What is going on? Erection issues

**JJ42** · 05-10-2015

Hey everyone, I'm in a weird situation. I've lost a lot of weight recently, am on finasteride, have normal blood pressure, work out 6-7x a week, and take a comprehensive daily vitamin.

I met a girl I am very interested in recently. I was able to get somewhat hard with her, but not as hard as I used to. The last time I had sex before her was about six months previous, which was on and off for about twelve hours. When I jack off my erections are hard but I occasionally have issues maintaining if I don't have active physical sensation. For some reason, with this girl who I really like I wasn't able to get hard at all when we were supposed to have sex for the first time. When we kissed after the first date I got hard, and I was hard, albeit a tiny bit less, when we were messing around before. Yesterday we tried again, and for most of the night I was 0 erection until I started getting her off, then I got hard and was able to have sex at the end of the night. EQ was not as good as when I jack off (the night before, I was harder than I had been in a while because I edged myself without finishing).

One thing I did a lot of was using snapchat to get me off, sending pictures to girls and getting them turned on and receiving some back. That gets me incredibly hard and I can jack off for over an hour doing this. I feel like I'm having some form of psychological ed (because physically I can get hard just with the proper motivation, which seems to only be snapchat). Can you guys give me some advice? I'm thinking of cutting the snapchat out entirely due to the nature of the excitement, but what else can I do? It's not physical if I'm getting hard, but only on my own stimulation or almost randomly with the girl? I need some advice! Thanks

**JJ42** · 05-10-2015

Meant to add, sex on and off the last time before her was getting hard fast and full erections for the entire time. Like an 8.5+EQ, then I focused on getting lean over women and drinking and binged on the snapchat every night as I'd masturbate

**Straw Bat** · 05-10-2015

Had a problem with artificial stimulation. I get hornier with screens etc than with real women. If I raise my arousal too far above what is normal with a real woman, for too long, I'm left with an arousal debt to pay.

It gets better, presuming you have the same problem I did.

**JJ42** · 05-10-2015

So you cut yourself off?

**Straw Bat** · 05-10-2015

Yes of course. Sex is improved, I still fantasize alot but I don't get any stimulation outside a vagina/mouth. If I were single, and not sexually active, I'd be masturbating to imagination exclusively.

Kind of sucks, and a little unfair how it doesn't effect everybody in the same way.

**corageon** · 05-11-2015

OP - Your issue is almost certainly NOT organic/vascular and not a result of hormone/neural deficiency either, because you can get off of photos alone! It's likely adaptive response or a mild form of de-sensitization coupled with performance anxiety...you need to re-adjust your mind and the way you see your girl.

**JJ42** · 05-12-2015

Originally Posted by corageon

OP - Your issue is almost certainly NOT organic/vascular and not a result of hormone/neural deficiency either, because you can get off of photos alone! It's likely adaptive response or a mild form of de-sensitization coupled with performance anxiety...you need to re-adjust your mind and the way you see your girl.

Thank you for that! I think I might give up the snapchat, what's the recommended "recovery" period for this kind of stuff? What should I do? My erections aren't great without snapchat getting me off so that might be it! Any other recs?

**Straw Bat** · 05-14-2015

Yeah sounds like it.

The peak of the condition is called PIED - porn induced erectile dysfunction. I'll let you do your own research and come to your own conclusions there.

My lady and I note a 2 month period between me having a porn binge (my erections get spongy the next day), and my libido returning. You should desist all forms of stimulation which get you to that highly aroused point. That includes laying in bed fantasizing heavily.

By avoiding hitting that level of arousal, you'll be able to hit that same level of arousal with real women eventually.

**JJ42** · 05-14-2015

Bizarrely enough I was able to get a good erection last night with no pictures or video, and had a few hard ons over night. I'm definitely moving in the right direction! No more snapchat for getting off

**JJ42** · 05-14-2015

I think I was over training.

I've cleaned up my diet (mainly got rid of diet soda and excessive caffeine), and now instead of training seven days a week I bumped it down to six with less intensity on those six days. Lowered my fin intake to a little less than 1mg per day. No more snapchat aggressiveness. All of this seems to be pushing me in the right direction.