rapid drop in excitement

[pimezon]

I don't know if it psychological or physiological yet but I want to try a few things to find out what is happening.

This happens often. that I am excited and I get a fairly strong erection. Then the excitement retreats really rapidly. Assuming it is not psychological, what physiological factors will cause a rapid drop in excitement levls. can dopamine deficiency or somethign of that nature contribute to such an effect?

[corageon]

I don't know if it psychological or physiological yet but I want to try a few things to find out what is happening.

This happens often. that I am excited and I get a fairly strong erection. Then the excitement retreats really rapidly. Assuming it is not psychological, what physiological factors will cause a rapid drop in excitement levls. can dopamine deficiency or somethign of that nature contribute to such an effect?

It's psychological if something you think or do in particular retracts the erection. Particularly guilt or anxiety tend to be common ones. Or if you are the unsure type who doesn't know what he wants or you are experimenting etc

However, if the other factors aren't resolved or it just happens like this with no real baseline for the return so to speak, then it could be that your dopamine release is being blunted by something. Your brain may use up dopamine quickly. This particular phenomenon is present in "sensation seekers" and people who are prone to boredom who also may seek stimulants...it has to do with dopamine transporter (DAT) and other mechanisms affecting the breakdown of dopamine. However, could also be prolactin elevations or some sort of stress response.

To be clear, you need to explain more as to what is going on EXACTLY when the excitement "retreats".

[pimezon]

sorry for the shortage in information.

this happens when i am with my partner. no problem in masturbation.

the point is, when I get it it is exciting and I get a fairly strong erection then I have a little bet of pre-cum and the erection goes away. I feel limper than usual, actually. as in, i feel more limp after the erection goes away than I was even before the excitement started or when Im just walking around normally.

I know I have porn induced ED because I m nearly not half as hard when I am with my girl. but I want to make sure tht I dont have a physiological disorder as well. which is why im here.

[chuck89gt5.0]

Weird you posted this. For the last week or 2 I will be with a girl...get really hard while kissing her and as soon as we start going at it my hard on goes away QUICKLY! I can't figure it out either.

[corageon]

sorry for the shortage in information.

this happens when i am with my partner. no problem in masturbation.

the point is, when I get it it is exciting and I get a fairly strong erection then I have a little bet of pre-cum and the erection goes away. I feel limper than usual, actually. as in, i feel more limp after the erection goes away than I was even before the excitement started or when Im just walking around normally.

I know I have porn induced ED because I m nearly not half as hard when I am with my girl. but I want to make sure tht I dont have a physiological disorder as well. which is why im here.

At least partially is "Porn-Induced E.D" but the thing is...in order for one to get that condition - they have to be mentally and hormonally susceptible or have such an imbalance between the real thing and Porn that you forget how good it really is. (Honestly I can't see that as to me there is no comparison and porn/masturbation are VASTLY inferior to the real thing :O)

But sounds like you may also have either performance anxiety or you some sort of nervous system issue as you mention "a little bit of pre-cum then erection goes away" which indicates your adrenergic system is out of place as well. This is not to say go fix yourself but perhaps have you tried a PDE-5 inhibitor and if so what were the results? Not just pharma like Viagra,Cialis etc..but natty PDE-5I's as well?

[pimezon]

No sir, I have not tried anything other than tadalafil (cialis). I have very good results for masturbation with cialis and have the same problem during an actual sex encounter.


I am otherwise healthy in terms of EQ and such when I masturbate to porn. The point is this. When I masturabte to porn, I get a solid erection (not spontaneous though) and it lasts as long as I stroke it. If I don't stroke the member, then it goes down rapidly.

In actual sexual encounter you often have to switch positions, please the woman, yada yada... and I lose erection in that process.

once I lose erection from lack of stimulation, again it becomes difficult to get one for quite some time and some times I don't get it at all until I start over again a couple of hours later.

[pimezon]

Ok, I guess I found the more obvious problem in the process of talking out my issue here.

Apparently there is this problem wherein a guy loses erection with release of pre-cum. There are a lot of posts on this topic in the internet as I did the google search. I have the exact same problem - or at least the most important one.

I hope it will be okay to create a new thread seeking advice from the community with the proper title with more information targeting this problem.

[corageon]

No sir, I have not tried anything other than tadalafil (cialis). I have very good results for masturbation with cialis and have the same problem during an actual sex encounter.


I am otherwise healthy in terms of EQ and such when I masturbate to porn. The point is this. When I masturabte to porn, I get a solid erection (not spontaneous though) and it lasts as long as I stroke it. If I don't stroke the member, then it goes down rapidly.

In actual sexual encounter you often have to switch positions, please the woman, yada yada... and I lose erection in that process.

once I lose erection from lack of stimulation, again it becomes difficult to get one for quite some time and some times I don't get it at all until I start over again a couple of hours later.

Ironically with the thread title - you may have spit the problem yourself. "Too much Excitement" or Anxiety is what this is sounding like....now are you saying that even with the Cialis you lose the erection "while switching positions"....because then that's indicative of anxiety too.
Also you are saying you need physical stimulation...but you don't get NCE's then I suppose? (non-contact erections)

[Jay1983]

Sounds you have porn induced erectile dysfunction.

You should not be losing your erection while switching positions.
You also should not be losing erection without continued stimulation.

Stroking it to porn has gotten you so aroused, that normal sex with a partner isn't enough, to keep you aroused.

Arousal is a high, just like any other high; eventually one becomes used to normal levels, and then one needs more and more arousal, just to even feel aroused! It's like dope!

Simply put; the porn has upped your arousal tolerance.

It's all fixable, within due time.

I would kill the porn usage.
I would also kill all masturbation for a while.
You need to retrain/get yourself back to normalcy.

[corageon]

Sounds you have porn induced erectile dysfunction.

You should not be losing your erection while switching positions.
You also should not be losing erection without continued stimulation.

Stroking it to porn has gotten you so aroused, that normal sex with a partner isn't enough, to keep you aroused.

Arousal is a high, just like any other high; eventually one becomes used to normal levels, and then one needs more and more arousal, just to even feel aroused! It's like dope!

Simply put; the porn has upped your arousal tolerance.

It's all fixable, within due time.

I would kill the porn usage.
I would also kill all masturbation for a while.
You need to retrain/get yourself back to normalcy.

The thing that concerned me (or alarmed to the anx thing) was mentioning that he may have premature ejac at times....especially during the real thing...THAT sounds like anxiety to an extent. O_O
But what you said definitely could be part of it or all of it as well.
This is why everyone should be in tune to their own body signals - it's the only way to really fix a problem - really knowing Yourself! Nobody else knows better than the person in mention.