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  • I miss my penis.

    Kmkm
    Last edited by Piikm; 08-09-2018, 12:25 PM.

  • #2
    It sounds like you have a decent idea of part of the problem (ie Stress, the smoking, and the mental issues)

    First, I would recommend that you see a doctor to try to work through your issues about the passing of your wife, as I am sure this is placing a tremendous amount of stress on you. Cortisol does incredible damage to your body, especially when you are in a high stress mode as your body secretes greater quantities of it.

    Next, you need to find a way to start eating a bit better, and maybe exercising. I know many probably say you need to quit smoking which is easy to say, but this is something that you have to really want to do for yourself, and not because someone is telling you to do so. My father was exactly like that and his family would always try to pressure him into quitting, and he would try, but since his heart wasn't in it, each attempt failed.

    Another thing is you should try the AP90 program to see if you can ween yourself off porn. I have been on the AP90 program and am past the halfway point and it has made a great deal of difference in my EQ and how frequently I get an erection as well.
    Start 08/15/15 (measurements using bathmate measuring device)
    BPEL: 5.75"
    EG: 5.5"

    10/15/18
    BPEL: 6.9"
    BEG: 6.5"
    MEG: 6.25"

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    • #3
      I agree with LongNThick, get past the grieving stage, end smoking, and get healthy.

      -Smoking can actually lead to impotence due to the fact that it clogs arteries, and smoking is a slowly creeping type of thing, and even when you quit, the toxins don't completely leave. In my past experience I replaced my addiction to working out. Many cleanses help release toxins, and stress. Seeing a therapist can also help just to release any stress, and help you get over all that is happening.

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      • #4
        Kmkm
        Last edited by Piikm; 08-09-2018, 12:24 PM.

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        • #5
          Sorry but there is no quick fix. Your issues are years in the making therefore they won't be healed quickly. If you're willing to work at it then we're willing to help.
          The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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          • #6
            You aren't going to want to hear what I have to say, but you are aomost definitely a sex addict. Saying that you've had to stop the car or rub one out at work? That is not normal. Many men eventually run into erectile problems after dealing with sex addiction for long periods of time. Porn is also known to cause problems like this over the course of a long time.

            You should seek help for your sexual addiction first then you will maybe be ready to have a healthy relationship. As someone who faced severe addiction myself and grew up with it around me, I'm not gonna play the politically correct guy and act like I don't see a pattern. If you want your life to improve in every aspect, you are going to have to make a change.
            Focus on the positive :D
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            The dog in the bun represents my lifetime goal.

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            • #7
              Kmkm
              Last edited by Piikm; 08-09-2018, 12:24 PM.

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              • #8
                Cut out porn, start eating better and exercising. These should help a bit, but when you can, I think you really need to see someone to deal with your mental well being as well.

                If you have a healthy body but a tormented and stressed mind, it is not going to work.
                Start 08/15/15 (measurements using bathmate measuring device)
                BPEL: 5.75"
                EG: 5.5"

                10/15/18
                BPEL: 6.9"
                BEG: 6.5"
                MEG: 6.25"

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                • #9
                  I don't have the time or the money for medical or psychological help tho

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                  • #10
                    You don't need money to get what we have here. You need time to listen, to read, and to help heal yourself. You come here with a broken arm and you want us to find a way to heal it in 2 hours well it can't happen. If you're willing to put in the time and learn only then will healing begin!
                    The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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                    • #11
                      Any support groups near you? That may offer a little help.
                      Start 08/15/15 (measurements using bathmate measuring device)
                      BPEL: 5.75"
                      EG: 5.5"

                      10/15/18
                      BPEL: 6.9"
                      BEG: 6.5"
                      MEG: 6.25"

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                      • #12
                        Kmkm
                        Last edited by Piikm; 08-09-2018, 12:22 PM.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Piikm View Post
                          Now I don't think it's completely ED...instead something is "wrong" with me.
                          I'll get to this later.

                          Originally posted by Piikm View Post
                          From the time I started having sex (15) I was ADDICTED.
                          Mmhmm.

                          Originally posted by Piikm View Post
                          Masturbating, porn, random women, women I was unattractive too, acts some would say are wierd, etc..
                          Bring out the peanuts.

                          Originally posted by Piikm View Post
                          Almost every woman I was with would say how good of a lover I was (which lead to more sex as they "shared" me between friends)
                          So unlike some, you are experienced and this is not an issue. Scratch that off your list.
                          Your instincts are still there.


                          Originally posted by Piikm View Post
                          I ended up meeting my wife when I was 22 and having a child.
                          Well that's gotta be stressful at that Age; there's the first whirlwind of Stress.

