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[Problem_with_erection Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Problem_with_erection]

My erections blow.

I'm 23.

Been relying on porn and jerking off for years.

I have a good gf now for 5 months I find her the sexiest girl in the world, but I don't get hard.

We fool around sometimes but I'm only 50-60% hard when we do.

The other day she sucked my dick and I didn't get harder than 60% It felt good and she used her hands too but I actually got tired of it I felt it wasn't going anywhere.

The one time I orgasmed when we were together was when I actually used her hand to jerk myself off quickly and I was soft even when I sprayed my load. It's pathetic.

Holy shit, bro.

I feel like a piece of shit, man.

Help me out, guys.

I make her cum all the time, but I can't seem to get hard.

She's my first gf.

Oh and I'm strong and I get plenty of exercise I'm a powerlifter.

She finds me so big and manly, I can never discuss this with her I need to fix it on my own.

I want her to see me as Superman and shit.

Help.

Oh yeah we didn't have sex yet.

I can get a strong erection watching porn and rubbing myself, but other than that, meh.

I'm also diabetic but my blood sugar is under strict control.

Shit, man.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Quit stroking it. You have conditioned your mind and peen, to react to "certain strokes and sensations." You will return to normal, it'll just take time. Also quit porn, as many will suggest.

[bolkonsky Banned Find all posts View Profile Close bolkonsky]

If your a power-lifter are you on anabolics or have been in the past? are you on any supplements?

I'm curious if its a hormone imbalance.

[Closed018 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed018]

You are stressing. I can't imagine at your age not getting hard. Do you wake up with wood? Do have wet dreams? I don't care how much porn u watch or if she was the Wicked Witch of the West, I'd fuck her, at your age. You obviously think you are not adequate , WRONG ! I'll say again, big F'n WRONG! She is with you for a reason, plenty of dicks out there, she wants yours. Relax

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

Could also be a case of performance anxiety, like pity party suggests.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

to the Gym Problem_with_erection!


Please make sure to read the following thread!!

https://www.pegym.com/forums/penis-e...t-mindset.html

And in case you haven't already done so, checkout the START HERE thread as well as the articles in the topmost blue navigation bar, and pay attention to safety instructions.


As the gentlemen above wisely advised, quit smoking for a better overall, nervous and circulatory systems health, and quit porn for better sexual and mental health, porn skews your perception of real life sexual experience and expectations, I recommend that you give the threads below a thorough read.

Adolescent Brain Meets Highspeed Internet Porn

Don't RELY on porn for an erection!

Greetings from the Fairy Pornmother

Therapeutic Help For Porn Addiction

The Detraining Effect: Understanding and Reversing Negative Habits To Improve Erection Quality and Sexual Confidence: Part 1



When done correctly, PE will greatly improve your penile health and increase your EQ, in addition to size gains, but you need to be consistent, patient and persistent, please do as much research as you can, start a log in the progress forum to track your progress and get feedback, ask questions, follow safety and exercise instructions carefully and remember that PE is a long term process, don't rush it up.

I recommend following a manual beginner's routine, most members here start with JP90, and gain fine from it, being an intense beginner's routine, you may want to consider starting slow and gradually increase workload, as you need to condition your penis first!


Learn to listen to your penis, your PIs are his way of communicating with you, to let you know if you are on the right track or doing too much, pay attention to what he has to say!

Physiologic Indicators (PIs) to Help Penis Growth!

Some helpful tips on jelqing that you should know before you start.

Helpful jelqing Information


Stamina exercises contribute to EQ, penile health and gains, I suggest you read through the Premature Ejaculation Forum and follow a balanced regular and reverse kegels routine for optimum pelvic floor health and conditioning, as well as practice Edging for more stamina and control.


Good Luck!

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

First of all welcome to the gym!

It might be a good idea to give up the porn if its got to the point where you can't get hard without it.

If you can get hard on your own, it suggests it's mental and you will eventually be able to get hard with your lady, but like Jay says you have trained yourself to respond to images on a screen, instead of a to a real woman. You just need to take control of this and learn new behaviour, It's fixable!

Good luck!

[Problem_with_erection Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Problem_with_erection]

Thanks for the warm welcome.

Quit stroking it. You have conditioned your mind and peen, to react to "certain strokes and sensations." You will return to normal, it'll just take time. Also quit porn, as many will suggest.

I'll stop porn and I won't jerk it anymore, I really want this to work.

Poor girl must be feeling bad because she can't even make me hard.

If your a power-lifter are you on anabolics or have been in the past? are you on any supplements?

I'm curious if its a hormone imbalance.

Just whey protein and I stopped taking it a year ago because I can't afford it anymore.

You are stressing. I can't imagine at your age not getting hard. Do you wake up with wood? Do have wet dreams? I don't care how much porn u watch or if she was the Wicked Witch of the West, I'd fuck her, at your age. You obviously think you are not adequate , WRONG ! I'll say again, big F'n WRONG! She is with you for a reason, plenty of dicks out there, she wants yours. Relax

I'm confident I can please her I make her cum all the time and I ask her what she likes and ask her to guide me, I want to please her.

But it seems for me all I like is my own touch just the way I enjoy it.

I know she wants me she tells me that all the time.

I just can't get hard. I don't know, man...

First of all welcome to the gym!

