Lost ability to feel orgasm

[blackmesa Member Find all posts View Profile Close blackmesa]

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Hello there,


I am a 22 year male, slightly overweight, average looks, virgin.


I am experiencing something that is shutting down my whole sexual life. I cannot feel any pleasure on ejaculation anymore, no orgasms, no pleasure. This condition might have the name of anorgasmia.


The curious thing is that I that I don't have ED, my erections are good, I have lots of libido, I ejaculate normally, during masturbation I feel some pleasure and after ejaculation I have that peace of mind feeling. Everything looks normal from the physiological point of view, except that when I get after the PONR and start ejaculating I don't feel anything. It doesn't matter for how long I was masturbating, if it is with porn or not, if it is after days of not masturbating, I cannot feel an orgasm anymore.


So, now I will give some background of what might have happened. I watch porn regularly since I was 12 and got hardcore over time. In 2011 I met my first girlfriend. She would call her self nymphomaniac and talk about sex with me daily, but somehow, she stalled me during this whole time and we did not had sex. She had a really problematic personalty. Anyway, on December 2011 she broke up with me. Like most first loves a man has, she broke me apart and I missed her like hell and felt deeply depressed. And one thing that I've found out that could keep her out of my mind was masturbating.


I started masturbating about 6~8 times a day, with no purpose of feeling pleasure whatsoever, just to get it done and feel the anxiolytic properties masturbation gives you. I remember occasions I would ejaculate after ten seconds without even getting hard, it was a weird shit. I kept doing this for about a couple weeks. Then I started to feel better and moved on without her. But after this I started feeling less and less pleasure, and on about late 2012 I've totally lost any feeling of pleasure upon ejaculation.


My hypothesis are:

• This experience made my brain start to interpret the orgasm as a way to relieve anxiety instead of giving pleasure
• As I went more and more hardcore seeking pleasure I've become more addict to porn and thus developed a compulsion in masturbation even without pleasure and this got me into a negative feedback loop where I would get less and less pleasure

What I think might help:

• Stop looking at porn to detoxify from porn addiction
• Don't masturbate or masturbate less to "reset" how the mind perceives pleasure
• Go back in doing PE exercises (I started doing a year ago https://www.pegym.com/forums/progres...gress-log.html)
• Seek psychological help

I started seeing a therapist for other problems among this one, thought it might help to overcome this.
Although this is probably just on my head, I will go to a urologist to just to make sure I don't have a physiological problem.

I am getting pretty desperate with this and I am feeling terrible of not feeling one of the greatest things a man can feel.

What are you guys thoughts on this? What do you think this might be and how to overcome it?

I'd like to thank you in advance, your answers will be really appreciated!

Thank you very much for reading so far and helping me out!

Regards,

Blackmesa

TL;DR: Got depressed after first GF broke up with me. Masturbated compulsively 6~8 times a day for two weeks to get her out of my head. After this started feeling less and less pleasure. Started watching even hardcore porn to overcome it. After half an year couldn't feel pleasure from ejaculation anymore.

[faithandhope Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close faithandhope]

I personally cannot help you, but that is a very crappy situation. Plenty of guys here have done the same thing, someone will have an answer for ya

[blackmesa Member Find all posts View Profile Close blackmesa]

Thanks faithandhope for your support! I will keep watching the thread for any replies.

Regards,

Blackmesa

[Shit happens Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Shit happens]

"Don't masturbate or masturbate less to "reset" how the mind perceives pleasure"

If it is really about addiction and your brain "switching off" the pleasure feel to just get the relief, this might be a good idea. How long brakes have u had from masturbation since the problems started to occur? I have no experience or real knowledge about this kind of thing, but you could compare your situation to drug abuser's situation: first using drugs gives you a great pleasure and makes you want it again and again. Anyways, later happens quite the thing that has happened to you with orgasms: the drugs don't really feel as good as before anymore, but a brain just needs them to feel relief, which practically means an addiction to it.

So think that you get rid of your "addiction" to porn/masturbating and stop doing it for some time. If you haven't had any kind of injury from PE exercises or otherwise feel that your penis has normal kind of sensation in it apart from not feeling orgasms I would say your problem is probably purely psychological. Seeking help isn't bad idea either, not at all, but in your situation I'd first try to keep lets say a few weeks break of masturbation at least and then I would seek help if it doesn't seem to work. May be that few weeks isn't enough, but if you tell your hypothesis and thoughts to an urologist or psychologist or some else kind of professional you really could get advanced help.

