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    Hello guys, i am new here. I read on this forum, see many people have problems to maintain their erection. I will write about my problem. It is similar to what other people experience here, but my case is a little different.

    I habe had terrible sleep for 16 years, and probably no Rem sleep at all, so i believe that i probably never had/have any night time erection for over a decade. Definetely never morning wood. And i fear that this causes fibrosis to my erectile tissue. Here is the story:

    I am a 31 year old guy living in Berlin, Germany. My problem is that i can get an erection quiet easy, I can get fast to a 8 erection with a woman without physical stimulation, and with some strokes it becomes 9 or even a 9.5 erection. Sometimes i also get a 9 erection without physical stimulation, but rare. a 10 erection i can get sometimes during intercourse in the missionary position or doggy, or with manual stimulation by me or the woman. However, it doesn't happen often that i have a ten, except when i masturbate.

    The problem is, without stimulation my erection quickly weakens. When sitting and masturbating and i get to a 10 erection and stop masturbating, it can hold maybe 20 seconds, and is still a 9 then, maybe some seconds longer. But then it goes more and more down. When lying or standing, it goes faster away, though i can archieve a 10 erection when standing through masturbation or sex.

    With a woman, my erection holds a little longer during foreplay, can't say how much longer exactly, not much definetely. I only have sex with prostitutes, which is really cheap in Berlin. But there is not much time for foreplay, cause i have maximum 20 minutes with the girl.

    However, intercourse is a big problem. When girl is on top, my erection often dies within seconds and sex is not possible. It became much worse around two years ago, before i was able to have an erection which ishard enough for intercourse in that position for some minutes and even come in that position.

    Missionary and doggy still works, but not always. I can have intercourse in that positions and have a 9 erection or even higher for minutes and satisfy a woman. However, here also sometimes i lose erection, especially doggy.

    A problem sometimes is also changing positions. It works usually ok when i it was fully hard when i put it out, so it holds the time that we need to switch. But often i need my hand to make it hard again.

    Ok, this was the first part. I write the rest in some minutes.

  • #2
    Now comes the rest. How this bullshit started.

    When i was 15, i went into a cold sea in poland for some minutes. Not very cold, maybe 12 degree. However, from that day i had to piss all the time, and started to wake up in the night because i had to piss. So my sleep was interrupted in the night, at least once. In the day, i had top piss i think at 5 times more often than before this accident.

    When 16, my father took me to an urologist, but he didn't find anything, and i didn't really push to go to other doctors, and lived with this shit for 15 years. I am an idiot i know, i should have gone to other doctors, but i gave up, shit.

    my sleep worsened and worsened the next years, it became also psycholgical. More and more difficult to fall asleep, and after 2 or 3 hours i woke up, took a piss, but couldn't sleep anymore. I remember clearly that i had an erection when i was 17 and woke up in the night, and had to wait that it goes away. But then it disappeared. And i didn't care, cause i never knew that nighttime erections are such important for the penis.

    My friends and i always talked about sex, but never about morning wood, and i didn't care that i never had it.

    However, my peeing problem was fixed when i went with 30 years to an urologist, and he discivered that my canal between the prostata and urinary bladder is too narrow. He gave me Tamsulosin, and it really solved my peeing problem, maybe not 100%, but it is so much better now.

    But my sleep was killed, i just can't have normal sleep. I started to take trazodon, and fall asleep now quite fast, but still wake up after 2 or 3 hours, and can't sleep anymore. never have an erection when waking up.

    However, i don't know if this is because i don't have Rem sleep at all, or my penis is not able to hold blood anymore, or i wake up in the nrem sleep.

    Well, my erection probably was always weaker than it should be, but two years it started to become wors and worse and i realised i have ED. Viagra 25mg and 50mg didn't really work (i took them just for me to masturbate), my erection didn't last longer when not stimulating.

    I was at many urologists, but then didn't give me the answer what i have. One of them said it seems like venous leak. He said that the fact that woman on top is the position that doesn't work is typical for that, and that makes sence. He said that there is not much to do in such case, except a penis ring and 100mg viagra, and what i read on the intenet seem to confirm his statement.