It might be a good idea to give up the porn if its got to the point where you can't get hard without it.

If you can get hard on your own, it suggests it's mental and you will eventually be able to get hard with your lady, but like Jay says you have trained yourself to respond to images on a screen, instead of a to a real woman. You just need to take control of this and learn new behaviour, It's fixable!

Good luck!

I don't think I can get hard on my own.

My memories with her turn me on but I can't get wood, shit...

I thought that finally after years of porn if I finally get with a real woman I'd be a complete beast but shit this is disappointing as hell.

She sucked my dick, man.

Didn't get hard...

Was never completely hard with her, even though she's sexy as hell and I stare at her all the time and I show her quite obviously that I want her right now.

Shit, man.

What a mess, I'm limp.

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

Thanks for the warm welcome.


I'll stop porn and I won't jerk it anymore, I really want this to work.

Poor girl must be feeling bad because she can't even make me hard.



Just whey protein and I stopped taking it a year ago because I can't afford it anymore.



I'm confident I can please her I make her cum all the time and I ask her what she likes and ask her to guide me, I want to please her.

But it seems for me all I like is my own touch just the way I enjoy it.

I know she wants me she tells me that all the time.

I just can't get hard. I don't know, man...



I don't think I can get hard on my own.

My memories with her turn me on but I can't get wood, shit...

I thought that finally after years of porn if I finally get with a real woman I'd be a complete beast but shit this is disappointing as hell.

She sucked my dick, man.

Didn't get hard...

Was never completely hard with her, even though she's sexy as hell and I stare at her all the time and I show her quite obviously that I want her right now.

Shit, man.

What a mess, I'm limp.

It is in your mind, anxiety kills libido, first thing you must do is at least to try and relax, know that it is reversible, and once you get over your problems, everything will get back to normal.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

If you have abused porn, and I mean abused porn, it will be difficult for you to get an erection without it; with someone, or even on your own. Porn is lethal when it comes to this; it turns on your brain/arousal way beyond any one person can.. and before you know it, once your usual porn stops turning you on, you'll be turning to harder porn, and harder porn that you thought would never turn you on. The downfall, as you well know, normal sex won't get you aroused.

I would drop the porn and the masturbation, not stress it, and within time you'll get back to normalcy. Just don't give up on sexual things with your GF

[Problem_with_erection Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Problem_with_erection]

If you have abused porn, and I mean abused porn, it will be difficult for you to get an erection without it; with someone, or even on your own. Porn is lethal when it comes to this; it turns on your brain/arousal way beyond any one person can.. and before you know it, once your usual porn stops turning you on, you'll be turning to harder porn, and harder porn that you thought would never turn you on. The downfall, as you well know, normal sex won't get you aroused.

I would drop the porn and the masturbation, not stress it, and within time you'll get back to normalcy. Just don't give up on sexual things with your GF

I jerk it to porn once a day... at least.

It really can be fixed? How long does it take?

I've been avoiding sex stuff with my girl lately because I don't want to be limp all the time, usually we make out and I make her cum with my hands I know her pretty well and I know what she likes.

I always thought that it would be hard to make a girl cum and that I'd be the easy one to please.

Go figure.

I really love this girl I don't want her to feel like she's not sexy by being limp all the time, because I've never seen anyone sexier.

[Jay1983 Senior MemberMember of the Month Apr 2014, Sept 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Jay1983]

For me it takes a couple days to a week. You make your GF orgasm easily because you turn her on fully. That's how easy it is... stopping the porn and the masturbation shall fix you quickly. Just don't turn back to porn once you decide to stop, turn to your GF instead!

In my opinion, the only way to experience sex with someone else, is during full arousal, and stopping porn and heavy masturbation will get you there.

[somebodyelse Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close somebodyelse]

dealt with this earlier in my sexual experimentation.

You end up having a hard time because your brain is trained to see sex in a Browser window, or in a media player.

It's trained to see angles of your unit going into your girl you can't see yourself. Your brain is trained to equate sexual stimulation with seeing two bodies vigorously enacting intercourse from a third person view.

When having sex way-back-when I used to have to close my eyes and imagine a previous session with the girl I was with because being able to skip to the finish, or going back to what I did just before was what I was used to doing with watching porn.

You have to let the porn go. Give it a rest for 2 weeks. Don't go cold turkey on your masturbation, but only visualize moments you spent with your girl when you masturbate. Times she was giving you head. times she stroked you. You fingering her and watching her orgasm. HOWEVER only do this 3 times a week. Try to skip a day between masturbation and only do it ONCE a day. Porn addiction usually means you masturbate multiple times a day...

It's okay admit you get one in in the morning, probably after working out, and one at night before bed. Cut all that out, and only get that one at night every other day. and try to reduce that even more as you go, replacing all porn imagery with your masturbation with imagery of your GF in your MIND... not pictures of videos she sent you. it'll take some getting used to, but you'll program yourself to see sex from YOUR perspective and not a third person camera angle.

[Problem_with_erection Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Problem_with_erection]

Holy shit, okay I thought something was wrong with my dick.

Phew.

I'll quit cold turkey, it gave me a real fucking scare that I'm willing to stop completely.

[Sir_Laid_A_Lot Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Sir_Laid_A_Lot]

You have porn-induced Erectile dysfunction ..... Prepare for a flatline ..... and stop watching porn .....