My Biggest issue

[Hound]

My biggest issue is finding a woman who can get me rock hard or even put in the effort to get me rock hard. Whenever I have sex I might be 70-75% hard and I don't know why. I mean I have met women before that just get me and I get hard like a teenager and the ting turns purple but they are few and far between. I have no problem getting hard but I have a problem getting all the way hard and then I can really get off because they just don't have what it takes. WTF MATE?

Current woman I am sleeping with for a year now I told her I was unhappy with our sex life and well she pretty much gave up on me. She wants to be with me but doesn't want to put in the effort; however I am basically expected to make it happen for her so she can give me a 15 minute BJ and rollover and quit on me before I get mine. In a year she may have got me like 10 times max and I think I am giving her some. She just doesn't try.

Personally I think this is a Psychological issue for me not getting all the way hard because I automatically expect I am not getting off.

I do watch porn but not religiously, I do jerk off and am cutting back because it is usually at least twice a day, I PE and I am actually in great health. I did have heart surgery like three years ago but it was to get a pacemaker put in. I eat healthy, I am very active for the most part. I have hobbies.

Kinda stumped here I think it boils down to the fact it just requires that one FREAK to get me going. ANY IDEAS? Anyone? I am open to anything here

[Dangler]

I will throw a couple of darts at the wall, ok ?

Sounds like neither one of you is really 'into' each other (anymore?), kind of like just for convenience.
JO(2x a day) and some porn is taking the place of whats 'not there' in the 'relationship of sorts'.

Perhaps if you both looked into some relationship counseling, together, you could both re-ignite something.

[Hound]

I will throw a couple of darts at the wall, ok ?

Sounds like neither one of you is really 'into' each other (anymore?), kind of like just for convenience.
JO(2x a day) and some porn is taking the place of whats 'not there' in the 'relationship of sorts'.

Perhaps if you both looked into some relationship counseling, together, you could both re-ignite something.

Well I was honestly never really into her that much and have told her I really want nothing to do with her based on the fact I have no real interest and our values are different but she always comes back and begs me to hang out then she will give me the 100% treatment. I understand the relationship part lol. I am going to school for that. I am just getting at the Hard ons. We don't need counseling as a couple but she needs it as an individual and I am already getting it as an individual. Our relationship is primarily sex anyhow and I really do not find her in the attraction bracket I need her to be. She is the perfect all around woman for the most part but has been damaged too much in the past which makes her hateful and it overflows on me then she thinks I need to just deal with it until I tell her that aint me .... been there done that aint dealing with it again Home slice. Ya know? The she realizes what she did and cries her way back close enough to work the black magic and I steadily get further and further from her. She just doesn't get it.

I need the woman who can light my fire and keep it going with out putting it out and restarting it.



But ys the porn is a basic "Band-Aid" for what I want and am not getting. Bad thing is that where I am now the population is limited to Married chicks, Ugly chicks and Meth Head chicks. Unless I drive far away SOOOOO I am kind stuck with work and kids at the moment which is fine and I am in no hurry but it sure would be nice to find that woman again. My kids mom was that woman and she had a melt down which caused my jump into counseling/psychology/Relationship coaching....I am not the best there is but I have a very strong grip on it. Anyway the kids mom put a dent in me with her PERSONA. Great woman and a freak but had a melt down. She is constantly doing the push and pull BS with me for the last 4 years and it is really annoying but seems like she is ready to come back about any day.

MAIN TOPIC.....I want my rock hard boners again like when I clamp LOL. Just dunno if its a ED thing or my idea of the psychological think which I would almost bet on. Kinda like I see a woman and want to have sex with her but almost feel she needs to work for it or she is flat out not good enough for the whole thing.

[THOTbreaker]

Have you ever tried a cock ring?

[Hound]

Yeah and they are fine when I can get them to work but it seems to be getting the overall sexual excitement and flow going to start

[THOTbreaker]

I had a similar problem with my ex. I could not get all the way hard I tried cock ring and cutting down on porn and it did not help much. It just came down to attraction, it was not there so I had to end it.

[Hound]

I had a similar problem with my ex. I could not get all the way hard I tried cock ring and cutting down on porn and it did not help much. It just came down to attraction, it was not there so I had to end it.

I feel ya man...Just sucks and I am sure that it has a lot to do with my "promiscuity" and now understanding just what it takes to get me going. Double edged sword I guess. I meet a lot of REALLY REALLY GREAT Women but they just lack the want or interest in making sex Exciting. Its not a thing to them like it is me. However you do find those ones every now and then. Like I am building my "total package" I am setting the bar high and expecting them to do the same. Also I don't hide that from them I clearly state my expectations of them and what I mean exactly by them. Not looking for perfect...Just perfect for me. Oh well. Anyway can you recommend a good cock ring? I seem to get junkie ones that don't hold back the flow properly

[THOTbreaker]

Its more about personal preference. I have used the leather ring with snaps in the past . I recently switched over to a jelly doughnut style cock ring I find it much more comfortable. Never tried solid metal ring I am afraid I would not be able to get it back off.