I am planning on marrying a man with erectile dysfunction. I love him very much despite the problem, but it is causing me some stress to think that we won't be able to have a normal sex life. I would like to help him improve the situation before we get married if I can. I have been reading many posts in this forum, but would also like to get feedback on his particular situation in case I'm missing something.
He's currently 39 years old. He reported that the problem started fairly abruptly when he was about 30. He was under a fair amount of stress at the time, so the problem was understandable. However, it never resolved itself. He only gets weak erections now (and for the past nine years). He's able to orgasm and ejaculate when he masturbates. We've never had sex, as we're waiting for marriage.
Shortly after the problem started he saw a doctor and had a variety of different tests done. He doesn't have diabetes or chronic hypertension. His hormone levels are normal. And his nerve function is normal. The doctor told him it was psychological and gave him a prescription for Viagra (50mg). It works for him.
Overall, he's fairly healthy. He doesn't smoke or drink. He eats relatively well. He's not overweight. He's not addicted to porn. He exercises a bit. In the past month, he's started doing Kegels consistently, but there's no obvious improvement yet. He says he doesn't get morning erections, although once or twice a month, he'll get a full erection just before he falls asleep. However, when he's awake, he never gets a full erection.
Does anyone have any idea what the problem is or how it could be improved? My best guess is that he wasn't having erections during that original time of stress and something just stopped functioning. Maybe the blood supply diminished and lack of spontaneous erections now means it just stays bad?
He's currently 39 years old. He reported that the problem started fairly abruptly when he was about 30. He was under a fair amount of stress at the time, so the problem was understandable. However, it never resolved itself. He only gets weak erections now (and for the past nine years). He's able to orgasm and ejaculate when he masturbates. We've never had sex, as we're waiting for marriage.
Shortly after the problem started he saw a doctor and had a variety of different tests done. He doesn't have diabetes or chronic hypertension. His hormone levels are normal. And his nerve function is normal. The doctor told him it was psychological and gave him a prescription for Viagra (50mg). It works for him.
Overall, he's fairly healthy. He doesn't smoke or drink. He eats relatively well. He's not overweight. He's not addicted to porn. He exercises a bit. In the past month, he's started doing Kegels consistently, but there's no obvious improvement yet. He says he doesn't get morning erections, although once or twice a month, he'll get a full erection just before he falls asleep. However, when he's awake, he never gets a full erection.
Does anyone have any idea what the problem is or how it could be improved? My best guess is that he wasn't having erections during that original time of stress and something just stopped functioning. Maybe the blood supply diminished and lack of spontaneous erections now means it just stays bad?
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