    Ok, last part comes in few minutes

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    • #3
      now the last part:

      I don't believe that my veins are the problem. I believe that the muscle cells of my erectile tissue habe been transformed into tissue cells because of the not happened night time erections, and therefore my erectile tissue can't hold the blood like it should. And if i am right and this happened, it seems like this is not fixable and i can only hope that it doesn't become worse.

      However, another urologist examinated my flaccid dick and said that there is no hardening and it looks fine, so he said that maybe my theory is not right, cause then the penis would be harder when flaccid.

      He also that if i can have a goor erection for 20 minutes when masturbating it is unlikely that i have such a messed up erectile tissue. However, he didn't rule out this possibility and said i should an Duplex Doppler penile ultrasound. This was two months, but i still didn't do it, because i am really scared to know the truth actually. But i will do it very soon i hope.

      Also when wake up, i have no erection, but then i start to think about sex and can archieve a 8 or even 9 erection without touching my dick, and hold it for maybe even 15 minutes. I usually lay on the side when this happens. So my dick is not totally screwed.

      I masturbate at least 3 times a day, and every time try to do it for at least 15 minutes. I have to do it because my dick needs erections that he doesn't hev in the night.

      The fact that nighttime erections keep the muscle cells of the penis alive i discovered on the internet just 3 months ago. I had a mental breakdown, and cried everyday for two weeks, because just then is understood what my problem is and that maybe i will have it forever, or even become worse.

      Thank god even before that i always masturbated very often like 2 times a day all the years, so my dick still had erections. But 3 years and 4 months ago i started to live in a place where i could not masturbate that often, maybe just few times a week at best, and very quick, and this for 20 months. And my dick dhad really lettle erections all this time, and my sleep worsened there.

      However, real constant problems with my erection happened only 15 months after i started to live in that place, afetr i coulsn't sleep at all for a whole damn week (and yes, i am still alive).

      I don't have any confidence to try to have sex with women who are not prostitutes. Luckily, in Berlin it costs little to have sex with a prostitute, and i did it over 300 times in my life. And it worked usually quiet ok, sometimes it was amazing. But then two years ago the problems started, and the sex got worse and worse.

      The total low was 3 months ago, i got limp everytime when had sex, however i improved it now. i only have sex in doggy missionary, and sometimes it works ok, and sometimes it doesn't.

      I didn't try the penis ring, but will get one soon.

      Well, i just wanted to share my story. I don't know what to expect, because i think only a Duplex Doppler penile ultrasound can show the truth. But if you want to write, whatever it is, or you have similar things happen, well, i will not feel so lonely with my problem


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      • #4
        Oh, and how could i forget this: my dick stats:

        NBPEL: 15,6-15,8 cm
        BEG: 13,0 -13,2 cm
        MEG: 13,5 - 13,7 cm
        Thickest point of penis 14 - 14,2 cm (a little after the middle of my penis, closer to the head)

        I don't do any PE, except sometimes ballooning or just masturbate without to cum.

        yes, i have baseball bat dick, but only the first 9 or 9,5 cm of my dick, the it becomes thinner again, and head is smaller then MEG.

        I have read on this forum that this can also be the cause for weak erections: baseball bat dick, when base Eg is smaller than anywhere else on the shaft. What do you think? I personally doubt that.

        Does actually someone who experienced the problems i have fixed it? And if, how?

        And if you wonder how i am still aleve with that sleep proble, i don't know. If i get 3 hours of sleep at night, i don't even feel tired, seems like my body has become used to it. I even look younger than 31.

        By the way, my testosterone is ok, 23,07, nothing to worry about. and i always watch porn when i masturbate and did it my whole life, but i don't think i have ED because of porn, really don't think so. I don't smoke, usually don't drink and eat ok.

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        • #5
          I add that i ALWAYS about the size of my penis, though many the prostites told me i have an above average dick in length and even girth (not my words and not what i think! see my stats above). And i know that even though they are prostitutes and say usually whatever you want to hear, they didn't lie. Also a girl i tried and failed to have sex with told me my dick is in the top 30% of length and even top 20% of girth (Again: not my words and not my opinion)! And she had over 30 dicks before me. However, i think when whe meant top 20% of girth she emand the thickest part of my dick, but it is not evenly thick, like i stated before. I hate my 13.1 cm BEG, it seems really small from above, though from the side it is the thickest when i have a 10 erection.

