26 yr old experiencing ED , help please !

[figurethatout]

Hi,

So, im 26 and moved to las vegas a year a half ago. During my time here there were 2 occasions where i couldnt get hard in situations where i would normally be able to. I thought the first time it was because i didnt find the girl so attractive and the way she kissed turned me off. The second time i was more alarmed because i felt the girl was attractive, but she was very drunk and not kissing back much so thought maybe thats why. Finally, today, i was with this new girl, shes really hot to me and we went out once, today took her out again and ended up at my place, during times when we were out and she came close to me sensually i would get hard, and the first time i took her out and kissed at end of date i also got hard, this time when were at my place we eventually start kissing, touching, etc. I was hard the whole time. Then, i take off her pants, and mine, and from that point on i couldnt get a hard on, totally limp. what the heck!?. take her home after this totally frustrated and worried to be honest that it might be a serious problem. I will try to see a doctor asap.

After the second time above i looked around online and saw that it could be porn-induced ED. I would masturbate here and there before i moved to vegas and use porn but i had a GF for 4 years and didnt really have any problems with erections. After we broke up and i moved to vegas though i started masturbating before bed using porn basically every night. Maybe it was this increase in porn/masturbation thats causing this?

When i read earlier about this i stopped masturbating and watching porn. Lasted about a month but then it creeped in again. Now, im basically masturbating using porn most nights of the week. But after this episode im gonna stop entirely. The reason i started again after stopping earlier was because i thought i mightve found the problem elsewhere and addressed it. That is, i realized i was not getting very much arginine in my diet (bc i have hsv2 and its best to keep arginine levels low to decrease OBs), so i started to be more liberal with my arginine intake. And also, i wasnt doing very much cardio/workouts so thought that might be the problem. So, every morning i do some light/medium workout and get the blood flowing. So with those two things i changed i started being more lax with the porn and masturbation again, but judging on what happened today it didnt fix the problem. So, im thinking it might really be the porn induced ED.

It also might be something more severe. I also started experiencing hair loss in past 2 years. Maybe its a heart disease thing? I will see doctor ASAP but am wondering any opinions from you all,

For what its worth i get morning wood lots of mornings and if i go to the strip club for example i have a hard on while getting lap dances. When i masturbate as well im hard so wtf ?!

I will also note that starting about 2 years ago or so i started noticing that my erection strength started to diminish a little. it wouldnt be like i couldnt get hard and have intercourse, it was just that after having intercourse i couldnt just get hard again like i used to be able to when i was younger. I didnt think much of it and it wasnt too annoying since i was still able to have sex. Now, tho, its very scary and concerning because i dont even have sex and cant get hard. Its so strange and confusing,.. Additionally, i drink somewhat regularly, not every night or anything, and over the past 4-5 years have done ecstacy here and there every couple months. I dont smoke cigarettes, but weed occasionally. Let me know if theres any other info you might want/need to know,

Thank you !

[lilbigman]

Hi figurethatout and welcome to the gym. From what Ive read I would say your ed is most likely psychologically induced and porn is part of that reason. Porn can desensitize your brain to sex. You see these beautiful women with these guys with big dicks doing everything you can possibly imagine. After a while your brain starts to think this is normal. That's a normal sized cock, all women like to take it hard in the ass, and all women orgasm hard everytime. Ohh, and they squirt too. Well that is just not reality, but we condition ourselves to think that it is. It can cause you to feel inadequate or even uninterested because its not wild and crazy enough.

With the first girl, you said it yourself, you were not attracted to her and your body wasn't responding to her bad kissing. I'd have a hard time getting it up too. The second one was attractive, but she was drunk and you didn't want to take advantage of her. Bravo. That is perfectly normal and commendable. As for the last one, I can think of 2 possibilities. One could be performance anxiety. I have had this happen to me before. Really wanted to do it, but my mind kept me thinking that I was inadequate or that I was not going to perform well. It then happened a few more times after that because I was worried that it was going to happen again, and guess what? It happened. Once I realized it was all in my head I haven't had a problem since. The 2nd reason could be similar to girl number 2. You may have a deep rooted sense of morality that makes you worry about passing the hsv2 virus onto her. This could cause your willy to shrink up as well. You have told her right? If not, then I would definitely think that would mess with your head. And would be a pretty shitty thing to do to a person. Even if you have no symptoms and are using condoms, she still has a right to know that the disease is there.

You have hsv2, that means you need to be responsible in both your daily health and in social situations. That also means, stay away from Arginine. The last thing you need to do is to provoke a disease that is in your body. Would you poke a tiger with a stick!? I wouldn't, not even JonPop. I would even go as far as to curb my diet to help reduce symptoms and keep it dormant. Be open and honest with her. Get off the porn. Maybe even get into a PE routine, and ed should be an afterthought. Good luck brother. Be safe, and be smart.

