Hi All,
I have severe delayed ejaculation to the extent that even masturbation is difficult. It usually takes me at least 30 minutes to orgasm/ejaculate during masturbation. To orgasm I usually have to thrash around, rub fast and hard, but the fantasy has to be perfect too, enough visual stimulation and mental fantasy is critical because my penis doesn't feel sexual pleasure from being massaged (I'd describe my sexually insensitive cock like my arm, my arm is sensitive to touch but of course I could rub/massage my arm all day long and I wont orgasm). I've tried everything to improve my condition, abstaining, using different techniques, meditation, had a testosterone test etc, but the problem remains.
I have a high sex drive, think of girls and sex all the time, feel the urge to masturbate all the time (I usually masturbate every other day due to my long refractory period). But I have NEVER ejaculated in the presence of a girl, intercourse, oral, whatever, nothing gets me even close.
There are lots of useful threads in this forum where delayed/retarded ejaculation is discussed, and I've read a lot of them. My question is not about how my problem can be fixed/improved because I don't believe it can (and other threads discuss this anyway), but how can a man live when he knows he's incapable of satisfying a women, incapable of a normal loving relationship. I've had many failed encounters with women. Even if I found a women who would accept me, how could I ever accept myself, I'd always feel like an inadequate loser. In my position what is there to live for?
Thanks
Edit : I guess the title is slightly wrong, but my point is living with a penis that doesn't work whatever the cause.
I have severe delayed ejaculation to the extent that even masturbation is difficult. It usually takes me at least 30 minutes to orgasm/ejaculate during masturbation. To orgasm I usually have to thrash around, rub fast and hard, but the fantasy has to be perfect too, enough visual stimulation and mental fantasy is critical because my penis doesn't feel sexual pleasure from being massaged (I'd describe my sexually insensitive cock like my arm, my arm is sensitive to touch but of course I could rub/massage my arm all day long and I wont orgasm). I've tried everything to improve my condition, abstaining, using different techniques, meditation, had a testosterone test etc, but the problem remains.
I have a high sex drive, think of girls and sex all the time, feel the urge to masturbate all the time (I usually masturbate every other day due to my long refractory period). But I have NEVER ejaculated in the presence of a girl, intercourse, oral, whatever, nothing gets me even close.
There are lots of useful threads in this forum where delayed/retarded ejaculation is discussed, and I've read a lot of them. My question is not about how my problem can be fixed/improved because I don't believe it can (and other threads discuss this anyway), but how can a man live when he knows he's incapable of satisfying a women, incapable of a normal loving relationship. I've had many failed encounters with women. Even if I found a women who would accept me, how could I ever accept myself, I'd always feel like an inadequate loser. In my position what is there to live for?
Thanks
Edit : I guess the title is slightly wrong, but my point is living with a penis that doesn't work whatever the cause.
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