having sex with Erectile Dysfunction - my experience

**SebiS** · 08-08-2014

@JasonZ
My ED is physiological, and it seems there is no cure for it, so i can't approach women.

Well, we are in the same boat. I have sexual anxiety and I am also 50, so I have to be honest that I do not expect to become a sexual performer a woman wish to have in any future time.
Still you do not have to be so hard to yourself that you will not approach women just because you are not a sexual performer.
A sex worker is a woman and you perform, not fantastic but you perform.
I will not say that you should start searching for a life partner just now, but you should not completely reject the idea that a woman will like you as you are.
Sex could be more divers than only penis in vagina and maybe us that do not rely 100% only on our penis, could better combine everything in a nice sexual play that some women will enjoy.

**not2big** · 08-08-2014

As I mentioned in Jasonx's earlier thread, franktalk.org discusses a number of alternate treatments for sufferers of ED - PE, pills, constriction, pumping, injections, and implants. You should be able to find something that suits your situation.

**Ande1970** · 08-08-2014

Originally Posted by SebiS

@JasonZ
My ED is physiological, and it seems there is no cure for it, so i can't approach women.

Well, we are in the same boat. I have sexual anxiety and I am also 50, so I have to be honest that I do not expect to become a sexual performer a woman wish to have in any future time.
Still you do not have to be so hard to yourself that you will not approach women just because you are not a sexual performer.
A sex worker is a woman and you perform, not fantastic but you perform.
I will not say that you should start searching for a life partner just now, but you should not completely reject the idea that a woman will like you as you are.
Sex could be more divers than only penis in vagina and maybe us that do not rely 100% only on our penis, could better combine everything in a nice sexual play that some women will enjoy.

oh wow i was hoping as i get older my anxiety with sex would be reduce

**JasonZ** · 08-08-2014

not2big, yes, i will try cialis and a penisring. but i don't have money to really afford it all the time. i also fear to try it, because if i take cialis and it doesn't work, it will only make it worse.

calcification inside the erectile tissue is probably not treatable at all. i just hope it doesn't get worse, i am just 31.

**SebiS** · 08-09-2014

Originally Posted by Ande1970

oh wow i was hoping as i get older my anxiety with sex would be reduce

If you are born in 1970 then you should not wait too much. After 50 things start moving lower even if you will become fearless

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I have a huge post here about dealing with sexual performance anxiety.
You just need a right woman for therapeutic sex.
Start admitting that you have psychological ED, accept yourself ,then start trying and keep trying.
I always start my sex session smiling and she ask me. "Hmmm, do you think will work today?" and for example I said "I hope so", then she said "Hope is not enough" and both laughing.
Nice, relaxing, no worries, excellent environment for having sex or failing to have it

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When you will learn to lough about your failure caused by anxiety then you will start your journey toward a cure.

**Orome** · 08-09-2014

Originally Posted by JasonZ

not2big, yes, i will try cialis and a penisring. but i don't have money to really afford it all the time. i also fear to try it, because if i take cialis and it doesn't work, it will only make it worse.

calcification inside the erectile tissue is probably not treatable at all. i just hope it doesn't get worse, i am just 31.

How does nocturnal erections prevent tissue calcification? Do you have peyronie's too? I'm just curious what makes nocturnal erections different from daytime erections. Is there some regenerative process that goes on during nocturnal erections?

**oldbri** · 08-09-2014

As far as I can remember reading in a medical report, when the brain rest (Sleeps) chemicals (Endorphins) are released into the body and these stimulate body cell repair. When you do any physical exercise, or PE your muscles are very slightly expanded beyond their physical capabilities. These damaged muscles repair themselves when the body sleeps and is some times used by the medical profession to speed up tissue repair in accident or surgical patients and they some times use drugs to simulate sleep state, thereby allowing the body to maximise the repair functions.

**JasonZ** · 08-10-2014

when you say peyronie's do you mean a curve in my penis? Well, my dick is straight.

I simply had a huge lack of erections because of the lack of nighttime erections. While other guys have usually five erections that last 20 minutes in the night, i had one or maybe even nothing.

I am healthy in all other aspects, no diabetes, don't smoke. So there is no other explanation for the problem i have than the lack of nighttime erections.