[figurethatout]

thanks for the response. we met up again today, and this time my wang came thru. worked fine. i havent told her about hsv2 yet, i used a condom of course and have no symptoms. Its very hard with hsv2 to come out and tell a girl beforehand. I usually have sex with the girl first, with a condom of course, and then after that first encounter tell them. I find that it works much better than telling them beforehand. I know it sounds very selfish, but it is very hard to understand if you dont have hsv. Anyways, we dont need to have a discussion here about that. However, i never thought of the hsv thing perhaps having a psychological effect on me and affect my erections. I wonder if thats contributing. I mean, i def have deep thoughts about all this stuff so its def a possibility.

im still going to see a doc jus to make sure it isnt something more serious like MS or heart disease. But, i was much reassured with todays performance. Of course now comes the tough part of telling her i have hsv2. But, it must be done.

The arginine thing is a very tricky one. I mean, arginine is important in our bodies. So, its a tough spot. I basically limited arginine VERY STRINGENTLY for 3 years. Like never any chocolate, nuts, etc. Whenever i was getting a smoothie, or some meal i would google the arginine to lysine ratio to see if it was fine (even stopped eating onions, mushrooms, green onions, thai curry [bc of coconut milk], among others). However, after 2 years of doing that i noticed my hair falling out and weaker erections. Now, we cant say for sure that it was the arginine BUT it turns out arginine is very important for those two things (among others).

So, as you can see im in a weird, tough spot.

In the end, barring it being something serious, im thinking it is a couple of contributing factors:
1)porn and masturbation becoming a nightly habit for past 2 years (and being a fairly often habit for years before that)
2)limiting arginine so stringently
3)some other factors like poor circulation due to not much cardio/working out

thanks again for the response,

[White_Hawk]

Did you ever jelq?

[White_Hawk]

Btw I think you're 100% fine since you get morning wood. Also, tell me: is it easier for you to keep your wood when laying down or standing up?

[figurethatout]

ive never jelq'd before. I def get morning wood and hard ons here and there thru out the day. But, how to explain the "weakening" of erection strength? Like, in the past i could have sex, cum, get aroused, and be hard again very quickly. Im only 26 and its not the same anymore. As for if its easier to keep my wood when laying down or standing up... idk? not sure what you mean... I think maybe its easier when standing up? Or it feels stronger when standing up? lol, not sure if thats what youre asking

[White_Hawk]

ive never jelq'd before. I def get morning wood and hard ons here and there thru out the day. But, how to explain the "weakening" of erection strength? Like, in the past i could have sex, cum, get aroused, and be hard again very quickly. Im only 26 and its not the same anymore. As for if its easier to keep my wood when laying down or standing up... idk? not sure what you mean... I think maybe its easier when standing up? Or it feels stronger when standing up? lol, not sure if thats what youre asking

Yeah thats what I was asking. Ok man you're fine-- trust me.

[John Dough]

There are other things you can do to reduce hsv2 outbreaks besides limiting arginine intake. Monolaurin is an extract from coconut oil that removes the protective lipid cover from the herpes virus, allowing your immune system to control the virus more effectively. The other thing that works by the same method is BHT (Butylated hydroxytoluene), a common food preservative.

BHT and the silent epidemic...Herpes

Monolaurin Herpes Treatment: About Lauricidin - Just Herpes

[figurethatout]

yeah, i eat a tablespoon of coconut oil every day now. Also, a supplement that has lysine, vitamin C, and zinc. And i have some topical treatments for when i actually have an OB. (im trying to not use the pharmaceuticals, i used to in the past).

anyways, recently i slept with a different girl and my dick worked totally fine. I was so happy that i would get a hard on so easily. But i think i noticed that it makes a big difference the interaction with the girls nowadays. Like if the girl is kissing me and getting me aroused i easily get a hard on. However, if she just lies there i cant just get a hard on on demand. But i used to be able to when i was younger. Anything notable about that?

btw im attempting to go entirely without fapping and espcially fapping with porn. totally cutting off porn. if i do fap ill make myself use my head to envision a sexual encounter in the past. i find the orgasms are better this way anyways. but mostly i think im going to try and lay off entirely for a while and see if that helps. still gonna check some stuff at the doc jus in case tho,

[lilbigman]

I'm sorry, but I gotta say something here. Did you just say that you slept with her, but didn't tell her? And then you recently slept with another one? I am assuming you didn't tell her either. I understand that you wear a condom and risk of transmission is lower if you are not currently having an outbreak, but cmon man! Seriously!? I'm sorry but this seems wrong to me. I remember when I was on CL and looking for a friend with benefits I came across a post that turned out to be a rant. She was upset because she hooked up with a guy and contracted hsv2. She felt like her entire life was ruined because of one guy that lied and used her. Don't be that guy man!! Own up to your past mistakes and be responsible with your disease.