the late response, been away... I stopped using porn and its been about two weeks now and its been working. In terms of exercise i lift 4 days out of the week and i mean i eat good, like healthy, the way a religious bodybuilder would, and im sorry but i dont know what you mean mean by kcals. like kegals?

[THE3WOLF Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close THE3WOLF]

kilocalories?

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

I have the cure ... totally quit porn 100%. Masturbate as little as possible. Start Jelqing/PE every other day. Watch your erections become strong and frequent. You are welcome.

[DavidvsGoliath Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close DavidvsGoliath]

For working out, what supplements do you take? Protein etc? I have a few good supplements I take pre work out that help improve my ED, if you want to know more PM me and i'll give you the details of what has been working and how i have seen improvement. Good luck

[NOWHARD Banned Find all posts View Profile Close NOWHARD]

Hi Wolf, You could be suffering from porm enduce ED, and how long has this disc problem been going on, does this coinside with your erections and disc problem, as this could be nerve damage leading to pore erections.
I would think working out in the gym, still with your back problem not such a good idea?
Ok I thionk you need to take a sabbatical from porn as you doing and just kick it into touch for good unless your with a women, and this sabbatical should last 8 weeks, and you dont do any masturbating or have any sexual contact for the 8 weeks, if you read up about this your find its a standard thing for rebooting your nody and sex life, if you not getting any nocternal erections or morning woods, by week 4 these should have started to come back.
You should find this helps, if it does PM at the end of your 8 weeks, and tell me how you have done, and I have some herb lists that may also help after your 8 weeks.
Good Luck

[TurtleProblems Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TurtleProblems]

Might be the discs, might be psychological, might be something else. Ever had your blood pressure, blood sugar checked?

[THE3WOLF Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close THE3WOLF]

Thanks for the posts fellas. So the only supplements i take are whey protein. I drink a crap ton of water each day, and eat the best i can, as if i was a professional body builder. I haven't masturbated for 2 weeks now and im not going to watch any porn. After the first week of non masturbation i got a randon erection when i standing the pantry getting some food (wasn't turned on by the food lol) and it felt damn good. My libido has been a little more engaged lately. When laying in bed before i sleep and in the morning i noticed i got decently hard a few times. With that said, this second week i haven't gotten or felt any of those erections i felt within the first week, and i was slightly confused.. is this normal? I understand it takes 4 weeks to kind of reconnect yourslef and should take about 90 days to abstain from porn which i plan on doing. Aside from that, the only other thing i am taking that is abnormal is an antibiotic called Ciproflaxacin, which the urologist told me to take about 4 weeks ago to make sure i still didn't have any infection/inflammation in my prostate. Again thanks for the posts and itd be much appreciated to hear more advice or knowledge. - Wolf

[THE3WOLF Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close THE3WOLF]

and as far as the bilging discs go, i've had them for about a year and a half but they've gotten much better. Ironically enough, i was able to achieve a hard erection when my pain was at its worst so i don't believe they coinside with eachother, and i pray there is no nerve damage.

[idontknow103 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close idontknow103]

Hey Man, first of all, sorry to hear about the issue. Seems like you have a number of potential possibilities here as well as a number of things to think about. First and foremost, I agree with the recommendations about cutting the porn. There are a number of research studies that have provided evidence that porn has a major influence on our brain and hormone release and that it alters our libido. At 21, getting back to your natural libido involves cutting the porn. While we're still talking about your head (your big one that is...ha) there could be some emotional/psychological issue going on. I'm no clinical psychologist but I would recommend keeping a log of sorts when you get erections, when you struggle to get erections, etc. and kind of see where your mind is at the time. When you're masturbating and lose your erection, what thoughts came to mind? Is there some recurring issue or emotion that's triggered that's contributing to the issue. Just something to think about. Also... talk to someone. Whether that be a close friend your comfortable with or someone here on the forum, find someone who will just listen to you and get some stuff off your chest, it may be of more benefit than you think.

As far as the bulging discs, I'm assuming either L4-L5 or L5-S1 which is common among a football player, your penis and scrotum are innervated by L1 and S2/S3 for the most part, so you kind of avoid that area so I would hope no nerve damage.

Have you had any other symptoms of prostatitis? It seems like the antibiotic is helping but have you considered some prostate massage? Kind of a controversial topic but after doing your own research on it, you may find some benefit.

Lastly, pick a time and get on a routine with masturbating. Same time, same place, all the time just to get back in the swing of things. People love routines and instead of spontaneous/impromptu masturbating, get your body programmed for it for a few weeks. Relax ahead of time, close your eyes, think for a few minutes, and then clear your mind and get going.

Best of luck!

[THE3WOLF Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close THE3WOLF]

hey thanks alot for the post, really appreciated. I would like to start masturbating again but i feel like i should wait out the a full 4-8 weeks before doing so.. would you agree? Ill look into the massage on the prostate and i do see a counselor every few weeks maybe i should see a sexual therapist instead though. Otherwise i haven't masturbated or watched porn for 2 weeks going on 3, and im hoping this resets alot of things.

[MapleLeaflet Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MapleLeaflet]

Dude, you do not need masturbation and ejaculation at this point. First, start getting hourly boners throughout the day, then you may start thinking about occasionally releasing the "stress." An urge to masturbate without crazy spontaneous erections means that's an addiction-related urge from your head, not the body. You can ignore it, which may be hard, as it is hard to battle any addiction, but that's another issue you can deal with.

To me, if you are practicing PE, the objective should be not to ejaculate (through masturbation), only ejaculate during natural sex, which is completely different. If you do not have a girl and want to ejaculate, it will give an extra strong stimulus to find one.

Good luck.