Delayed Ejaculation - HELP!

[Truthful Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Truthful]

Hi guys, i'm a fit active strong turning 19 year old guy and i'm having a few issues.

The first time I had sex with my girlfriend which was a little over a year ago now, the sex lasted for 50 odd minutes (from penetration to orgasm). I didn't think too much of it at the time, however she really had to go at it in the cowgirl position to bring me to orgasm.

Back then I used to do a lot of PE religiously, sticking to the beginner routine and working my way up. I had done it for about 3-4 months before I started to notice troubles in gaining erections. It was around that time I stopped doing any forms of PE and I also quit porn cold turkey. Things were going great for a while, until I used to get massive erections at random times that became a problem to conceal. Even things like holding hands with her caused me to get easily to 80-90% let alone kissing or cuddling which would cause a full on hard on. This became a problem, whenever I got particularly turned on around her I would always produce an amount of pre-cum and my balls started getting quite heavy and painful (blue balls)

Anyway, we were still in School and ultimately only able to have sex 1-2 times a months depending on how we were able to get around her parents. Every time we had sex, it lasted from a minimum of 45 minutes+ with me having to get on top and ploughing away as fast as I could possibly move to finish up. This was starting to bother both of us since "quickies" were never really possible and she'd get quite chafed and sore the next day.

Once I had troubles getting hard and keeping my erection to even have sex with.

Moving along, she moved interstate for University and we've only seen each other once every 2-4 weeks or so. Every time we have sex it gets progressively longer and longer to the point of not even being able to reach orgasm anymore. The problem is during the sex I still get so turned on and stimulated, that by the end after giving up I have a case of blue balls again. She never has a problem getting enjoyment out of sex and she even reaches orgasm 2-3 times depending on the position. Even masturbating has become a problem, as now it sometimes takes 10-20 minutes of a solid grip for me to reach orgasm.

I watch porn and attempt to masturbate 1-2 times a day, just to curb my massive sexual drive. I know it's not ideal at all but i'm finding it hard to escape the pattern. I'll give it a shot quitting cold turkey again, since i'm getting to spend a bit of time with her over July (Our birthdays and Uni breaks)

I'm asking the forum, what can I do to help reach orgasm faster and/or make sex more intense? I've tried getting back into PE recently, but every time i've tried to start a warm up, i've had troubles even getting semi-erect.

My stats:
Erect Length: 7.5inches
Erect Girth: 6inches
Erection Quality: Typically 70-80%


TL;DR
- Sex lasts too long
- Blue Balls becoming an issue
- EQ is ok, but could be better. Can't spontaneously get erections by just thinking anymore.
- Having troubles even bringing myself to orgasm from masturbation
- Wut do?


Please help a young guy in need! Thanks guys!

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Anxiety is part of the issue so is an over firm grip.

[Truthful Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Truthful]

Thanks for the reply.

I wouldn't attribute anxiety to it at all, whenever we're in the mood we're both so overly consumed by each other, that nothing else is even in either of our minds.

Regarding a firm grip, I know it's detrimental to your penis, but i've tried masturbating with a soft grip and it typically leads to nowhere at all, loss of erection and 20 minutes... i'll try cutting everything out and starting PE again and see where that leads me to

[PanBird Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close PanBird]

At first, welcome to the gym!

I have the almost same problem. Haven't tried to fix it, couse I haven't find any solutions. I hope you'll find any, and pls let me know if you're cured. I'm doing PE regularly, and I'm giving no masturbation at all a try. I know it's hard, but I think that when you've reached the golden line at 3 weeks, you'll have it much easier to not masturbate, and then in a time easier to get orgasms.

Here's the deal. Stop masturating! Stop watching pron! Never use a firm grip! Try to reach orgasms without moving foreskin up and down (when I was a kid, i used to have my underwears on and just move the whole bulge around, don't know if it works, but you can try it). Good luck, and let us know your results!

//PB

[scojoy Member Find all posts View Profile Close scojoy]

Try not to masturbate at for at least 24 hours ( more would be better) before you have sex with her, you'll cum quicker

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

Thanks for the reply.

I wouldn't attribute anxiety to it at all, whenever we're in the mood we're both so overly consumed by each other, that nothing else is even in either of our minds.

Regarding a firm grip, I know it's detrimental to your penis, but i've tried masturbating with a soft grip and it typically leads to nowhere at all, loss of erection and 20 minutes... i'll try cutting everything out and starting PE again and see where that leads me to

Anxiety is part of the issue so is an over firm grip

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

It could also be from jacking it with a quickness. I've always been a rapid jacker, so I need that crazy friction to get going and/or even cum.

Stop watching porn, and stop quick jacking.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

This is easy to answer, but it requires more discipline than I had at 19. You need to stop looking at porn 100%. You also need to replace jerking off with PE exercises. Leave all the "fun" stuff for your girl and your dick, within a couple weeks, will be hard as hell and cum quickly. Good luck.

[Boosie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Boosie]

What did you do to cause this? Im trying to reach to what you got lo .

[NOWHARD Banned Find all posts View Profile Close NOWHARD]

Hi, One its the 1 to 2 times a day masturbating, two its the porn, and three its your gorilla grip, you get a 2 to 4 week break between seeing your girl, take the break, no masturbating or porn in that time, I bet you will be jumping through hoops when the sex is better. Now think of this and put it in your brain, does your g/f's vagina grip as tight as you when you masturbate, answer no, its a light featherlight touch, the your masturbating should be the same, the problem is you have been forcing it, and now your penis is giving you pay back time, to much misuse of your penis, something to put at the back of your mind, its this, as men we get one penis, break it, you don't get e replacement, your way of masturbating is a misuse, no other way out of it. Think about it, Good Luck

[Bnip Retired Moderator Member of the Month July 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Bnip]

Agree with above. I am a borderline sex addict and I watch porn every night while I PE and get of a dozen times a week via sex or masterbating. A while back I ha the same problem as you and I couldn't get off. I quit masterbating and porn for 30 days of hell and now I am better again. I have to be careful again because I am falling into the old routine.

Bottom line... Reduce the porn and wanking