Nofap/ Sex Question

[rjc1212]

Hi guys, I have just found this forum but have been reading on yourbrainonporn.com and been watching the videos. To give you a bit of background on mine I started M.O when I was around 12 and I had sensitivity just the same as most guys will have done. When I reached 13/14 I started on PMO but only as a tool to release and continued to do so until I was 27 years old. I didn't have any sexual experience really before that time unless on a night out with friends and I got lucky but I couldn't get an erection and blamed it on alcohol. The reason why I had not much experience is because I was very over weight and still am to this day paranoid about my body as I had weight loss surgery to remove excess skin as I lost all the weight by myself. I am now a lot more confident about my body issues and weight train 3 times a week.
I have blamed my ED on many things ranging from alcohol (Dutch courage) to being paranoid about my body and blaming the girl. I have had a girlfriend now for sometime but for most of the time with her I have had the help of the little blue pill as I couldn't figure out why I could get an erection to porn but not with her properly and this had recently got worse. My main problems are-

1. Loss of morning wood or very rare.
2. Getting a 60% erection during sex but losing it a few minutes in due to no real stimulation (Not as good as PMO)
3. I still have sensation from oral sex but at times erections can be hit and miss.
4. In the end masturbation to porn didn't always result in a full erection.
5. I became aroused by my girlfriend but a full erection became impossible.

Since reading up on youbrainonporn.com i saw light at the end of the tunnel and quit on the 26th of June. Since then I have M.O 3 times and had sex to climax 3 times also, M.O was mainly down to trying to last longer and was done the day of sex or the day before and didn't involve any porn but the odd image of my girlfriend, I am also currently in a flat line.

My question is am I going around in circles with this? Is masturbating prolonging the rewire? when I M.O I use a very light touch compared to before and don't use any porn and can O with in 3 minutes which must me sensitivity is coming back? Also I have not had any relapses in watching porn and don't have any desire to watch porn either.

I cant tell my girlfriend why this is happening although I have read many threads of peoples wives/girlfriends being understanding.

I believe I am making progress (flat line must mean something) but just wanted some opinions please?

Thanks for taking the time to read this and thanks for any replies


Richard

[Dangler]

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Thanks for the introduction, and for joining us!

[G0lfer]

Porn is a great cause of this. You have barely gone a month with noFap and I applaud you. Personally, I think there should be a balance, if you're flatlining, it's a sign that your body is shocked from it's normal routine. I actually caved in at this point but returned to beat my last streak and continued with minor bumps long the way. There's a reddit group called noFap that is very supportive which I encourage you to join as well.

Keep it up and you will see differences in how your body responses to anything sexual.

[I_Like_Blondes]

Loss of sensitivity and morning wood would have nothing to do with watching porn. And as long as you weren't masturbating 5+ times a day and/or being overly rough with your penis then I don't see an issue there either. I think what has damaged you more than anything is your years of over eating and use of alcohol. I believe your indulgence in these areas has caused a hard fatty plaque to build up in the walls of your arteries and that has caused a reduction in blood circulation to your extremeties. When there is a hard build up of plaque in your arteries/soft tissue, your penis may not be able to become engorged with blood to the point where it expands enough to trap and hold the blood inside to maintain the erection. I know this personally because this is what I have been suffering from for over 15 years. But there is hope! I discovered that drinking pomegranate juice on a regular basis has shown actual signs of eating that hard built up plaque in your arteries. I've been drinking pomegranate juice for a year now and have seen much better results from that than any other drug or supplement I've ever taken. Also, when I take 36-hour Cialis now (I prefer it over Viagra), I have stronger erections that tend to last longer. So obviously, the juice has been helping me because I haven't really changed anything else about my diet. I highly recommend you give it a try. I think even after 2 or 3 weeks you might even notice a difference.

[rjc1212]

Thank you for the welcome

Thanks for the advice guys and I will take it all on board and have already bought pomegranate juice now so I can cover all bases. How much pomegranate do you have on a daily basis?
I understand where you are coming from regarding the fatty deposits inside the arteries but I lost all the weight by age 20 and was fine for the last 5+ years in regards to morning wood and that has been more of the last 5 months I would say.

I personally believe its 85% due to porn making me desensitised to the real thing and this went hand in hand with M.O from an early age where having a girlfriend was not really possible to do these things with. Some I would say is due to inexperience. I don't have cravings for porn but I can think to it if im bored etc.
I think maybe as this had become my realise that its all my body and brain knew that now its changed I cant perform well.

Does M.O/sex hinder progress really though?

Thanks again everyone

[rjc1212]

Thanks for the advice guys and I will take it all on board and have already bought pomegranate juice now so I can cover all bases. How much pomegranate do you have on a daily basis?
I understand where you are coming from regarding the fatty deposits inside the arteries but I lost all the weight by age 20 and was fine for the last 5+ years in regards to morning wood and that has been more of the last 5 months I would say. As for sensitivity its not gone like a have read on some posts its just not like when I was 16 for example.

I personally believe its 85% due to porn making me desensitised to the real thing and this went hand in hand with M.O from an early age where having a girlfriend was not really possible to do these things with. Some I would say is due to inexperience/nerves. I don't have cravings for porn but I can think to it if I'm bored etc.
I think maybe as this had become normal (3 times a day for 10+ years)that its all my body and brain knew and now that its changed I cant perform well and my body doesn't get the same dopamine fix due to no porn?

Does M.O/sex hinder progress really though?

Thanks again everyone

[zezeze]

Your case doesn't sound like a porn related ed. Would be highly recommended to visit a doc and get basic blood work done.

[rjc1212]

Hi, thanks for the reply, I have been to see a urologist and had a blood test done and it said testosterone level was fine. I explained the situation to him and he did a visual hands on check and just sent me for blood tests. I then went to the doctors for another reason and asked him to check the results. He looked and said fine

[Pegasus]

Not a fan of of no fap.

[rjc1212]

Not a fan of of no fap.

so have you overcome ED whilst still masturbating?

I have read that edging actually helped someone overcome there problem and I have just read that it makes things worse? I understand different things work for different people but everything seems to be contradicting, for example doing kegles can make it worse and doing reverse kegles can be harmful to it.

Also with the loss of morning wood I thing maybe as the person above has said it has nothing to do with porn but I don't think its due to blocked arteries, from what I have read kegles helped a lot of people but again as I have wrote above people say its a fine line which can cause the pelvic floor muscles to constantly tense