Mind has a huge effect in this kind of things, so try not to worry or think about it. So you will feel better, and sometimes just being positive and having lots of good thoughts can do miracles, compared to being depressed which can just worsen things.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

No more ejaculating starting tomorrow. So you better ejaculate tonight. Go all day tomorrow, and all day Saturday with no release till Saturday night. During these two days, Edge/Balloon with or without porn every time that you get horny, but do NOT ejaculate! Every time that you feel point of no return creeping, stop stimulation till it subsides. Also, don't do your Edging sessions with full speed rabbit jacking; the idea is to keep yourself stimulated and as hard as you can get for as long as you can, without ejaculating. When Saturday night arrives, and it's that time for that "release", Edge/Balloon for at least a half hour before achieving orgasm.

I've done exactly this before, and I'm telling you, the orgasms are Earth shattering.

Edging - Penis Exercise For Size and Hardness
Ballooning - Penis Exercise For Size and Hardness

Too much of anything is well, too much. Orgasms are like drugs, the more often you do them, the harder it gets to achieve the great high.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

Holy shit dude, that's fucked up. I'd be freaking out if I were you. Leave your dick alone for a least a week. Heck maybe 2 weeks. Immediately stop looking at porn (forever!). Start talking to girls and try to get in the dating scene again.

You are way off tract. Get back to normal. Also eat right, take vitamins, exercise daily. Do what you have to cause this shit is serious. By the way, there is nothing MD's can do for you. Just calm down and allow your body to heal. That is your only hope.

[Brooker Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brooker]

I think you should speak to your doctor.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

I think you should speak to your doctor.

eff that!

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

I think you should speak to your doctor.

Why? do you think he should waste a few hundred bucks and a few hours of his time in addition to having no orgasms?

[Brooker Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brooker]

Why? do you think he should waste a few hundred bucks and a few hours of his time in addition to having no orgasms?

Ummm...no. I think it sounds like a pretty serious issue and that a doctor would be better qualified to help him. Also I didn't assume he was in a country where you have to have hundreds of bucks to see a doctor. It's free here in the UK. I didn't realise it is so expensive elsewhere.

[4Samson Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4Samson]

Blackmesa, its your lucky day I have some good news for you. I did something similar like 10 years ago. Just stop what you are doing and everything will go back to normal over time. It wont take as long as you might think either (i.e not year/s). My situation involved smoking marijuana during as well, so I think I would of been worse off than you. Or maybe you are doing the same idk lol. You might not get the 100% intense feeling of the orgasms of old back but you will bounce right back to a easy 95%. I have actually never told any one this before so I hope my experience will brighten your day. You have not broken yourself. Going cold turkey or at least close to it for awhile is your best bet.

[4Samson Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 4Samson]

Ummm...no. I think it sounds like a pretty serious issue and that a doctor would be better qualified to help him. Also I didn't assume he was in a country where you have to have hundreds of bucks to see a doctor. It's free here in the UK. I didn't realise it is so expensive elsewhere.

Free here in Canada too.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

Ummm...no. I think it sounds like a pretty serious issue and that a doctor would be better qualified to help him. Also I didn't assume he was in a country where you have to have hundreds of bucks to see a doctor. It's free here in the UK. I didn't realise it is so expensive elsewhere.

Hey no hard feelings buddy. I hope I didn't offend you. But honestly what will an MD do about this? Really? What? Nothing. It seems all MD's can do about penis stuff is hand out viagra or stick a few fingers up your butt hole and check your prostate. This is a young guy with very serious problems. He better figure out the cause and act accordingly.

I love the "free" health care quote. I am from Canada (originally) where there is also "free" healthcare. Ofcouse we pay 55%+ of our income to taxes, so it doesn't seem so free when you look at it that way.

Have a nice weekend.

[Brooker Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Brooker]

Hey no hard feelings buddy. I hope I didn't offend you. But honestly what will an MD do about this? Really? What? Nothing. It seems all MD's can do about penis stuff is hand out viagra or stick a few fingers up your butt hole and check your prostate. This is a young guy with very serious problems. He better figure out the cause and act accordingly.

I love the "free" health care quote. I am from Canada (originally) where there is also "free" healthcare. Ofcouse we pay 55%+ of our income to taxes, so it doesn't seem so free when you look at it that way.

Have a nice weekend.

No offence taken. Maybe a doctor can't really do anything about it and maybe I was wrong to suggest that he/she could. Just trying to help, though!

As for your views on "free" healthcare? Yeah, totally valid point. (I realise that may come across as sarcasm, but it's not).

[Da1th@matters Member Find all posts View Profile Close Da1th@matters]

Im testing myself now. Havent watched any porn since the beginning of this year. I also found myself 'bating less. Feels great when i actually do. Im with 4samson on this one. If you are still not sure after bout a month do see your doc. You might be developing an issue.