Supplements to lower corisol levels?

[Hawar]

You've never spent social time with a female one-on-one...so how do you date?
If this is true then it's this mystery that is causing your confidence issues.

No, I've never been on a date. I've never approached the girls that I've been attracted to and told them my feelings. It really does kill. The reason being is that all throughout my 20's I've been unemployed for too long (7 years during my 20's, and 2 years during my teenage years.) and thus I didn't feel it was worthy going for a relationship as I didn't have proper foundations to my life. Plus, I used to be a Muslim up to 3 years ago, so my plan was always to get a job and then get married. Unfortunately due to my employment status, it's stopped all of my life's ambitions. (and that includes GFs, holidays, and even night outs.)

Despite all of that, I don't have confidence issues. I know that I can be a caring person with a good personality. Okay so I'm now losing my looks (which was just above average.) due to my skin sagging from depression/stress, but the penis issue is by far the biggest obstacle I have in-front of me now. First there was employment (which I'm working now) but now there's potentially an even bigger enemy. It's no exaggeration to say that I feel completely demotivated of life. The thought that I could go all my life without having one moment with a girl is really killing me.

I really need to sort out this penis issue.

[Hawar]

And BTW, I respect your opinion, but I don't think you could say that my ED maybe has something to do with me growing-up without girls' present in my life. All my adult life I wanted to be with a girl so badly, and I still do, why would my mind work against it? If anything, it should want it more and more. (But as I mentioned earlier, my desire for girls is nothing more than mental now, as opposed to biological. Same for libido: it's there mentally but I haven't felt horny since I lost my libido 3-4 years ago.)

[Hawar]

BTw corageon,

I appreciate you taking your time trying to help me.

Thank you.

[corageon]

No, I've never been on a date. I've never approached the girls that I've been attracted to and told them my feelings. It really does kill. The reason being is that all throughout my 20's I've been unemployed for too long (7 years during my 20's, and 2 years during my teenage years.) and thus I didn't feel it was worthy going for a relationship as I didn't have proper foundations to my life. Plus, I used to be a Muslim up to 3 years ago, so my plan was always to get a job and then get married. Unfortunately due to my employment status, it's stopped all of my life's ambitions. (and that includes GFs, holidays, and even night outs.)

Despite all of that, I don't have confidence issues. I know that I can be a caring person with a good personality. Okay so I'm now losing my looks (which was just above average.) due to my skin sagging from depression/stress, but the penis issue is by far the biggest obstacle I have in-front of me now. First there was employment (which I'm working now) but now there's potentially an even bigger enemy. It's no exaggeration to say that I feel completely demotivated of life. The thought that I could go all my life without having one moment with a girl is really killing me.

I really need to sort out this penis issue.

The saying "if you don't use it, you lose it"..has some relevance....
I agree to a part with what your saying from an emotional desire perspective...
But the thing is, the unemployment itself is likely to get your mind on all the wrong stuff or into the wrong anxieties.
I've been through it.
Point is....
The "proper foundations" are only a pre-requisite depending on the type of girl.
And while many are "high-maintenence" it is not impossible to find one that is understanding.
That's where "communication" is key...you have to carry your own vibe.

Though I totally get where you are coming from...

In regards to never dating a girl, that part must be harsh...
Although, I was never anxious really on my first sexual encounter..nor was it complicated in any such way
But that's just a part of who I am...
Primal.

However, I was nervous a little on my first time ASKING a girl out...which was at 14 years old.

It comes with the social perspective...but the one thing that will kill ya the most is worrying about an audience or people watching. It shouldn't matter..too much at least, it will kill the mood if you overthink THAT OR ANYTHING.

So as you say, I agree that insurance policies have to be taken to a degree, especially considering your history (or lack of).

Just know that a positive mindset is key.
So as you go on your journey remember that.

[TheGreatDivider]

If you're that depressed about not doing anything and giving up on your dreams, sex is the least of your worries. If anything your ED is a symptom of major depression. Maybe it's time to think about getting something for that, I recommend Wellbutrin, and some counseling to help you get past whatever barriers are standing in your way.

You go through therapy and find a medicine or medicines that work for you and I guarantee you'll find a job and have no trouble meeting women or getting erections. Not like now where you're depression is driving them off and/or attracting the wrong types.

