18 year old trouble with Ed

[nruks Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nruks]

Hi everyone,

I've been having problems lately with ED. Everytime I hook up with a girl I cannot finish. I can get about 60-70% hard, but I have a hard time maintaining an erection while being sexually active. It's weird because I can masterbate just fine, but as soon as I'm with a girl I lose all sense of sexual desire I'm not gay either. I think its some sort of psychological issue. I see a therapist I have depression and suffer from anxiety. If anyone has some suggestions that would be great. I could really use the help. Please ask any questions. Thanks.

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[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Might seem a little odd but try a blindfold - either on her or on you, depending on which you feel would be more helpful. If you think that your ED is psychological and perhaps stems from anxiety or insecurities that you're not going to be able to live up to expectations then oddly a blindfold can help sometimes. On you it can help to kind of mentally remove you from the situation and cut off extraneous visual stimuli that might be subconsciously distracting you. On her it can sometimes lessen the sense of being watched and judged and give more of feeling of control. And at the very least you get to have fun with blindfolds

[OnMyWayThere Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close OnMyWayThere]

How tight is your grip when you masturbate? And welcome to the gym! https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...cess-here.html

[pudendal Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close pudendal]

Do you take any psych meds? Arousal is mediated by your parasympathetic nervous system and can be disturbed by drugs such as TCAs leading to erectile dysfunction. Ejaculation is mediated by sympathetic nervous system and can be disrupted by drugs such as SSRIs leading to anorgasmia.

If you aren't taking any of these medications, your anxiety (sympathetic) may be disturbing your arousal (parasympathetic). Sometimes it's just a matter of getting comfortable with a new girl and you're fine once the nervousness subsides.

[corageon Banned Find all posts View Profile Close corageon]

Do you take any psych meds? Arousal is mediated by your parasympathetic nervous system and can be disturbed by drugs such as TCAs leading to erectile dysfunction. Ejaculation is mediated by sympathetic nervous system and can be disrupted by drugs such as SSRIs leading to anorgasmia.

If you aren't taking any of these medications, your anxiety (sympathetic) may be disturbing your arousal (parasympathetic). Sometimes it's just a matter of getting comfortable with a new girl and you're fine once the nervousness subsides.

Exactly. I was just gonna ask, OP are you taking anti-depressants?

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

I would have to think that medications would affect the overall functioning and arousal, including masturbation which the OP says he has no problems with. If the problem exists solely in certain circumstances then it would seem to me that some correlation exists. If the OP feels that anxiety might be a contributing factor then I say try to find ways to ease that anxiety.

I was going to also point out that a hyper aroused state can also lead to erectile difficulties if it causes an increase in blood pressure, but since the OP states that he ends up with a loss of sexual desire then that doesn't sound like it's the case.

[nruks Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nruks]

Quit porn right now research on here why, take a look at edging and kegals.learn how to prefrom each and your ed will be gone in no time.

Thank you for the advice.

[nruks Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nruks]

Might seem a little odd but try a blindfold - either on her or on you, depending on which you feel would be more helpful. If you think that your ED is psychological and perhaps stems from anxiety or insecurities that you're not going to be able to live up to expectations then oddly a blindfold can help sometimes. On you it can help to kind of mentally remove you from the situation and cut off extraneous visual stimuli that might be subconsciously distracting you. On her it can sometimes lessen the sense of being watched and judged and give more of feeling of control. And at the very least you get to have fun with blindfolds

Very interesting way to look at it. Thanks for the advice.

[nruks Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nruks]

How tight is your grip when you masturbate? And welcome to the gym! https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...cess-here.html

It's tight, my stroke is also fast.

[nruks Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close nruks]

Do you take any psych meds? Arousal is mediated by your parasympathetic nervous system and can be disturbed by drugs such as TCAs leading to erectile dysfunction. Ejaculation is mediated by sympathetic nervous system and can be disrupted by drugs such as SSRIs leading to anorgasmia.

If you aren't taking any of these medications, your anxiety (sympathetic) may be disturbing your arousal (parasympathetic). Sometimes it's just a matter of getting comfortable with a new girl and you're fine once the nervousness subsides.

Yes i do. I am on a drug called seroquel it is an atypical antipsychotic. I take 100 mg daily at bedtime for sleep. It's strange because I can masterbate just fine, but when a girl gets involved it's game over.

[not2big Senior Super ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close not2big]

Most likely you have performance anxiety . I dated my wife for nine months prior to marriage and never had a successful orgasm. On my wedding night we had two mutual orgasms within 15 minutes.

You need to find the proper relaxed, non stressful atmosphere and things should work out.

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Very interesting way to look at it. Thanks for the advice.

You'll find lots of unique advice here, being open-minded is a great thing! You will find that will pay off in your journey.

[OnMyWayThere Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close OnMyWayThere]

It's tight, my stroke is also fast.

This could be a part of it; you could be desensitized from overstimulating yourself. Search for death grip. However, I do also think that a large part of it could be performance anxiety, as not2big suggested.