Age 50 - what is going on ?

[Hiplainsdrifter]

My story is kind iof long. My 25 year sexless marriage ended last year. I had no real signs of ED. Near the end, I met a very attractive younger divorced woman. We had quite a few drinks and went back to her place to get it on. I could NOt get it up at all despite our efforts. She didn't care in the least. I panicked and ran out immediately to get a script for Viagra. I've used it 98% of the time we have sex.

I think I've developed a dependency because I have a difficult time getting getting hard with her when I don't pop a pill. However, I usually get very good morning erections. I went to a sex therapist and she thinks it's all anxiety.

Fast forward and we are now engaged and my fiancée knows about the pills ... she wants me to keep taking them because she knows my reaction when I fail to get hard. She says she likes when I take a whole pill - 100mg (:

My dilemma is this - I'm 50, I definitely have a little harder time getting it up than my younger days, but I know I can have a good solid erection without pillls, this happened three weeks and I actually hurt her. However, I do NOT want to take Visgra the rest of my life. Although it does improve my erection - I don't have to think about it.

I am thinking of taking it on weekends and roll the dice during the week until I get more comfortable with her. She does intimidate me to a degree as she always been with younger guys. She was married for 9 years. She's 44 years old. BTW - physically everything checked out perfect and I'm in good shape, working out daily. My doc said, everyone has different quality of erections, if you need s boost, take a boost. MOT whet I wanted to hear.

Let me add that Viagra would've helped me in my 20's and I had NO problems then (;

My question is - where should I go from here ? quit Viagra cold turkey ? Or use it for fun ? Or use it all the time ?

[CUSP82]

How about doing some pe and get your friend in better shape?

[GTO]

How about doing some pe and get your friend in better shape?

That would certainly help. I'd use a combo approach - start stamina exercises and maybe some light jelqing and slowly wean yourself off of the meds since that's a concern for you.

[Diggy12]

There is nothing wrong with you . Just performance anxiety . The base for erections is nitric oxide which you have plenty of or the Viagra would not work . But a natural way of boosting nitric oxide is l citrulline 2 to 3 grams a day if you are not on any blood thinning medications . If so check with your doc

[Tamora]

I remember when I got divorced (married for 20 years) I had the same problem of not being able to "get it up" with the first couple of women I had sex with. I soon realized that my anxiety was caused by some weird sub-conscious loyalty towards my ex...25 years (in your case) is a long time even if it was sexless. For me, it took several years to overcome. Maybe something to consider in your case also?

[Hiplainsdrifter]

There is nothing wrong with you . Just performance anxiety . The base for erections is nitric oxide which you have plenty of or the Viagra would not work . But a natural way of boosting nitric oxide is l citrulline 2 to 3 grams a day if you are not on any blood thinning medications . If so check with your doc

Thanks, that's what I think since my morning erections are solid. I'm thinking of having sex in the mornings without V to gain some confidence back. Also, started the L Citrulline among ago. It works... after two days we had sex without V for the first time in a few months. With that being said, Viagra does provide a nice little boost ....would've improved my erections 20 years ago. Might just keep it going periodically for fun. It takes FOREVER to cum though

[Hiplainsdrifter]

I remember when I got divorced (married for 20 years) I had the same problem of not being able to "get it up" with the first couple of women I had sex with. I soon realized that my anxiety was caused by some weird sub-conscious loyalty towards my ex...25 years (in your case) is a long time even if it was sexless. For me, it took several years to overcome. Maybe something to consider in your case also?

It must be psychological - last year I had sex twice with my ex and I was really hammered on one occasion. And everything worked fine. Maybe I'm too focused on performing for this new girl ( who is now my fiancée)

[Tamora]

It must be psychological - last year I had sex twice with my ex and I was really hammered on one occasion. And everything worked fine. Maybe I'm too focused on performing for this new girl ( who is now my fiancée)

I think you've just answered your own question!

[lilbigman]

Some of it is anxiety and some of it is age. Hate to say it but facts are facts. A mans testosterone levels start to drop in their mid 30's. And all the artery clogging deep fried foods and bacon this and that we eat starts to catch up to us. Testosterone and circulation can both be increased with exercise and healthy diet. Or you can be lazy like me and take L-Arginine for circulation (don't take if you have low blood pressure) and Tribulus for testosterone. Heheheheheh, no I'm just kidding I still do exercise and eat right, but these 2 natural supplements will make you feel like your 20 again and you won't need any viagra. The L-Arginine alone would probably do the trick and it is a very good supplement for the heart. Do the research yourself on them and make sure you talk to your doctor before taking anything especially if you are on blood pressure medication, thinners, nitro's, ect... I normaly would suggest a light jelq routine with both regular and reverse kegals to help balance your pelvic floor, but since you feel dependent upon this pill, I would hope to sway you over to a more natural and healthy supplementation. Good luck brother.

[Hiplainsdrifter]

Some of it is anxiety and some of it is age. Hate to say it but facts are facts. A mans testosterone levels start to drop in their mid 30's. And all the artery clogging deep fried foods and bacon this and that we eat starts to catch up to us. Testosterone and circulation can both be increased with exercise and healthy diet. Or you can be lazy like me and take L-Arginine for circulation (don't take if you have low blood pressure) and Tribulus for testosterone. Heheheheheh, no I'm just kidding I still do exercise and eat right, but these 2 natural supplements will make you feel like your 20 again and you won't need any viagra. The L-Arginine alone would probably do the trick and it is a very good supplement for the heart. Do the research yourself on them and make sure you talk to your doctor before taking anything especially if you are on blood pressure medication, thinners, nitro's, ect... I normaly would suggest a light jelq routine with both regular and reverse kegals to help balance your pelvic floor, but since you feel dependent upon this pill, I would hope to sway you over to a more natural and healthy supplementation. Good luck brother.

I had a complete blood work up. Everything checked out great...And blood pressure perfect. I'm not on any meds, hit the gym 6 times a week. I'm 5'10" 172 lbs. t level is 527. Doc said don't change a thing.

However, I've noticed that spontaneous erections are a thing if the past and sensitivity is not what is used to be. That said, I sure can last a LONG time