[corageon]

If you're that depressed about not doing anything and giving up on your dreams, sex is the least of your worries. If anything your ED is a symptom of major depression. Maybe it's time to think about getting something for that, I recommend Wellbutrin, and some counseling to help you get past whatever barriers are standing in your way.

You go through therapy and find a medicine or medicines that work for you and I guarantee you'll find a job and have no trouble meeting women or getting erections. Not like now where you're depression is driving them off and/or attracting the wrong types.

Good point as well. Wellbutrin will have benefits over other drugs that steadily Lower dopamine over time.

[TheGreatDivider]

Good point as well. Wellbutrin will have benefits over other drugs that steadily Lower dopamine over time.

I really like it. I only take it when I need to stay active or as needed, like I would caffeine.

I also think OP needs to have someone to push him to apply himself. Have him write a really good resume (not using Times New Roman BTW) and if need be physically push him into a job interview. Maybe if he applies himself he'll feel better about himself and want to try and do more.

Or have him sign up for the military like I did..... It sucks and you'll be pissed off and tired most of the time you're not worked to death, drinking coffee, binge drinking, binge eating, watching porn, or throwing your money at whores and strippers,........but you make pretty good money and get decent health care. If you don't try to kill yourself or get married in your first enlistment, you can make a damn good career out of it.

[corageon]

I really like it. I only take it when I need to stay active or as needed, like I would caffeine.

I also think OP needs to have someone to push him to apply himself. Have him write a really good resume (not using Times New Roman BTW) and if need be physically push him into a job interview. Maybe if he applies himself he'll feel better about himself and want to try and do more.

Or have him sign up for the military like I did..... It sucks and you'll be pissed off and tired most of the time you're not worked to death, drinking coffee, binge drinking, binge eating, watching porn, or throwing your money at whores and strippers,........but you make pretty good money and get decent health care. If you don't try to kill yourself or get married in your first enlistment, you can make a damn good career out of it.

Either Military or Prison Time...lmao jk on the second
But for real, both of those will provide / instill discipline and a new outlook.

Molding wood into steel so to speak.

[TheGreatDivider]

Either Military or Prison Time...lmao jk on the second
But for real, both of those will provide / instill discipline and a new outlook.

Molding wood into steel so to speak.

You know there's a third option too. He could be really really hard on himself and not take depression or procrastination for an answer, eat nothing but TV dinners and horribly over-salted under seasoned foods, and do a lot of running and pushups. Not quite the same as the other two but pretty close.

You know there's also a technique he could try that wouldn't require a huge commitment to his future. Just get up and do something. Seriously, don't think about it and go talk to a pretty girl or put a pin to some paper and apply for a shitty job flipping hamburgers. Anything he could do that would make him feel like he made an accomplishment and did something he wanted to do or made some money. Even if you got a really bad job and a one night stand with some girl looking to feel better about herself after a breakup, it would still be better than sitting at home and feeling sorry for yourself.

[TheGreatDivider]

I'm not just trying to make Hawar feel better either. I'm giving the same advice I've used and am using right now.

Want to hear my story and that whole thing where if everyone throws their problems on the table yours won't feel like such a big deal?

Ok, here it is.

After I came home from the military my wife cheated and left me right away. I was so horribly depressed during the divorce that I couldn't do much of anything and used up unemployment for about two years, then two years of staying with a parent. I tried going to college TWICE but my divorce got in the way and I wasted thousands of dollars trying to get her back before divorcing her amicably and letting the other man deal with her special brand of crazy. Now I'm a homeless veteran staying at the VA, but I finally got the help I needed and therapy with this adorable nerdy doctor once a week.

And just this month I started this IT course with other veterans that will help me network with some really big people in the industry and get me an internship making like $12-$14 an hour. It's really cool too, I get to fix computers and take things apart. I'm making straight A's so far. I came here wearing a ripped t-shirt and jeans and now I wear a suit and tie everyday to school... People here keep mistaking me for a doctor. LOL. I also had my first date in two years with this hot Filipino milf that I have known online for a few years. I knew she was a professor somewhere down south, but I looked her up online later and she has a doctorate degree. That makes her smartest woman I've ever gone out with.

I'm telling you man, just go do something you've been putting off right now. You don't have to succeed but you should never stop trying. And about that whole problem you have with women..... It's not that hard. All you have to do is be confident and have fun, something that will come naturally after you get some help. It also really helps if you can be make a woman laugh and relax around you without seeming like you're trying.