          Guys, i know that was a really long and maybe very boring text, but i hat to write it. I think about it all the time, it depresses me, i fear my life will be sexless (except prostitutes).

          Take care of your sleep, guys.

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          • #6
            Kegels.
            My Log: EQ | Foreskin Restoration w TLC Tugger

            Overall Goals
            1. Maintain Optimal EQ (10 / 10)
            2. Full Foreskin Restoration (100% flaccid coverage)

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            • #7
              Thanks for the reply mcpecker!

              I kegel when i masturbate a little. Maybe i should really do it often. But if my erectile tissue is damaged, how can kegels fix it?

              Did kegels help you to improve EQ? Do you have a problem like i do, to maintain erection?

              By the way i still pray that my problem is psychological, because of my insecurity, but i doubt it.

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              • #8
                Check this thread out: https://www.pegym.com/forums/prematu...r-balance.html
                My Log: EQ | Foreskin Restoration w TLC Tugger

                Overall Goals
                1. Maintain Optimal EQ (10 / 10)
                2. Full Foreskin Restoration (100% flaccid coverage)

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                • #9
                  Thanks again mcpecker, i will check this out!

                  By the way, the shape and length and girth of my dick and erection angle (straight, 90% from body, maybe even a little higher at 10 erection) didn't change at all since i was 19 and my dick was definetely fully grown, and back then i didn't have ED, i think. Maybe even it has become 1 or 2 millimeter bigger in length and girth.

                  Do you know if the size gets smaller and shape changes if you have fibrosis of the erectile tissue? If it does, then maybe i don't have fibrosis or it is not as bad as i fear.

                  I mean, i have heard older people have sometimes a smaller penis compared to their youth, and this is partly because the muscle cells of the erectile tissue transform.

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                  • #10
                    This is part of why you should exercise your penis using jelqing and stretching and a solid kegel routine. It's a bit of a "use it or lose it" situation as you get older, especially as free testosterone levels drop.

                    PE will help you keep your penile tissues healthy through old age.
                    My Log: EQ | Foreskin Restoration w TLC Tugger

                    Overall Goals
                    1. Maintain Optimal EQ (10 / 10)
                    2. Full Foreskin Restoration (100% flaccid coverage)

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                    • #11
                      Well, jelqing and stretching are too risky in my situation. i don't want to do anything to my penis that has a potential to damage the erectile tissue. i thought about doing some girth exercises, but i only will think about seriously if i manage to improve my EQ signicantly.

                      "use it or lose it": well, that is exactly what happened to me and i am only 31 years old. because other guys have nighttime erections and "use" their dicks overall over an hour or two every night. i miss this completely since nearly fifteen years.

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                      • #12
                        Okay, good luck, man.

                        I admit, I didn't read all of your posts. Hopefully someone who has similar issues and a better attention span can help you out.
                        My Log: EQ | Foreskin Restoration w TLC Tugger

                        Overall Goals
                        1. Maintain Optimal EQ (10 / 10)
                        2. Full Foreskin Restoration (100% flaccid coverage)

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                        • #13
                          Venous Leakage
                          try this. and dont wank 4/x day.
                          I bet most people would feel their midshaft get pains and inflammation with this. It's an injury on itself.
                          Also your testosterone will go too low.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by peneng View Post
                            Venous Leakage
                            try this. and dont wank 4/x day.
                            I bet most people would feel their midshaft get pains and inflammation with this. It's an injury on itself.
                            Also your testosterone will go too low.
                            This is the second time you have gravedug a year old thread. What is your agenda?

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                            • #15
                              I also agree with ---- kegel is the answer of your question believe me its work, whenever my EQ Drops I do kegel and it work like charm.

                              I guess you need several months to fix this issue. (I know its long but it's worthy)

                              Do only K, Do not do RK.

                              hope this help......

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