I hope you don't mind having a woman on your forum. I actually haven't even read any of your threads, but thought I'd post here and see if I get any responses. I've been dating and in the past two years have come across two guys who I liked, but seemed to have an issue, and I'm not sure what the deal is. I've dated a few people in the past few years. Most of them are "normal" 8-5 type of guys and I haven't run across any of them to have any erectile issues.
However, a couple of years ago, I met a busy doctor. I liked him, but he was always sort of stressed and thought his job was overwhelming. He was pretty young and new to his career. He hardly ever seemed to be able to get an erection or maintain one, only once in a while. We didn't date for a really long time, because he slowly dropped of the map and stopped contacting me. He still contacts me every once in a while, but his not giving me any attention at all when I thought things were going well eventually turned into a turn off for me, and I was no longer interested after several months of that. I didn't care so much about the erectile issues, because I figured he may figure them out, or... I don't know. But I didn't really care all too much because I really liked him. I just still don't know if what he was experiencing was due to stress (but he was so young!), or if he really just didn't like me (but he told me he REALLY liked me), or... I just don't know! I sort of wrote it off, except....
Recently I met a lawyer. He's really successful and BUSY all the time. He said he rarely ever dates. He seemed like a genuinely nice guy, but after a few dates, we tried to mess around but it didn't work. I figured, no big deal, maybe he's nervous. We tried again after our next date... nothing. He's 40 years old. So was it the stress, he doesn't really like me... I don't know. He had told me he's been really busy at work. He said he likes me, but can't give me the attention right now and so he would like to talk to me again in a few weeks when things are slower at work. Is that really the case? Maybe that's his way of breaking it off with me?
In between knowing these two guys over a period of two years, there were a couple of other not-so-busy, more normal average Joe types and they had no problem. I just want to know the truth. Do these busy guys just not like me? If not, that's ok, but I don't know why they tell me otherwise. I really don't care about the issue, I figure we could work on it if they wanted to, but I never bring it up, because I don't want to embarrass them.
At this point, any info would help. It just seems strange to me that the same situation is repeating itself with another guy.
However, a couple of years ago, I met a busy doctor. I liked him, but he was always sort of stressed and thought his job was overwhelming. He was pretty young and new to his career. He hardly ever seemed to be able to get an erection or maintain one, only once in a while. We didn't date for a really long time, because he slowly dropped of the map and stopped contacting me. He still contacts me every once in a while, but his not giving me any attention at all when I thought things were going well eventually turned into a turn off for me, and I was no longer interested after several months of that. I didn't care so much about the erectile issues, because I figured he may figure them out, or... I don't know. But I didn't really care all too much because I really liked him. I just still don't know if what he was experiencing was due to stress (but he was so young!), or if he really just didn't like me (but he told me he REALLY liked me), or... I just don't know! I sort of wrote it off, except....
Recently I met a lawyer. He's really successful and BUSY all the time. He said he rarely ever dates. He seemed like a genuinely nice guy, but after a few dates, we tried to mess around but it didn't work. I figured, no big deal, maybe he's nervous. We tried again after our next date... nothing. He's 40 years old. So was it the stress, he doesn't really like me... I don't know. He had told me he's been really busy at work. He said he likes me, but can't give me the attention right now and so he would like to talk to me again in a few weeks when things are slower at work. Is that really the case? Maybe that's his way of breaking it off with me?
In between knowing these two guys over a period of two years, there were a couple of other not-so-busy, more normal average Joe types and they had no problem. I just want to know the truth. Do these busy guys just not like me? If not, that's ok, but I don't know why they tell me otherwise. I really don't care about the issue, I figure we could work on it if they wanted to, but I never bring it up, because I don't want to embarrass them.
At this point, any info would help. It just seems strange to me that the same situation is repeating itself with another guy.
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