                          Originally posted by Piikm View Post
                          Even up to last year I would find myself at times needing to Masturbate at work or even pulling over while driving to bang one out.
                          Classic sexual compulsions. This itself isn't bad - but the excessive wanking and ejaculating has probably created a form of 'burnout'...either on your adrenal glands or with your pituitary gland...you are getting older now...so your Prolactin is probably a little elevated with all of this.
                          Originally posted by Piikm View Post
                          I'd get these rock hard almost painful boners, and admittedly I get "boner dumb" and my need to orgasm would trump rational thought (hence my cheating or Masturbating in odd places)
                          I used porn maybe every other day and my very unsexual wife would give me sex maybe once a week. She wasnt a "giver" but when in the sack she was very open to me being a bit of a "perv" so it was always worth the wait. Great oral, anal, dirty talk etc..

                          So..
                          She passed away in Feb. of this year from complications due to epilepsy.
                          Right away I'm guessing, and so are many of you, that this is a stress/anxiety issue...and you may be right, but let me keep going.

                          A month after she passed, frustrated as I always was sexually I seeked out a "friend" always willing to help.
                          Between March and April I had sex with her or meet ups for me to receive oral. Even maintaining a putting on a performance for a video she wanted to make.

                          We parted ways....and the problems started.

                          I met another girl in May and traveled to see her. Everything was fine all night. During foreplay my penis was ready to go (my black briefs were stained to hell with pre-cum)
                          But when we moved to the bedroom...my erection died. We kept trying. Oral would make it hop up for a few seconds...but it would always go soft moments later. We tried for hours but I just couldn't maintain my erection long enough to insert it and if I did I would lose it moments later.
                          I ended things...I couldn't face her ever again.

                          3 weeks later (end of May) I met what some would say is a perfect 10.
                          First date, mutual oral and no problem.
                          So a lot of stress, and everythings fine up until this point; where things went south.
                          Originally posted by Piikm View Post
                          This date and we got a hotel room. Didn't go great at all. Watching this beauty above me and I still couldn't get hard. Ended up working for a few moments but not being able to ejaculate. A week later at her house and she leans in and says "I want to sit on your d*ck"...now, this is a perfect 10 with fake breast saying this and...nothing..my penis stayed soft. She cried and asked me to leave. She went away for a week and we chatted via text and planned another try.
                          It went off great. Had great sex that night on her return.
                          Over the next 2 months we had great adventurous sex...I operated at maybe 90% effectiveness. Always hard for oral or when offered anal sex. 50% of the time I would lose it if she was on top (which lead to her breaking up with me) 2 or 3 times it didn't work at all again. Changing positions was always tricky. Where I once was like an acrobat now I was losing it if I wasn't using it for a few seconds.

                          Now here I am with my current GF...and it's been a mess. She's a little more reserved then my past GF but she beautiful and I think in my head "I'm gonna destroy this chick's pu**y" and I'm ready to go..accept my penis isnt.
                          I don't get an erection or I lose it just moments in. I get her to give me oral and get it back, then lose it.
                          I find myself getting it then going really fast to ejaculate so I don't lose it. Basically having 2 min of sex so I don't lose it.
                          Twice I found I could maintain, just barely, if I was still dressed except for my pants down a little bit.
                          This Sat we tried and I could do it. After quiting trying we snuggled and I found my self touching her from behind. It aroused me enough to enter her from behind and pump it hard and fast for like 30sec so I could cum.

                          So there's where I am.
                          I've never been very healthy. Always smoked (maybe more now)
                          Always been a stressed person (maybe more now a little)
                          I work out..a little bit.

                          I'm guessing it's stress related, maybe a little porn related.
                          I need help. I miss the sex I used to have and give. I can only give so much oral.
                          Please please please help...I've actually had moments crying due to the embarassment.
                          Check your Prolactin levels brother! Or even try something called mucuna pruriens extract 40% > L-DOPA and also pick up some 'Swedish Flower Pollen' - you need to rejuvenate your entire endocrine system and GET OUTTA YOUR HEAD!!

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                          • #14
                            Dude, quit smoking, hit the gym. You are 6;2" and scrawny as hell. Maybe not an issue, but damn, I haven't been under 170 since 5th grade. Start edging, a lot. Third, I think your biggest problem is confidence. I've always noticed my EQ with women has to do with confidence. When I feel like I own the woman, my EQ is perfect. When I'm insecure in any way, even when I should be secure, my EQ is not the best. That's my advice. You need to own these women. I don't mean in a negative way. But you're the man. You take control. You run the show. Just seeing my girl in her panties, or a bikini, that perfect body, she makes me rock. I look at her, and she knows what my eyes are saying. She knows I"m the boss. I run shit. My dick is what she wants, and I give it to her.
                            Start 3.16.15 - 7bpel, 6bpel, 5meg

                            Current 1.19.16 - 7.85bpel, 6.6nbpel, 5.3meg

                            Goal 1.19.17 - 8.5bpel, 7.5nbpel, 5.75meg

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