i think it's more performance anxiety

[MyNewAdventure]

Over the last year - i Have went from being a man who had 1 sexual partner (a woman who completely owned my balls) to a man who has to routinely drop women in order to keep sane =) using forums on line that teach men about women... I now currently have 2 AWESOME FBs who are the perfect women for me in bed (i hand picked them for this reason)

But here i sit; sick to my stomach... shaking.... fighting back tears... I feel more helpless than i ever did when i was bad with women...

Because what good is a HB FB when i can't use them! Yeah, im experiencing an extremely bad case of "unable to get hard"...

The story starts 5 months ago... I routinely could have sex with a girl, climax, go again without break, climax, and then go again one more time without a break (3-4 hours straight of sex)... "im a sex god" i felt in side... the number of women who told me i was some kind of SEX MACHINE who FVCKED them like they'd never had - was about 8 out of 10.
My sex drive seemed to be endless...

around november - i lost this ability... could pretty much only go once (occasionally twice)... didn't question it, instead i just learned to last a lot longer the first time...

Then about Jan 4th of this year, i started to experience loss of feeling if i pulled out to change positions with a woman... Like if we were doing missionary and we switched to doggy - if we took longer than 10 seconds or something - i'd lose my erection.... well this was of some concern - but i figured it would pass.... to deal with it - i just don't change positions....

Saturday came (Jan 16th) and one of my FBs is over (FB1(. We're having laughing, flirting, you know - mental foreplay. It gets hot, we strip down... i get hard... i go to put it in and AS SOON AS I ENTER HER IT GETS LIMP!

wha??? she's like "what's wrong baby?" and i say, "nothing" and try to jerk myself hard again.... no go... she gives me head and gets me hard (although not all the way).... same result.... we repeat this process 4 times before giving up... "tthis has never happened" i tell her, "i'll make sure i rock your world extra hard next time i see you.

on tuesday, my other FB came over. (FB2) - - - same result as FB1 - except she was able to get me to cum from the head, but i still wasn't hard all the way... and was never able to penetrate her...

today comes, and FB1 is back to get her world "rocked extra hard" as i promised her. instead of getting right into it - i want to massage her, this gives me a chance to get turned on by touching her body and me to get myself hard.... or at least that was the plan.... 50 minutes into the massage.... i look like i have a little kids dick.... shriveled and almost sucked into my body.....

needless to say - as strong as my frame is.... it's hard to remain a rock when something like this is happening... and FB1 was visually not pleased..... she even said that she thinks that she's not turning me on anymore... i tried some king of comeback that was supposed to deflect what she said, but with the state i was in physically and mentally - i doubt i had any kind of alpha effect. well... i think her and i are pretty much done...

FB2 is supposed to come over saturday, but i think im going to cancel.......


there's so many things going through my head right now....
im not going to be able to sleep now...
im sick sick sick to my stomach...
my penis hasn't gotten really hard in a week or so.... except for some mild morning wood yesturday morning...

this has the potentional to shatter both of my relations and ruin my confidence as a new man...

im just scared.... for the first time since my frist approach... im clueless... and just feel like giving up.... why would i finally get good with women after many years of failing only to have something like this happen?
can i fix this or so i need to get viagra or something?

im 28
workout 3-4 times a week
have a low stress job
and am ashamed of myself right now.... ashamed!

[MyNewAdventure]

i've updated the story and added A LOT more detail...

hope it helps get some responses...

[kingpole]

Don't feel shame. This only adds to the problem. Waht are youn injesting, to much beer perhaps?

[happy_accidents3]

Are you interested in casual sex still? I know it may sound crazy but do ever feel yourself wanting a more serious relationship? Maybe deep down the sex just feels empty to you.

[maelsukr]

I think all of the answers are in your post. You, indeed, may THINK too much .

[Abrey]

Dude same here I could go for hours and now I switch positions and all that it gets soft. I am still working on it it's been a year since it started my girl saids I'm puting to much thought in it idk I could go for hours non stop and now my labido is ehh

[MyNewAdventure]

Don't feel shame. This only adds to the problem. Waht are youn injesting, to much beer perhaps?

Well, the day it happened first (saturday) - i had had 3 glasses of white wine. But since then - i haven't drank a bit and have started taking about 10 supplements that are supposed to improve circulation.

Are you interested in casual sex still? I know it may sound crazy but do ever feel yourself wanting a more serious relationship? Maybe deep down the sex just feels empty to you.

I actually don't consider this true casual sex since these 2 girls are girls i've been involved with for months... I'm not into the whole one night stand thing... but honestly, i can't think of the last time i saw a girl and felt instant hornieness... so maybe i do desire more than physical flesh, but i don't feel like i do...

I think all of the answers are in your post. You, indeed, may THINK too much .

I think you're right (i hope). But how about morning wood? i can't really be thinking of that can i? and i still woke up this morning without it. but i felt so nervous yesturday; just when she sent me the text "i'll be there in 30 minutes" - from the time she sent me that text to the time she got there... i pee'd 4 times!

Dude same here I could go for hours and now I switch positions and all that it gets soft. I am still working on it it's been a year since it started my girl saids I'm puting to much thought in it idk I could go for hours non stop and now my labido is ehh

Yup, even when i got limp from switching positions - the sex was still pretty good though.


- i did baloon the last night without porn.... was able to be pretty erect for the whole time (not a 10, but an 8-9)... but the strange thing was - i had no desire to masterbate.... which every other time i've balooned - i have had a deep desire to.... so a somewhat of a success

[NP97]

Dude... just going to say. Sex while in a relationship is far more rewarding than just sex. Sure, it's fun.... but you feel more of a bond and a connection when you have sex with someone you love. I only had one instance when I was too stressed to get it up with my ex. It was a few days after I told my family I had decided against joining the navy. They were PISSED... I was stressed. I stayed with my ex for a few days... kinda sucked 'cause she was super horny... I just gave her some help down below...
But like I was saying... Love + Sex is better than just sex. Maybe you should try and find that.

[MyNewAdventure]

Ok. So, i had a successful day on friday. FB2 came over, and we went to dinner, came back to my house and watched a movie and drank some (drinking normally makes me more horny)... We make out for a little bit and im not getting hard... so i tell her to give me oral... she does, i get hard.... then i put it in... am able to have intercourse with her for about a minute, i don't really feel anything though and then i go limp.... i pull out and say "i guess you're going to have to do it again" and then we make out for about 3-4 minutes and SUDDENLY i get rock hard and feel a rush go through me.... like the old days!!!!! so i get on top and boom! IT FEELS FANTASTIC! i bust in about 30 seconds lol... i was very happy with that progress.... .... however, im really noticing a lack of sex drive... i don't know if it's a result of all this, or if im just getting old (or something else)... Around Christmas i went and visited my mom for a week, couldn't masturbate or have sex.... by the end of the 7th day - i couldn't stop having an erection (or dirty thoughts)... it was nuts and the ride home on the bumpy road was even worse!!!! ... but now - i got 3-4-5 days without sex or masturbating and i just don't feel arousal at all (don't even wake up with morning wood anymore)... only if i touch myself, or get oral, or a lot of heavy kissing, etc.... seems strange this dramatic change would happen in less than a month (but i guess it could be related to PA?)

[MyNewAdventure]

would balooning a lot more help increase my sex drive do you think?