New Member, concerned about own member

[madoktopus]

Hi Guys,

thanks for taking the time to read this, i really would appreciate any help you may be able to offer.

Quick summary: 24, a bit overweight (30% bodyfat) but started weightlifting again 2 months ago and seeing good gains. Fat gain could well be related to lower back injury and gerneral lack of activity although never been under 20%. Reasonable (5/10) sex life which has responded somewhat positively since going back to the gym. However confidence still low due to the below points:

In essence, i've grown a bit concerned about my cock. Over the past year it has changed shape and colour. I used to have a straight, uniform penis. However now my penis has a dark mark, almost a bruise on one side, and also has a small kink behind the glans and a noticible pea size lump in the shaft. The lump was bigger and painful when it first arrived. I think it is part of the main dorsal tube/vein. It is relatively painless now (unless vigourous masterbation or sex makes it flare). The penis is not as 'attractive' as it once was. My penis itself is, as an estimate, 2-3" flaccid and perhaps 6" erect. I am sure my penis used to be longer when erect a few years back. I remeber hitting the 7" mark on a ruler back in colledge. Something has changed. I am also concerend that my penis's widest point is mid way along the shaft. The glans appears normal, the base is rather narrow. If it helps in any way, am im uncut but have a naturally very small amount of foreskin.

Secondly, and perhaps more imortantly, I do have 'trouble' with my erection. I did go to the Doctor, but i was told it was fine and only to come back if sex became impossible. In this case, the issue is that i physically cannot keep an erection unless i am consiously tensing. This has been all I have ever knowm since i started masturbating aged around 8 or 9. Furthermore, my erection has always pointed to the floor - with ultimate tensing, I can make it hit maybe a 3 or 4 o'clock position for a few seconds before it droops down again. Although i've seen a lot of porn, I thought all men were consiously tensing their asses off during sex until a friend of mine ( penis curves towrds belly button when erect -'stands to attention with no effort) told me to investigate this further. Sex can become difficult as after say 15 minutes my inner muscles hurt and I have to relax. This will cause me to lose my erection almost instantly. Not doing this often results in cramps in the 'gooch' perineum / prostate area.

I am not looking to stretch my penis for size gains (unless it would help the base), I just want an erection you can hang your hat on that doesnt hurt or have ugly brusing or a lump.

I can provide pictures if it would be beneficial.

All help appreciated, thanks,

[madoktopus]

bump?

[someone_like_u]

Hey madoktopus and uhhhhh, guess we all dropped the ball on this one huh? I'll gather a welcome committee and maybe some of these guys around here can offer ya some advice.

Umm, welcome to the gym......a year and a few months later.

[Looking4more]

Welcome to the Gym Madoktopus.
You can post pictures in an album and members can view it there. Please don't post them in the open forum.
We'll have to see what you have going on before we can even begin to think about giving any advice at all. If the doc says you're OK then it may not be too hard to fix.

Probably nothing some jelqing and stretching couldn't take care of.

[MrB8]

Hi madoktopus, and welcome to the Gym!

Were you doing any PE exercises? And when did you notice those changes?

You may want to take a look at the Premature Ejaculation Forum especially the following threads, to balance your pelvic floor muscles.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...r-balance.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...se-kegels.html

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...loor-yoga.html

Kegels: Only One Piece of the Equation to Strengthen the Pelvic Floor

[burtybasset]

Welcome to the gym madoktopus!

Have you practised any exercises since joining? Taking up JP90 has contributed to EQ gains for me, whilst watching PI's.

Physiologic Indicators (PIs) to Help Penis Growth!

Just take it easy if you are just now beginning PE, this is a good read if you haven't read it.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/penis-e...t-mindset.html

Maybe you might benefit from reading this thread on balancing your pelvic floor.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...r-balance.html

Edging helps me with EQ, so this might be worth a read too.

https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...ing-101-a.html

I think doing a light beginners routine and incorporating some kegels and edging may help you with your EQ.

That's all I have for you at present, good luck, stay positive!

[Pirate]

Welcome aboard!
Although sneaking aboard and then laying low for a year(!) might make you our first ever stowaway!
Anyway, I think you should reengage with your doctor and, if he doesn't take your concerns seriously, see a different doctor.
Are you doing any sort of kegel routine?
Yarrr!

[TPW]

Hey there madoktopus,

Our sincerest apologies for missing your original post. The guys have provided you with some great threads and advice and should you require it, there are also some helpful and supportive women available on the forum who are more than willing to offer their insight and wisdom. We can often be located in the following forums:

A Woman's Perspective

Relationship Forum

The Gym

Welcome aboard, little stowaway.

[MrsLooking4more]

Hello madoktopus! I see you now have more reading to do that you probably wanted to have. LOL. I agree with Pirate (after all I donna want ta walk ye plank). On a serious note, I would definitely see the urologist (not just the generalist) and get a second opinion if needed. Good luck!